What the fuck is up with guys who chat and then all of a sudden BLOCK?

  • muscle_grower

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    Nov 23, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    Okay this has got to be the most childish and irritating thing that has happened to me in a long time. Met some great nice guys off of RJ who I chat with via email, text, IM, or phone. There was this douche bag (My new label for him) in Nebraska (nebr_rangerxlt),who I had been talking to on the phone and exchanging daily texts about general stuff, life, workouts, and the occasional swapping of pics with some sex talk. Everything seemed to be going great in terms of communicating with a cool guy in a different state.

    Nothing seemed out of the ordinary just some nice phone discussions and text messages. One day I text him and he say's "sorry very busy". No problem...I let a whole week go by and text him to say hi and no response. I then go to RJ to reply to an old email he had sent me to say hi and hope all is well and I find out he do me.

    I then texted him and asked him what was up with no communication and blocking me on RJ and told him it was all good as there wasn't much time invested in this friendship (2 months) and that I wished him well in the future.

    What's up with that kind of fucking behavior. Why do guys have to be such douche bags and it's no wonder that they are single at the age of 45. If this is how they communicate I would rather not be friends or anything else with them.

    Anyone have insight why guys do this?

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    Nov 23, 2011 12:23 AM GMT
    the internet is not real. I have officially quit all online dating as of last night, my heart can't take it, and neither can my blood pressure when it gets boiling
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    Nov 23, 2011 12:45 AM GMT
    Yup, you were probably talking to someone who pretended to be someone they are not. After investing 2 months with you, they finally realized that they can no longer keep up and decide to block you.

    I don't take RJ too seriously. I use my local site to meet other guys. This is just a hunch, but I think many on RJ use this site to live other people's lives. It could be an out of shape guy or an older dude who does not receive any emails and decide to use fake pictures to communicate with hot guys.

    I also feel that many here are fabricating stories to inflate their self-esteem. Like I said, I don't take them seriously. You shouldn't as well.


    MrPolish saidthe internet is not real. I have officially quit all online dating as of last night, my heart can't take it, and neither can my blood pressure when it gets boiling
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    Nov 23, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    That profile name, nebr_rangerxlt, brings up nothing. Perhaps he is just not here anymore. Like said above, he might have been a fake and you were getting too close. Deleting the profile is the usual scenario when they feel they are close to being called out or have been called out as a fake.
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    Nov 23, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidThat profile name, nebr_rangerxlt, brings up nothing. Perhaps he is just not here anymore. Like said above, he might have been a fake and you were getting too close. Deleting the profile is the usual scenario when they feel they are close to being called out or have been called out as a fake.


    Yep, I found his profile http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:9Oz1RsrY7F4J:www.realjock.com/nebr_rangerxlt+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk (a cached version) and he wasn't verified so maybe he was a fake.
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    Nov 23, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    On second thought, he's not hot so I take what I said back above LOL ;)

    Maybe he had a change of heart. Silly me.


    Hypnotico said
    Iceblink saidThat profile name, nebr_rangerxlt, brings up nothing. Perhaps he is just not here anymore. Like said above, he might have been a fake and you were getting too close. Deleting the profile is the usual scenario when they feel they are close to being called out or have been called out as a fake.


    Yep, I found his profile http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:9Oz1RsrY7F4J:www.realjock.com/nebr_rangerxlt+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk (a cached version) and he wasn't verified so maybe he was a fake.
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    Nov 23, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    Quote from his profile: The big question ........ Is there a man out there with integrity that believes in honesty and communication ?
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidQuote from his profile: The big question ........ Is there a man out there with integrity that believes in honesty and communication ?


    Well, Obviously not him. But there are some of us here who keep it real with everyone, Internet and real time. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:17 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    Scruffypup saidQuote from his profile: The big question ........ Is there a man out there with integrity that believes in honesty and communication ?


