Why do so many black guys only like whites?

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    Jun 04, 2008 8:17 PM GMT
    I mean, just look at the majority of black RJ profiles, and you'll see not a single black guy hot listed, or other guy of color - just a bunch of white guys. I just find it odd. Contrarily, look at white profiles, and you do not see many, if any black or other men of color hotlisted.

    Also, if you go out to any gay clubs, as the ones I've been out to, you'll find blacks only with whites (I've only seen two black couples together vs. like over a hundred white/black couples).

    What's the deal?
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    Jun 04, 2008 8:54 PM GMT
    What? Im sorry, black guys are hotlisted. I know im on guys hotlist. As far as dating, guys can date whoever they want. I have a white boyfriend but I have dated all types of guys. You shouldnt make statements like that. They are a bit ignorant. For me, I date who I want to date. Plain and simple. I dont look at color.
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    Jun 04, 2008 8:57 PM GMT
    To be honest I did not notice this, but then again I rarely pick up on the "race" of the person hotlisted unless it is really obvious (e.g. if a person has only asian men or blonde men hotlisted).

    My hotlist is very diverse, partially because I pay attention to the person's profile as well as their pecs! icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 04, 2008 8:59 PM GMT
    GAY.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 04, 2008 10:30 PM GMT
    I'd worry more about the kind of guys you like
    and not so much about other guys too much...

    Hot is hot

    Black brown white...pink or green
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    Jun 04, 2008 10:33 PM GMT
    GQjock saidI'd worry more about the kind of guys you like
    and not so much about other guys too much...

    Hot is hot

    Black brown white...pink or green



    What about polka-dot people? You didn't mention them. icon_mad.gif
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    Jun 04, 2008 11:39 PM GMT
    You really can't go by a 'hotlist'. Mine has members from when I was going through the "Who's Online" section. I live in the MD/DC/VA area and there are ALOT of black couples. You can't look at skin color either because I like all of them but I have a thing for british and irish guys. Like the U.S. they have an assortment of races. Everyone has their prefences but when it comes down to it love sees no color.
  • Southern_Draw...

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    Jun 05, 2008 2:22 AM GMT
    What you're saying does have some validity, but I think its limited to this particular site as well as the Dallas club scene (since thats where you live). There is no denying how hot some of you are no matter the race and just because you're on a hot list doesn't mean you're the guy for me. It may just mean "I admire your body." There are several blk gay sites where you will find thousands of profiles just like this one. Within it you will also find a few white guys who are only interested in meeting blk guys.

    For the record, I have only one guy listed in my hot list and he's neither blk or white.....he's just plain HOT!!
  • TallSoCal

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    Jun 05, 2008 6:44 AM GMT
    Personally, I think it's because of people assuming they know how someone is before getting to know them. No offense, but I'm black myself, and I find it hard to find black guys attractive. And it's only because (in my experience in LA), black guys don't show their education, and intelligence is hot to me. I'm not saying that black guys aren't educated or intelligent, but it seems to me that they put up a front to seem cool for other people. That's just my opinion, though.
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    Jun 05, 2008 6:53 AM GMT
    I think it works both ways: a black guy gains status by dating a white guy and a white guy gains admiration from his peers for dating a black guy and all the big dicked myths that go with men of colour.
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    Jun 15, 2008 8:52 PM GMT
    I won't lie about it. Not that I intentionally do it; I have noticed from my dating habits and socializing with a group of people I don't know I'm most likely to talk to either a White or Hispanic person first.

    If you put me in a room with a guy of each race that have everything else in common, it is more likely that I will talk to either a White, Hispanic, and/or Asian guy (probably even in that order if not together) before I would finally talk to the Black guy. I don't think it is so much that I do it on purpose, but I was raised around and more comfortable around White guys. For the most part, the White guys I dated have the attitude or even mannerisms I would expect a Black guy to have.

    On the other hand, put me in a room with a woman of each race and I would probably make it a point to talk to a White, Hispanic, or Black woman before anyone else. Based on the same reason.

    Not sure if this might provide more insight, but I'm often called a "coconut" or "oreo," Black on the outside and white on the inside.
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:07 PM GMT
    I like all races, really prefer black and other white men most, But I have noticed that black americans put each other down more than lift each other up. this could be because unlike latin/asian, most of them dont know their ancestors origins and they dont have a nativee language, so i think theres more of a 'take care of yourself' kind of mentality going on amongst them. also, i have noticed when a person of latin/asian origin manages a business, the whole business will usually be that race too. When black people have those positions though, they usually dont help out the other black people they know.
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:38 PM GMT
    Jesus Christ! I take like a 4 month break from this website and people are still talking about these pointless subjects that no one is going to take anything from?

    Lets put it plain and simple,

    We could get into the philosophy of ethnic inferiority, opression, self hate, etc.

    But in the end, man kind has yet to figure out what makes our sexual interests tick.

