Back to the "women in gay bars" thing...

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    Nov 22, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    For every woman who just wants to grab a drink with her homo friends or legitimately likes the music at Town, there are sixty more who show up for all the wrong reasons... The summation is that if if you think gay men can give you something that straight men can't, you are in the wrong place. Follow grade-school levels of decorum around strangers and you'll be fine. Don't overshare — your bodies and your sex lives aren't necessarily of interest to us. Don't expect us to dance with you. It's not my senior prom. Do not use us as as fonts of information about all gay men, either in general or at that bar. We are not all gay men. We are ourselves. Fawning over couples as being "soooo cute" comes off as condescension at best and overcompensation at worst.
    And if you take away one thing from this article, let it be this: keep your fucking bachelorette party out of our bars. If you treat my safe space like your zoo, I will seduce your fiance while you’re out selecting stationary.

    A Girl’s Guide To Attending A Gay Bar

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    Nov 22, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    I got so sick of the hordes of straight girls at gay bars that I scaled back. Rather hang out in a sports bar than deal with their bullshit.
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    Nov 22, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    torrentprime said
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    A Girl’s Guide To Attending A Gay Bar

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    from the URL above:
    5. R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Forget this and I'll make you drink my pee.
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    Nov 23, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    PowerFade saidI got so sick of the hordes of straight girls at gay bars that I scaled back. Rather hang out in a sports bar than deal with their bullshit.



    I don't mind when they are there with one of their gay buds, that has always happened, but it seem today straight women come to gay clubs in large groups on their own and it reminds me of one of the things that is irritating about straight clubs- If a group of 12 chicks, each with a big purse, go out together they need a lot of space because all 12 are going to dance together on the dance floor at the same time, all 12 are going to go to the bathroom at the same time (and complain because men are waiting in the line for the women's room), all 12 are going to the bar to get a drink at the same time. It's like one huge mass constantly moving through the club and therefore always in everyone's way. Why do they have to everything together as one big group?
  • disasterpiece

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    Nov 23, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    Wow, the author of this article is a rude bitch.

    I like straight girls in gay bars.

    1. Usually, they're friendly and gorgeous.
    2. They're a good pretext for your straight buddy to come at that gay bar where there's "plenty of gorgeous straight girls". Then when he's drunk enough, he won't make the difference between you and her. icon_twisted.gif

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    Nov 23, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    I work in a gay bar... bachelorette parties are rude and annoying. They think they own the place when, in reality, no one wants them there.

    Some of them accidentally wandered into the kitchen area, which is employees only. It hurt my soul to tell those ladies to get OUT of the kitchen icon_cry.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    Fat bitches should not be allowed on dance floors.

    That is all.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    Good lord...misogonist much? Most of the men who freequent gay bars are guilty of at one time or another the "outrageous" behavior described in the article. Also the author of that piece should look up the word fraught. His opening sentence makes no sense.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    Do straight people get upset when a gay person goes to a regular bar or pub? doubtful.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    RuggedRanger15 saidDo straight people get upset when a gay person goes to a regular bar or pub? doubtful.

    You have to pay close attention to notice a gay man in a straight bar unless he has reached out and applied a firm grip on one of your buttcheeks.


    A bachelorette party is there for a reason... To make damn sure everyone else in the place knows they are there and why.

    A bar has to sell drinks. Unless the entire place is rented out to the women taking over, it stands to reason the bar's income and the employee tips are going to take a hit the moment the first chick opens her mouth.

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    Nov 23, 2011 4:09 AM GMT
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    RuggedRanger15 saidDo straight people get upset when a gay person goes to a regular bar or pub? doubtful.

    You have to pay close attention to notice a gay man in a straight bar unless he has reached out and applied a firm grip on one of your buttcheeks.


    A bachelorette party is there for a reason... To make damn sure everyone else in the place knows they are there and why.


    ^^^^This.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidI work in a gay bar... bachelorette parties are rude and annoying. They think they own the place when, in reality, no one wants them there.

    Some of them accidentally wandered into the kitchen area, which is employees only. It hurt my soul to tell those ladies to get OUT of the kitchen icon_cry.gif


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    For the first time ever I love you a little!!!!
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    torrentprime said
    For every woman who just wants to grab a drink with her homo friends or legitimately likes the music at Town, there are sixty more who show up for all the wrong reasons... The summation is that if if you think gay men can give you something that straight men can't, you are in the wrong place. Follow grade-school levels of decorum around strangers and you'll be fine. Don't overshare — your bodies and your sex lives aren't necessarily of interest to us. Don't expect us to dance with you. It's not my senior prom. Do not use us as as fonts of information about all gay men, either in general or at that bar. We are not all gay men. We are ourselves. Fawning over couples as being "soooo cute" comes off as condescension at best and overcompensation at worst.
    And if you take away one thing from this article, let it be this: keep your fucking bachelorette party out of our bars. If you treat my safe space like your zoo, I will seduce your fiance while you’re out selecting stationary.

