How many of you have been asked out on an actual date without any kind of sexual expectations attached?

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    Nov 22, 2011 6:42 AM GMT
    I was just sitting here thinking that I don't think I've ever been asked out on an actual date by a guy that I can recall and it really sucks icon_redface.gif. I get asked for hookups and other "nasty" things all the time but nothing more substantial than this. I know that I'm not all that but I'm a very approachable guy, smart, decent personality, career, and committed but haven't had anyone who has shown interest in anything beyond the bedroom with the exception of women. At first, I thought it was because I don't hook up, hangout at clubs/bars or sleep around but quickly realized it's just ridiculous to think this way. I'm starting to think it's something else...icon_question.gificon_question.gificon_question.gificon_neutral.gif.
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    Nov 22, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    I have had lots of dates (asked or did the asking) without expectation of an imminent sexual experience. But there must have been some hope for a sexual experience - if not that night then soon - or there probably would not have been a date. Since I have had a partner for 15+ years, it has been some time since I dated. Maybe times have changed. I would hope that if I were in the market again, there would be actual "dates" instead of all just hookups.

    I don't know about the "something else," but perhaps you are not meeting guys whom you might "date," because you are not in the right locations for meeting people. I don't think that one "meets" anyone on grinder or A4A, etc. (although you might "meat" them.) Most likely, to find someone for a real "date," you have to physically (rather than electronically) meet them first.
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    Nov 22, 2011 8:52 AM GMT
    I have been on many dates before - but in 2011 maybe 1-2 in total. All else - hook-ups. :S

    It really sucks when you think about it, but on the other hand - dates can be so depressing and boring. I try to go out with guys who seem like something could turn out with them, but still - I am so tired of "Trying" to find something good in total idiots. Or even if they are not idiots - simply guys who are not for me.
    So maybe hook-ups aren't so bad after all - at least it's quick and easy.
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    Nov 22, 2011 11:12 AM GMT
    Yup, hook-ups are better. I never ask for dates. So, it's not you OP.

    fulldelight saidI have been on many dates before - but in 2011 maybe 1-2 in total. All else - hook-ups. :S

    It really sucks when you think about it, but on the other hand - dates can be so depressing and boring. I try to go out with guys who seem like something could turn out with them, but still - I am so tired of "Trying" to find something good in total idiots. Or even if they are not idiots - simply guy who are not for me.
    So maybe hook-ups aren't so bad after all - at least it's quick and easy.