First date in months

  • newral

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    Nov 25, 2011 9:51 PM GMT
    Hey guys, so I have not been in a date for a couple months now despite being asked a few times (mainly because I just have been very busy and focused with school). But today a guy asked if we could hang out tomorrow and I said ok. So I guess I have a date tomorrow. Any tips for someone who has been avoiding dates for some time and now suddenly is getting back to it?

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    Nov 26, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    I know the feeling, just be yourself...go with the flow. Do not set any expectations, things usually reveal in a few minutes if there is chemistry or not. And best of all have fun, if things turn sour have an exit strategy.
  • newral

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    Nov 26, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidWear something slutty,


    haha icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 26, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    If you're asking, it sounds like you're over-thinking it. Dating hasn't mysteriously changed in the past few months. Just enjoy yourself and enjoy the company. Unless you're asking for dating tips in general, just do what you did before you went on hiatus.
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    Nov 26, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Um wear what you're wearing in your default. lol jk. Try to keep things interesting. Tell jokes if you need too. I know for me if there are too many awkward moments of silence I get a tad like "hmm this is not gonna go far." SO yeah keep it fresh and fun. Oh and don't bring up exes TOTAL BONER KILL. icon_smile.gif

    Do you plan to hook up if the opportunity arises??
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 26, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    Decide what you want out of it in advance.... even if it is to approach it "laid back" with no preconceptions. Enjoy the time and make it real.
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    Nov 26, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    Show that your interested in him. Ask questions about his life experiences and what things he likes. Get to know him, be yourself and make sure he has a good time.
  • newral

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    Nov 26, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    I guess I should have clarified a little more. icon_smile.gif
    I don't mean as far as how to act on the date. It will be what it will be. I'm not even nervous at all. I'm pretty friendly and laid back anyway. My question was more because I don't know much about the guy and it's kind of a blind date on my part (he knows me and has seen me but I don't remember him).

    My friend set us up. She thinks he's a great guy and handsome to boot (I'll admit I tend to agree with her taste in men...haha). Apparently I met him a while ago and he was interested in getting to know me, but it was probably one of those things where someone introduces someone else to you and that was it because I don't remember it. Besides it was probably around a time when I just didn't want to date anyone. I''ve been more receptive to the idea of dating someone more recently (maybe it's the holidays...lol). I guess my friend told him about it. He called and asked. So I said yes.

    It's such a gorgeous day here, btw. I love this November weeather here!!

    I'll report back if any of you care enough to know how it went. icon_smile.gif
  • newral

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    Nov 26, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    likewatuc saidUm wear what you're wearing in your default. lol jk.


    haha icon_razz.gif



    likewatuc said

    Do you plan to hook up if the opportunity arises??


    Nope. There will not be any hooking up involved...lol. icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 26, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    Hang out, have fun, that's it.
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    Nov 26, 2011 7:02 PM GMT
    Have fun! Don't forget the condoms icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 26, 2011 7:03 PM GMT
    I'll be watching to see how it went, always good to hear about guys going on dates. Even if it doesn't go well, don't get discouraged because dating is a process and finding someone you "click" with is only a matter of time.

    BTW, the holidays do have an effect on dating as it seems singles do date more during this season. Interesting stuff but that's for a different thread through.
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    Nov 26, 2011 7:05 PM GMT
    Ehanson saidI'll be watching to see how it went, always good to hear about guys going on dates. Even if it doesn't go well, don't get discouraged because dating is a process and finding someone you "click" with is only a matter of time.

    BTW, the holidays do have an effect on dating as it seems singles do date more during this season. Interesting stuff but that's for a different thread through.


    Good dates are fun and could lead to more. Bad dates are funny and lead to great stories. Either way, win/win
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    Nov 26, 2011 7:15 PM GMT
    I have had this scenario happen to me...


    a new date after months of no activity. So I have learned my lesson do NOT get overly hopeful that things will heat up and do NOT get over excited to be on a date because the other guy just might be a
    4 and not a
    10.
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    Nov 26, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    collegegraddude saidI have had this scenario happen to me...


    a new date after months of no activity. So I have learned my lesson do NOT get overly hopeful that things will heat up and do NOT get over excited to be on a date because the other guy just might be a
    4 and not a
    10.


    What's wrong having sex with a 4? As long as it's not a 1 or 2
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    Nov 26, 2011 7:48 PM GMT
    Op this is your first date in months? What the fuck is wrong w men in Raleigh?????
  • newral

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    Dec 01, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    So I figured, for those of you who were interested (all 2 of you haha), that I report back on the date. It was great. I had a really good time. He was very handsome and better looking than what my friend said. He was kind of a dork, though and very sweet. He made a lot of corny jokes that made me laugh because they were just off the wall and I could tell he was quite nervous at times. But he was nice and interesting. We had great conversation. He's 3 or 4 years older than me and I learned he is about to graduate from med school soon.

    I could tell he wanted to hookup though, but he just wasn't sure how to approach the subject. So he made a lot of flirty innuendos all the time. some of them made me laugh because they were ridiculous but we didn't do anything I couldn't tell my parents over dinner icon_razz.gif

    On the downside, he lives about 1/2 hour away and seems too busy to have time for anything, so I don't know. He wants to hang out again soon so we'll see. I have no expectations.

    It truly amazes me how I'm beginning to meet guys again since I opened myself up to the possibility of dating. For months I've been trying to keep to myself, but now that I welcome possibilities, it seems effortless meeting good guys. I'm suppossed to be hanging out this weekend with a guy I met 2 days ago. I think he's very cute and outgoing. But we decided not to make it a date so we're just gonna go bowling or go kart racing. icon_smile.gif

    I would like to kiss a guy before christmas. Wish me luck!...lol icon_redface.gif
  • newral

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    Dec 01, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    Esper said

    i hope it goes/went well. the guy is lucky.


    You're sweet! Thank you icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 01, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    Great to hear it went well. He will be busy as hell for a long time if he's graduating med school, but if you enjoyed spending time with him, take a chance.

    If it starts getting close to X-mas and the dry spell continues... feel free to give me a call.
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    Dec 01, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    hey bud, that sounds awesome!

    you gotta love that feeling when you're at the precipice of something new... when you're not sure if you'll end up really liking someone!
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    Dec 01, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    newral said
    On the downside, he lives about 1/2 hour away and seems too busy to have time for anything, so I don't know. He wants to hang out again soon so we'll see. I have no expectations.

    Wish me luck!...lol icon_redface.gif


    Welcome to the dating scenario. You meet a great guy and either they are barely getting by or so busy working they don't even have time for a relationship. Or they live in Omaha and you live in Denver. A distance of 539 miles.

    Yes, please take the luck LOL.
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    collegegraddude saidI have had this scenario happen to me...


    a new date after months of no activity. So I have learned my lesson do NOT get overly hopeful that things will heat up and do NOT get over excited to be on a date because the other guy just might be a
    4 and not a
    10.

    Easy problem to fix. You date him, his twin (or another guy who's about as ugly as him), and their friend who's twice as ugly.
    Your orgy of ugly is now a ten.
    4+4+2=10
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    Have sex with him on the first date, duh.
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:43 AM GMT
    Glad to hear that it went well!
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:44 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidOp this is your first date in months? What the fuck is wrong w men in Raleigh?????


    Yeah wtf