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    Nov 23, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    So the Rabi says, "you call this Stilton??" icon_surprised.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    Super Secret Sex-mex said Granted, he's the guest of friends to a party of people he doesn't know. But I'm pissed he called me to tell me these plans and didn't invite me.


    You're insane. Miggy... Don't sweat it!

    He could have been a little bit more courteous and maybe tried to plan something that could include you... But friends of guests can't usually bring a +1 in most circumstances.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:51 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    Secret Person said Granted, he's the guest of friends to a party of people he doesn't know. But I'm pissed he called me to tell me these plans and didn't invite me.
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    You're insane. Miggy... Don't sweat it!


    I want turkey dammit
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    Sexican said
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    Secret Person said Granted, he's the guest of friends to a party of people he doesn't know. But I'm pissed he called me to tell me these plans and didn't invite me.
    ?


    You're insane. Miggy... Don't sweat it!


    I want turkey dammit


    You can totally come have turkey with me... My uncle's girlfriend whom none of my family has ever met is staying with us for Thanksgiving. She just got in last night. My uncle and her both live in Ohio... My uncle isn't even here, just this woman.

    I'm totally bringing you to Thanksgiving dinner, introducing you as my fiancè, and coming out to my brother and my uncle's random ass girlfriend all at once.. My Mom makes awesome turkey.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    I'm totally bringing you to Thanksgiving dinner, introducing you as my fiancè, and coming out to my brother and my uncle's random ass girlfriend all at once.. My Mom makes awesome turkey.


    That's already nicer than the non-Thanksgiving I'll have icon_cry.gif Which will consist of waiting to text him asking if he's done with Thanksgiving so I can go over and see him.
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo said
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    I'm totally bringing you to Thanksgiving dinner, introducing you as my fiancè, and coming out to my brother and my uncle's random ass girlfriend all at once.. My Mom makes awesome turkey.


    That's already nicer than the non-Thanksgiving I'll have icon_cry.gif Which will consist of waiting to text him asking if he's done with Thanksgiving so I can go over and see him.


    Aww, boo. icon_sad.gif
    At least tell him where you're at. Bitch better make it up to you.
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    I don't think it should be a dealbreaker unless you really no longer want him in your life. It seems a relatively benign trangression, IMO.

    I'm glad you're back, even though you're still hiding.
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    Aww, boo. icon_sad.gif
    At least tell him where you're at. Bitch better make it up to you.


    Aww jakey you quoted me as Ciarsolo <3 <3 <3
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:06 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI don't think it should be a dealbreaker unless you really no longer want him in your life. It seems a relatively benign trangression, IMO.

    I'm glad you're back, even though you're still hiding.


    Yeah you're probably right. I'm not back though >_> Only temporarily getting my fix of gayverse feedback.
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    Nov 23, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI'm not back though >_> Only temporarily getting my fix of gayverse feedback.

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    Nov 23, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidIt's a long distance thing, but we've been seeing each other for about 5, almost 6 months now. Since it's long distance it's only a few times every month or every other month. But it's been constant. It's not really official and we don't play the boyfriend game.

    So Long story short he comes into town early ( I didn't think he'd be around for Thanksgiving) and tells me he's spending the holiday with some friends of friends - - and doesn't make the slightest attempt to invite me to it. Granted, he's the guest of friends to a party of people he doesn't know. But I'm pissed he called me to tell me these plans and didn't invite me.

    Am I blowing this out of proportion? is this just a guy I'm seeing and since he's not my official boyfriend it's ok for him to not invite me major holidays? Am I right to feel angry and hurt?


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    Nov 23, 2011 2:16 PM GMT
    Absolutely you are blowing things up! I didn't spend Thanksgiving with my partner for 8 years.. because of family and our long distance situation (which has been, but all but 2 of our years so far). I say, go on about your business... and this should go for most holiday gatherings.... If you get invited, you have a choice then, in the meantime, make your own plans!
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    I think you might just be blowing it out of proportion. I mean, yes, you've dated for 5 months but it's not his party to invite you to (which would be inappropriate).You should just let it roll off your chest because it's not worth stressing over. I'm sure everything will be okay. Also if you're not official then I definitely don't see a problem with him not inviting you. Just an outside opinion.
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidAm I blowing this out of proportion? is this just a guy I'm seeing and since he's not my official boyfriend it's ok for him to not invite me major holidays? Am I right to feel angry and hurt?


