stories about Arena Club/Circus in Hollywood, CA? where to meet guys?


  • Nov 22, 2011 7:50 AM GMT
    Hey nice to meet you all, gay guy here who is looking for a long-term relationship. Basically I am looking for that one in a million guy and I want to prevent myself from being 40/50/60 without ever finding love. I am sick of the saying "love comes when you aren't looking" because I believe as a man I SHOULD be looking, a man doesn't "wait" for a guy to come to him, a girl can do that of course but I don't feel a guy should be the chase-ee, unless he wishes too.

    Basically without turning this into my life story, I am in a tough situation because I don't work, I am lucky to have the most awesome parents who are letting me focus on school and will support me until I can support myself, so I am learning music production thru some online schooling, however other than that I don't really "go out" per se. I am really into organic foods and humanely raised animal products so I go to my local health food stores alot, and I'm realizing since I want my guy to be into the same food ideals as myself maybe these health food stores would be a good place to go "hunting" . .

    The reason I am posting this is because there is supposedly a gay club out in Los Angeles/Hollywood (I am in the suburbs of SFV) called Arena or Circus (not sure if there is a difference or same club or what??) supposedly this is where a lot of gay latinos go, and I have come to realize as wrong as it might be to be attracted more-so to a certain race, I would certainly love to meet that one in a million latino or mexican guy who is really that best guy out there. I keep hearing differing things, 1 that clubs aren't good for long-term relationships because guys hook-up there which I am not into, or 2 the other side that some guys go here (masculine laid back guys who I am into) to find dating material . .
    Has anyone been to this club in particular and possibly give me some advice? I know the best way would be go just go and find out for myself, trying to be as least stressed as possible, however I figured I'd come on here and here if anyone has any stories about this place! Hope you all are doing great Nice to meet you again Have a good night
  • calibro

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    Nov 22, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
    it's fun only if you're 12
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    Nov 22, 2011 3:14 PM GMT
    you should try home depot instead
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    Nov 22, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    ewww, thagt place is busted! its full of guys from east la who never left home, who have no formal education and dress as if they were still high school.

    Yeah, it sounds negative but its all true (: you're better off going curbside at your local home depot (:
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    Nov 22, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    babe youre only 22 ! im 23 and have never been in a relationship? does it suck yes--- does it suck as much as having cancer? NO! youre going to be fine

  • Nov 22, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    hey calibro: i get what you are saying and i was aware of that, more of a younger crowd since that is the place to go when you are young and coming out, however i also hear that that is where mature guys are going who are looking for long term relationships. i mean, without even knowing anything about the club i would guess that that is where guys go to find dates, just as that is where guys go to find hook-ups, a bit of both . . i don't know, i am trying to be positive.

    avadakedavra: don't know if you are joking or what? i think that's the problem with me, i have a problem with just "cruising" or whatever you call it. i hate knowing that i would be going to a store just looking for "that guy" not knowing anything about him other than i am attracted to him physically, it's too vein for me.. i guess that is what i'd be doing anywhere really, if a guy catches my eye that is physical attraction. i would definitely give it a shot and try it out this home depot thing, is that a fact that gay latinos hang at home depot?
    i have no problem confronting someone and asking them out (minus the thought of getting beat up, no biggie i can run fast icon_smile.gif )

    jrunner: ok that is unfortunate but there has to be that ONE guy there who really is a good guy looking for dating no? am i being too positive? i guess i have to just go and see for myself, no biggie if i don't find someone i don't find someone at least i can check it out for myself..

    i have heard club cobra is supposedly for gay latinos as well, that is a possibility. . anyone heard of that one?

    patrick: whatup babe! ahaaa . . . i like that .. . anyway yea man i'd say out of any guy in the world i have it the toughest because i am realizing just how deep i want this guy to be like me. i am realizing just how much i want him to eat like i do, supporting humanely raised meat and dairy, eating organic, being more of a psychedelic/introspective guy ( i am coming to realize i am attracted to guys who experiment with the more psychedelic scene, not crack or heroin or anything like that but i would definitely love my guy to be into "tripping" and learning more about themselves thru psychedelic experiences, marijuana, shrooms, such . . ), it drives me crazy because i think well hell what if this guy is in another country or such, how will i ever find him?
    i love being positive and thinking the gods will create the best life possible for me but i know that's not fair because what about all the good little girls out there (who wish for prince charming) and guys too who want the same thing, just because you want something doesn't mean you will always get it, as negative as that sounds . .

    i KNOW i will find that best guy, i need to know where he hangs . . and jrunner again i don't want to sound disrespectful to you but that is kind-of what im attracted to anyway, i don't mind if he still lives at home hell i do, that is attractive to me, as long as he is on the right path, it's ok if he made some bad choices. i know you are speaking more of the "younger" "just coming out" crowd however i am trying to stay positive . . what i need to do is just go to some of these clubs, that way i can see for myself.
    thanks guys icon_smile.gif

  • Nov 22, 2011 3:44 PM GMT
    also jrunner the way you say "curbside" is exactly what i am trying to avoid. i don't want to go to home depot and have someone thinking im a one-night stand type of guy. . . how do you weed out who is really true and looking for a relationship, you know??
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    Nov 22, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    soulmateseeker said
    avadakedavra: don't know if you are joking or what? i think that's the problem with me, i have a problem with just "cruising" or whatever you call it. i hate knowing that i would be going to a store just looking for "that guy" not knowing anything about him other than i am attracted to him physically, it's too vein for me.. i guess that is what i'd be doing anywhere really, if a guy catches my eye that is physical attraction. i would definitely give it a shot and try it out this home depot thing, is that a fact that gay latinos hang at home depot?
    i have no problem confronting someone and asking them out (minus the thought of getting beat up, no biggie i can run fast icon_smile.gif )


    omg youre totally serious. i was kidding. it was a joke. dont do that. lol.

  • Nov 22, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    ahaaha well i thought so. . . i figured you meant it more in a way of "like with any store or market or retail, if someone catches your eye go up to them and ask them out" but i see now you really were joking . . .
    don't do that to me man, im going to go run into my cubicle and cry now, excuse me