    Well, Obviously not him. But there are some of us here who keep it real with everyone, Internet and real time. icon_smile.gif


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    Nov 23, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    Thats why I make it a habit to chat with people who are verified. Its too easy to be fake online. I love RJ for having that feature!!!!!
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    YEAH! I KNOW, RIGHT!?


    Almost as bad as those guys that make the same thread 9 times to cry through a megaphone.
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:36 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidYEAH! I KNOW, RIGHT!?


    Almost as bad as those guys that make the same thread 9 times to cry through a megaphone.


    Yeah, there's one too many of them here. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
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    sdgymjock saidThats why I make it a habit to chat with people who are verified. Its too easy to be fake online. I love RJ for having that feature!!!!!
    There's also some verified fake people.



    Which is why I can't figure out why you single people out there looking do not demand to eventually see the person on cam. Who does not have a cam today? If they try to use that excuse it should be a big clue that they are fake.
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
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    Hypnotico said
    Iceblink saidThat profile name, nebr_rangerxlt, brings up nothing. Perhaps he is just not here anymore. Like said above, he might have been a fake and you were getting too close. Deleting the profile is the usual scenario when they feel they are close to being called out or have been called out as a fake.


    Yep, I found his profile http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:9Oz1RsrY7F4J:www.realjock.com/nebr_rangerxlt+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk (a cached version) and he wasn't verified so maybe he was a fake.

    Really? Who'd steal pics that look like THAT?


    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!! icon_lol.gif!
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    jpBITCHva said
    Hypnotico said
    Iceblink saidThat profile name, nebr_rangerxlt, brings up nothing. Perhaps he is just not here anymore. Like said above, he might have been a fake and you were getting too close. Deleting the profile is the usual scenario when they feel they are close to being called out or have been called out as a fake.


    Yep, I found his profile http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:9Oz1RsrY7F4J:www.realjock.com/nebr_rangerxlt+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk (a cached version) and he wasn't verified so maybe he was a fake.

    Really? Who'd steal pics that look like THAT?


    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!! icon_lol.gif!


    Come on, that guy is hot (I'm almost certain those are not the flake's pics), I sooo would! icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    I am going to start a website exclusively for fake people. Fake profiles 100% of the time - no exceptions.

    Fakes of fake people talking about false hopes and shattered dreams that never really existed anyway.

    Clever fake names with associated temporary e-mail addresses that can be eradicated in an instant.

    I believe in a world of illusion and pretend lifestyles.

    Message boards full of made-up topics discussed by alter-egos and fractured personalities.

    Flame wars started over issues that never really meant anything to anyone discussing them.

    Artificial plans to make to make plans to one day meet for coffee and maybe discuss the possibility of maybe one day in the future possibly considering the false reality of getting together to exchange false identities.

    A world of hopes dreams and desires all teetering on the non-existant possibility of a stolen pic coming to life.

    Together - with artificial committment and pseudo-integrity, we can build a world that doesn't really matter but still requires verification and countless message boards.
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    I have concluded that many ugly men create fake profiles on here, a4a, etc.. and pretend to be someone they are not. Then when things get serious and such then they leave because they realise they are not able to keep up with the lie any more.
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    Cash, will You marry me? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    muscle_grower saidWhy do guys have to be such douche bags and it's no wonder that they are single at the age of 45. If this is how they communicate I would rather not be friends or anything else with them.

    Anyone have insight why guys do this?



    It is strange to meet guys who are 20 years older than me, but they still act like they're 14 years old. Correction. They act like 14 year old girls. There's something about gay men where some of them just never grow up. If I had a dime for every Peter Pan I've met...

    Someone the other day referred to me as piss and vinegar. I corrected him. I said I was salt and vinegar, because I'm still good, just not sweet icon_smile.gif But I just don't have the patience anymore for men who have never grown up. If you lose interest, that's fine. But the bait and switch of leading someone on and then abruptly cutting them off...if that isn't simply immature, it's a sign of emotional instability and/or someone who needs therapy. I've been doing the "gay thing" since the days of dialup and pink-screen gay.com. Call me a calloused hard ass, but this type of behavior doesn't upset me one bit anymore, and actually I have learned to expect it more often than not.

