How important is a good sex life in relationships and could you stay in a relationship that was sexually unfulfilling?


  • Jul 20, 2007 4:13 AM GMT
    I heard a quote once stating, "When sex is good its 10% of the relationship and when its bad its 90%." Since I heard that quote I was surprised how many people stayed in relationships with someone who wasn't that pleasing in bed. I couldn't believe people did that. Sex in our relationship is the best we have ever had. Plus we have amazing sexual chemistry. My other relationships didnt last and I found myself cheating on my exes during our relationship. Experiencing what we have together, I cannot imagine a successful relationship that wasnt sexually satisfying.
  • zakariahzol

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    Jul 20, 2007 12:35 PM GMT
    Extremely important. I have been in a few relationship. The last one , I was completely faithfull . Really the sex is so good that I dont even bother to look at other men. I have all kinda temptation but I just not interested . His all the men I need.

    Back in my twenties I cheat on my live it lover, simply because I dont find his sexually attractive anymore (he get fat). Sex is just an obligation and something I have to do. My relationship with him is fill with lies, betrayal and sexual frustration. It a big relief when it all over. Looking back I regreted that I spend nearly 2 years in this unfullfiling relationship.
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 20, 2007 3:23 PM GMT
    As above!I`m a highly sexed,highly physical,sensual guy,so great sex in a relationship is essential to me.I`d also want my partner to be getting a physically fulfilling time;to be satisfied by me.

    If it wasn`t working,I`d want to find out why,what could I do to improve the situation.If it couldn`t be,then the relationship would probably be at an end.

    The relationships I`ve been in where sex wasn`t satisfying haven`t lasted.If you can`t mend it,it`s best to be honest with the guy and end it.
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    Jul 20, 2007 4:32 PM GMT
    Never been in a relationship - but I would imagine that sexual chemistry/good sex would certainly factor in. How much - not sure.
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    Jul 28, 2007 8:09 AM GMT
    maybe it's just my age and lack of experience, but it may play a role, but sex wouldn't control evrything. i read a quote that i believe is very true: "sex with a man is good, but sex with the man you love is fantastic." i think if you're in love it doesn't matter how good/bad the sex is.
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    Jul 28, 2007 4:58 PM GMT
    How important is a good sex life in a relationship?

    Quick and easy answer: Very.

    Could you stay in a relationship that was sexually unfulfilling?

    Quick and easy answer. No. OR Unless I was 80.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 29, 2007 1:13 PM GMT
    Without the sex ... basically your just roommates

    and would I find a sexless relationship fulfilling?....No
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    Aug 08, 2007 3:39 AM GMT
    What if it is unfulfilling because your partner does not want to do anal sex, but you love it?

    Is that not a good enough reason to want to find someone else?
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 08, 2007 7:01 AM GMT
    "Found myself cheating" Not calling you out on this Landon (You are not alone on that), but people have said I can't believe you wear a condom during intercouse.

    This is just an example of why std's and HIV are so prevelent. I have heard many guys stand on the soapbox and say they r safe and tested negative and only have unprotected sex with b/f's or serious relationships, only to find out they cheated on and ex or were cheated on. I hear this from so many men online through friends and from a close friend who worked at a clinic for years. Ok I'm off my soapbox now! Have at it all!!

    Landon I hope your relationship lasts, but Karma has a way of evening out life. Why didn't you just break up with the b/f's you had lousy sex with?? Ok so I called you out on this part a little. I am not writing a book I just wondered why>>>

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    Oct 24, 2007 12:47 AM GMT
    I can't do a relationship without at least decent sex. Physical attraction is important. It's not everything.. but it's important.

    Now, a friend of mine is dating this guy, and they don't have sex. Only oral sex. I don't know how they do it.. I mean.. I'd get bored.

    So I suppose it's all about you.
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    Nov 08, 2007 9:26 PM GMT
    Extremely important. IT is definitely an issue that any couple has to face head on and resolve or face a "parting" of the ways. Men are typically very sexually driven. So if it your partner is "driven" to you he will in all probability "drive" someone else.
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    Dec 18, 2007 7:10 AM GMT
    Alright.. I can speak from personal experience on the post above mine. I've been the clueless guy, giving good (but vanilla) sex. My lover at the time just told me what he liked. It was a tad awkward for me.. but I took to it like a duck in water. He only had to give me one or two things, before I discovered for myself an entire world that he enjoyed.
    Because I cared for him, I went with it experimentally at first, only to find out that a different kind of sex was really great. And now, There are a lot of things I enjoy that I would have never considered without his different perspective.


    Dude.. just sit him down and lay it out for him. Tell him right out. It's an awkward thing to do.. but he probably has no idea, and if you DON'T tell him, then you'll just sit there wondering when he'll figure it out.
    Keep it light, and treat it like it's almost funny, or that you're half embarrassed to be having the talk. But afterwards.. he may try to kick things up a notch just because he cares for you.



    Hope it works out. ^)_(^
  • texas7t

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    Nov 28, 2013 9:07 AM GMT
    I've have told the guy I. With time after time after time...
    Even suggested on reading a book.. But yet he has no clue.
    I know I need to part ways, but afraid of .. Not finding some one comparable outside of sex.
    I mean this guy is not romantic, can not kiss, and says my dick is too big for him to take.. I'm average 7x5. Is not too big.
  • Apparition

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    Nov 30, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    My bfs job is pleasing my cock, everything else is just bonus, luckily i enjoy him for a lot more too.