Nov 22, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
Hi, I am new here and am looking for some advice. I met my boyfriend back in June at Pride and we've been dating ever since, in August we talked and decided to be exclusive. The other night I was at his house and got a long message from a friend on facebook that was too detailed to reply back on my smart phone. So I used my BF's computer and went to facebook and clicked into messages before I realized it had auto-logged into his profile. I know I shouldn't have but I did read the messages between him and a guy.
The guy said he was sorry they didn't meet up when he was in town in September and then said he wanted them to have sex again. My boyfriend did reply that he was seeing somebody "for now" but he'd be interested "when it's over" and then he talked about jobs he was applying for out of town.
I know what I did was wrong, and I shouldn't have read it but I am upset with what I read. It's not that I'd expect him to break all contact with people he's slept with in the past, but since he and I had already discussed being exclusive when the two planned on meeting in September (though not necessarily for sex) I felt he should have at least told me this guy was coming to town and he was going to hang out.
I also am really upset that he is talking about moving in the next year and seems to have planned for our relationship to end then, but he hasn't talked to me about the fact that he is applying for jobs in other parts of the state.
I feel bad that I violated his privacy, I've never done anything like that before and it really was just a momentary lack of judgement but now I don't know what to do. I can't bring up what I read without admitting that I read it, but I also want to know if I'm with somebody who plans on being together long term or plans on ditching me and moving in a few months.