    When I first meet a guy I'm usually a little gruff and standoffish, but I will keep talking to him in most cases. Then I like to intentionally, and selectively, throw out some BIG RED FLAGS. The men-children usually get scared away or lose interest in the first few days, because OMG, they met a real person! The remaining men tend to be of strong character, and possess a little patience to get to know me. That is the point where I start investing in someone.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    GigoloAssassin said
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    Hypnotico said
    Iceblink saidThat profile name, nebr_rangerxlt, brings up nothing. Perhaps he is just not here anymore. Like said above, he might have been a fake and you were getting too close. Deleting the profile is the usual scenario when they feel they are close to being called out or have been called out as a fake.


    Yep, I found his profile http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:9Oz1RsrY7F4J:www.realjock.com/nebr_rangerxlt+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk (a cached version) and he wasn't verified so maybe he was a fake.

    Really? Who'd steal pics that look like THAT?


    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!! icon_lol.gif!


    Come on, that guy is hot (I'm almost certain those are not the flake's pics), I sooo would! icon_twisted.gif


    I don't know. After seeing the profile I am not sure if he was really fake. Maybe he wasn't careful and his wife found realjock in his browsing history and so he had to delete the profile.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    Iceblink said
    Trollileo said
    sdgymjock saidThats why I make it a habit to chat with people who are verified. Its too easy to be fake online. I love RJ for having that feature!!!!!
    There's also some verified fake people.



    Which is why I can't figure out why you single people out there looking do not demand to eventually see the person on cam. Who does not have a cam today? If they try to use that excuse it should be a big clue that they are fake.


    Most poor people don't have cams.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    balmain said
    Iceblink said
    Trollileo said
    sdgymjock saidThats why I make it a habit to chat with people who are verified. Its too easy to be fake online. I love RJ for having that feature!!!!!
    There's also some verified fake people.



    Which is why I can't figure out why you single people out there looking do not demand to eventually see the person on cam. Who does not have a cam today? If they try to use that excuse it should be a big clue that they are fake.


    Most poor people don't have cams.


    Well you're not poor dude. So get verified. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    balmain said
    Iceblink said
    Trollileo said
    sdgymjock saidThats why I make it a habit to chat with people who are verified. Its too easy to be fake online. I love RJ for having that feature!!!!!
    There's also some verified fake people.



    Which is why I can't figure out why you single people out there looking do not demand to eventually see the person on cam. Who does not have a cam today? If they try to use that excuse it should be a big clue that they are fake.


    Most poor people don't have cams.



    You can get a cheap cam for $9.99 at CVS that clips to your laptop..
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    LOL balmain, here you go again. What's with your preoccupation of wealth? Computers are really cheap these days and they all have cams. You crack me up though.


    balmain said
    Iceblink said
    Trollileo said
    sdgymjock saidThats why I make it a habit to chat with people who are verified. Its too easy to be fake online. I love RJ for having that feature!!!!!
    There's also some verified fake people.



    Which is why I can't figure out why you single people out there looking do not demand to eventually see the person on cam. Who does not have a cam today? If they try to use that excuse it should be a big clue that they are fake.


    Most poor people don't have cams.
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:50 AM GMT
    balmain said
    Iceblink said
    Trollileo said
    sdgymjock saidThats why I make it a habit to chat with people who are verified. Its too easy to be fake online. I love RJ for having that feature!!!!!
    There's also some verified fake people.



    Which is why I can't figure out why you single people out there looking do not demand to eventually see the person on cam. Who does not have a cam today? If they try to use that excuse it should be a big clue that they are fake.


    Most poor people don't have cams.


    Get new material. This routine doesn't work for you.

    Maybe something along the lines of the wacky busboy who grew up in a brothel but really has a heart of gold?

    Sure, it's a silly cliche but at least you won't have the burden of playing against type!

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