    A Girl’s Guide To Attending A Gay Bar

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    Nov 23, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    RuggedRanger15 saidDo straight people get upset when a gay person goes to a regular bar or pub? doubtful.


    Have a coupla Gay dudes wander into the local Straight college bar holding hands.

    Let me know if anyone gets "upset."

    Most chix are fine and are a bit of a tradition at certain bars. It is the whiney nasal Kardashian Klones in their chicken feather boas and plastic tiaras snapping 10,000 pics on their phones while loudly ordering another round of Fuzzy Pussy shots and "forgetting" to leave a tip that probably is the issue.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    If we keep ceding territory to straights we will not have any bars left to go to. I already had a fight in a thread with someone this week about that subject.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:34 AM GMT
    I don't have a problem with it. I don't have any gay friends and my straight female friends are the only people who are willing to go to gay bars with me. I usually have a good time when I go with them.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    Cash said
    RuggedRanger15 saidDo straight people get upset when a gay person goes to a regular bar or pub? doubtful.


    Have a coupla Gay dudes wander into the local Straight college bar holding hands.

    Let me know if anyone gets "upset."

    Most chix are fine and are a bit of a tradition at certain bars. It is the whiney nasal Kardashian Klones in their chicken feather boas and plastic tiaras snapping 10,000 pics on their phones while loudly ordering another round of Fuzzy Pussy shots and "forgetting" to leave a tip that probably is the issue.


    Thank you. We complained to the management of our favorite summer bar after were accosted by three parties on one night and were basically told "deal with it" because they want the cash. However even their staff was complaining about it. One bartender kept spreading hardcore porn and escort ads on the bar when they walked over. I laughed that the author made the "zoo" reference because I did feel like a caged animal on display when we were being asked questions about what kind of sex we had, and my friends were asked to make out so they could watch. It was beyond ridiculous.
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Most chix are fine and are a bit of a tradition at certain bars. It is the whiney nasal Kardashian Klones in their chicken feather boas and plastic tiaras snapping 10,000 pics on their phones while loudly ordering another round of Fuzzy Pussy shots and "forgetting" to leave a tip that probably is the issue.
    You have a point as two guys making out in a corner wouldn't go over very well.

    For me, it comes down to having to hear women's voices.
    In the gay bar I frequented, I was struck at how many guys weren't talking...

    Either they were using Grindr or they were texting. Silently.

    It was so fucking hot.

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    Nov 23, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
    hilarious how "legitimately likes the music at Town" is a good thing, the music there is consistently beat
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
    Although I do think that it is wrong for us to exclude them from our spaces, I also think they need to know that they cannot put their straight lifestyle on public display in a gay bar.icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    I got in to it with a girl on Saturday.

    At the bar I go to there is a VIP bathroom line then a general line. I was standing in VIP line and I will be more than polite if a girl comes along and let her in to the private stalls and I will go to the urinal room with no problem.

    This girl comes up, shoves her way between us and rushes the bathroom stall saying "Im a lady and I am going in here before any of YOU." She didnt bother wait and be polite or anything.

    My asshole switch clicked and I politely said "Look bitch...You are in a GAY bar. You need to make sure you know your fucking place....AND right now its in the back of the line." She said: "Im a lady and I deserve to go first." I said: "Well then act like a lady and not a fucking bitch." She went to the back of the line.

    I got applauded by everyone in ear shot and by the bathroom attendant.

    I certainly dont go in to straight clubs with a sense of entitlement like that. I think we deserve the same respect.

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    Nov 23, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    Yeah, I generally don't like to share a room with anyone who thinks that screaming is a part of normal conversation
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:50 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    JP85257 saidI got in to it with a girl on Saturday.

    At the bar I go to there is a VIP bathroom line then a general line. I was standing in VIP line and I will be more than polite if a girl comes along and let her in to the private stalls and I will go to the urinal room with no problem.

    This girl comes up, shoves her way between us and rushes the bathroom stall saying "Im a lady and I am going in here before any of YOU." She didnt bother wait and be polite or anything.

    My asshole switch clicked and I politely said "Look bitch...You are in a GAY bar. You need to make sure you know your fucking place....AND right now its in the back of the line." She said: "Im a lady and I deserve to go first." I said: "Well then act like a lady and not a fucking bitch." She went to the back of the line.

    I got applauded by everyone in ear shot and by the bathroom attendant.

    I certainly dont go in to straight clubs with a sense of entitlement like that. I think we deserve the same respect.
    Was she even hot?

    Nope. Being a bitch totally negates any attractiveness a female may have anyway.
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete saidFat bitches should not be allowed on dance floors.

    That is all.


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    Nov 23, 2011 5:57 AM GMT
    i think there should be a ratio rule like straight clubs. I know for some straight clubs in order for guys to get in they must bring a girl. I think one club had it at 4:1 or something.