Three way with boyfriend?

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    Nov 24, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now, he's 18 an I'm 19. When we met he was a virgin, 5 months later we have a healthy sexual relationship. Recently he's told me he's thought about a three way or even him and another guy one on one, when he told me this it killed me every time I think about it I get a sick feeling I understand he wants to see what it's like with someone else but I don't like it. He use to say that thinking about me with another guy made him have a sick feeling too but now he's saying he thinks he'd like to watch. He's told me it doesn't matter if we do it or not but I know he really wants it. I really don't know what to do I'm afraid if I do do the three way he'll just wanna do the one on one with a guy and I know I can't let that happen, or maybe even continue three ways..so should I do the three way and see how it goes? or just say no way to any of it?
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    Nov 24, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    Once you open the relationship, it's a point of no return, and both of you had better have the emotional gumption and strength to tolerate sex with other people. Some people are able to "close" an "open" relationship at some point, but that's rare and it requires a high level of emotional/intellectual maturity and complete trust in each other. Some guys are wired differently and are comfortable with open relationships (which can come in different flavors--e.g., sex with another man without the other partner being present, sex with another man only with the other partner being present, group sex only, etc.), while others simply cannot handle them. Ultimately, you're going to have to make a decision with which you're comfortable, but you should ensure that your decision is purely voluntary and not coerced--or you'll regret that decision eventually. Good luck.
  • wpc56

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    Nov 24, 2011 10:05 PM GMT
    You guys are still so young, its only natural for either one of you to be curious about having sex with other men.

    You should not deny his curiosity... he'll either do it behind your back or end up resenting you for not letting him do what he wanted to do.... which just end up in break up in any case.

    If you love him, let it go, if you are meant to be together he'll come back to you.

    If you are really not okay with an open relationship, then end it on good terms and you still have a friend at the end of the day. I know many couple who are relationship oriented and has been together since they met in university.