    So plain and simple, most people can't tell you why gravitate towards a specific race.

    Sure they can say I like the skin tone, I like the phenotype, but why do they like the phenotype? You get what I'm saying.

    We Don't Know.

    So lets just leave it at that and accept that some people like their own race, some people like other races, and some people like them all.

    essentially race is nothing but a falicy anyway and what you're really cherishing, if not cultural differences, is just the melanocyte activity of a particular individual.

    In that sense is it no different than liking big buts?

    Even more accurately put, it is no different than liking a particular eye color on account of the iris is just pigmented portion of your eye.
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    Mar 23, 2010 1:06 PM GMT
    RedHeadGuy!

    "Is this really what you believe I don't date any guy white or black to raise to some pathetic gains in the social pecking order nor do did I do think and white guy that I dated in past was doing so out of adoration of his peers.
    That's insulting and sickening!

    OP I have been placed on number of guys Hot Lists they just happened to be of all races. Your point of view is very flawed because you have not viewed every single profile.

    RedHeadGuy:
    The way you out make it sound that every African American guy on here is trolling after white guys or that White guys are salivating after black guys trust and believe that is NOT the case.

    In my case when I date out my race and I don't believe in just dating one race why limit myself. It is because I sense something wonmderful and special in that man no matter what his status is.
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    Mar 23, 2010 1:10 PM GMT
    Were just so versatile...

    I mean EVERYTHING goes with white. icon_wink.gif


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    Mar 23, 2010 1:34 PM GMT

    I tend to look at this as a matter of breaking down racial divides, with some lovemaking!

    -Doug


    Here's an old fav of mine, stating the way things were back then....



    A voice inside of my car told me today
    there was a song of a love they would not play
    She was black, he was white
    A voice inside of my car told me today...

    Black stations, white stations
    Break down the door
    Stand up and face the music
    This is nineteen eighty-four!

    Black stations, white stations
    Feet on the floor
    Dance on the ceiling with us
    This is nineteen eighty-four!

    When I dream my dream in black & white
    (When I dream my dream...)
    Trip the light fantastic through the night
    (Trip the light fantastic through the...)
    Dance with me while they sleep
    When I dream my dream in black & white...

    If words could speak I wonder what they'd say?
    The tides are growing stronger every day
    Sink or swim, let them in
    If words could speak I wonder what they'd say?
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    Mar 24, 2010 11:54 AM GMT
    MsclDrew saidWere just so versatile...

    I mean EVERYTHING goes with white. icon_wink.gif




    Yeah that would be it icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 16, 2013 2:23 AM GMT
    TallSoCal saidI'm black myself, and I find it hard to find black guys attractive. And it's only because (in my experience in LA), black guys don't show their education, and intelligence is hot to me. I'm not saying that black guys aren't educated or intelligent, but it seems to me that they put up a front to seem cool for other people.That's just my opinion, though.


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    Oct 16, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    MsclDrew saidWere just so versatile...

    I mean EVERYTHING goes with white. icon_wink.gif




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    Oct 16, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    Halfstep said

    So plain and simple, most people can't tell you why gravitate towards a specific race.

    Sure they can say I like the skin tone, I like the phenotype, but why do they like the phenotype? You get what I'm saying.

    We Don't Know.



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    What a crock of sh**, We all know why ... just watch this and think of it on a gay slant...

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    Oct 16, 2013 2:31 AM GMT
    Oh. A race thread.

    How fresh and intriguing. From 2008 no less.
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    Oct 16, 2013 2:31 AM GMT
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    I really need to take my ass to BED but i know this shit is not gonna end well as usual another bitchfest will ensure. Gonna sit this one out for once and watch like Mikey doing in the gif.


    Really reviving a five year old thread? The struggle is real

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    Dec 18, 2013 6:40 PM GMT
    Everyone just go to the gym.
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    Dec 18, 2013 8:06 PM GMT
    The deal is, if you have a hidden profile I have no idea where you're coming from.
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    Dec 18, 2013 8:15 PM GMT
    TallSoCal saidPersonally, I think it's because of people assuming they know how someone is before getting to know them. No offense, but I'm black myself, and I find it hard to find black guys attractive. And it's only because (in my experience in LA), black guys don't show their education, and intelligence is hot to me. I'm not saying that black guys aren't educated or intelligent, but it seems to me that they put up a front to seem cool for other people. That's just my opinion, though.

    I've posited on a couple of other threads started by non-whites complaining that whites won't date them that what they never address is that "hot" trumps "race," and that those OPs are typically not what would be universally considered physically "hot" and that non-white guys that were would never create such a thread (and would be less likely to post in support in it). You somewhat prove my point in that you have broad appeal (who doesn't like nice-looking, built, tall, young and educated?) and would never create such a thread. And make no mistake people - a lot of white guys can't get dates with white guys. To the non-white OPs of those threads, stop objectifying us - we're not all that, so stop thinking of us as trophies. We're people, just like you.