    Way out of proportion. You're not boyfriends... from your post it doesn't seem as though you have a solid "real" thing happening.

    But... If you feel hurt by this, maybe you need to revisit your stance on "not playing the boyfriends game". You apparently want to play.
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
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    Ariodante saidAm I blowing this out of proportion? is this just a guy I'm seeing and since he's not my official boyfriend it's ok for him to not invite me major holidays? Am I right to feel angry and hurt?


    Way out of proportion. You're not boyfriends... from your post it doesn't seem as though you have a solid "real" thing happening.

    But... If you feel hurt by this, maybe you need to revisit your stance on "not playing the boyfriends game". You apparently want to play.



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    Nov 23, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidIt's a long distance thing, but we've been seeing each other for about 5, almost 6 months now. Since it's long distance it's only a few times every month or every other month. But it's been constant. It's not really official and we don't play the boyfriend game.

    So Long story short he comes into town early ( I didn't think he'd be around for Thanksgiving) and tells me he's spending the holiday with some friends of friends - - and doesn't make the slightest attempt to invite me to it. Granted, he's the guest of friends to a party of people he doesn't know. But I'm pissed he called me to tell me these plans and didn't invite me.

    Am I blowing this out of proportion? is this just a guy I'm seeing and since he's not my official boyfriend it's ok for him to not invite me major holidays? Am I right to feel angry and hurt?



    Well, it's not official and you guys are not bfs.
    He's going to a party held by people he doesn't know.

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    Nov 23, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    Yes, you are blowing it out of proportion. It is hard to bring someone as a guest when you are going, yourself, as a guest of a friend who was invited. Perhaps his telling you he was in town and going to this get together was his was of hinting to you that, "Hey, I'm going to be in town and going to this Thanksgiving party as a guest of a friend who was invited. I really don't know anyone and perhaps we could do something instead?" Which, of course he didn't verbalize the last part, not wanting to just invite himself into plans which you may have. You could have taken the opportunity to possibly suggest an alternative Thanksgiving option to him. I know I always feel odd going to a gathering where I don't know anyone and would have loved an alternative option for the holiday! Just sayin.... icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidIt's not really official and we don't play the boyfriend game.


    Then why you so upset?
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    If you're upset that he didn't invite you (to a party where he's someone else's guest), why didn't you try to make Thanksgiving plans for just him and you? Might be time to consider if this kind of relationship really works for you.
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    Nov 23, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    Emotions can be a fuckin' pain in the arse.

    M: I'd recommend not letting this get to ya, bud.

    As others have said - bringing you as a +1 to an event where he is a not a close friend/relative might (and usually does) prove awkward to the host(s) of the event.

    I'd say light a candle, and let it go.

    If you want to be closer to him - consider how you'll close the gap. =)
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    Nov 23, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    AlphaTrigger saidEmotions can be a fuckin' pain in the arse.

    M: I'd recommend not letting this get to ya, bud.

    As others have said - bringing you as a +1 to an event where he is a not a close friend/relative might (and usually does) prove awkward to the host(s) of the event.

    I'd say light a candle, and let it go.

    If you want to be closer to him - consider how you'll close the gap. =)



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    Nov 23, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    Sounds like you're inadvertently setting yourself up for major heartbreak. The issue is where do you stand in each others' heart and life. Thanksgiving is only one (the first major?) bump. Time has arrived (after the holiday weekend) for clarifying your relationship.

    Keep an untroubled spirit. Putting things in proportion would be helpful. It might be easier at this time to spend the next couple of days in Mexico and know that it isn't a holiday.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    If you're not his boyfriend, then where is the deal for this to be a dealbreaker? Let it go. By your own admission, he's free to do whatever he wants.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:28 PM GMT
    You should have invited him to TG dinner if you really cared for him. He probably was waiting for you to do that and when you didn't come through for him he settled for a D list invitation.
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    Nov 23, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    Ariodante said

    Am I blowing this out of proportion? is this just a guy I'm seeing and since he's not my official boyfriend it's ok for him to not invite me major holidays? Am I right to feel angry and hurt?



    Yes, you're blowing it out of proportion. Did YOU invite him to spend Thanksgiving with you? Someone else did, and it was likely the sort of situation where he didn't feel it was appropriate to bring a date. Regardless, I assume you're going to see him while in town, so plan something special for the two of you to have your own little Thanksgiving celebration even if it's the next day or over the weekend.