Coming out Bi

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    Nov 25, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    I have questions for pretty much all of rj. How do you come out? Who do you come out to? When is the right time? I mean I already accepted the fact that I am bisexual, its just my family and I are very religious based. Does anyone have problems coming out to religious family members. Thanks for the Help Guys. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 25, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    I have a video on my profile explaining my coming out story. Each person's story is a bit different.
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    Nov 26, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    A while back I came out to my friends as a bisexual man and like you I have religious parents and family so while I can't disclose certain information to them, at least you can be honest with your close friends...As long as you really know them that is.
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    Nov 26, 2011 5:56 AM GMT
    I have yet to come out to my parents, they are religous also. I have told three of friends that I am gay, and they are fine with it. I think it very hard to try to tell your parents. I have been with them for two solid days now and it is something that has been on my mind the whole time. from what guys on here have told me, since I asked these same questions on Sunday is to weight until it feels right pretty much, not to rush it (http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1965051/) The link is from my question if you would like to read what some of the gays told me.

    Good luck!!
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    Nov 26, 2011 7:48 PM GMT
    My best response for you is simply: don't be stressed, present yourself only after you feel accepting of yourself. When they'll see that you are secure with your understanding and acceptance of yourself the worst they'll probably be able to do is to try to convince you that you're wrong or deceived. The best that scenario is that they'll accept you as you (feel) you are and they will have learned something new about people. Remember that religion is fluid and religious people change their opinion depending on how information is presented to them.
    Good luck!
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    Nov 26, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    I got caught in the act. That's the easiest way to come out. icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 26, 2011 9:04 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    paulflexes saidI got caught in the act. That's the easiest way to come out. icon_lol.gif
    Pretty much. I wish that happened with my friends. They still don't believe me and think I'm just trolling them.


    Can you blame them? Trolling is one of your favorite passtimes, next to music.

    While I'm not out to my dad or extended family, I've made some of the not so obvious routes avaliable. If any of them decide to check my facebook, or look for my videogame character's name, they'll see links to here, or that I hang out with queer people, and have an interest in both men and women.
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    Nov 26, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    stratavos said
    Trollileo said
    paulflexes saidI got caught in the act. That's the easiest way to come out. icon_lol.gif
    Pretty much. I wish that happened with my friends. They still don't believe me and think I'm just trolling them.
    Can you blame them? Trolling is one of your favorite passtimes, next to music.
    I don't really troll, though. I just say dumb shit.


    what would we do without you trolieo?
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    Nov 26, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    I simply told my family the truth. I haven't told my father that i am bi just yet but my mother, brother, and sister are now aware of it. I come from a religious family as well and it was hard to do this at first. I sat them all down in the living room and said that i sleep with another man and liked it. My mother went into her religious rant on how it's a sin and blah blah blah and my brother was equally upset. I will say from experience that it will hurt the first time you tell your family but in time you will feel good that you did this because you are being honest with yourself and them.
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    Nov 26, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    Edward23 saidI simply told my family the truth. I haven't told my father that i am bi just yet but my mother, brother, and sister are now aware of it. I come from a religious family as well and it was hard to do this at first. I sat them all down in the living room and said that i sleep with another man and liked it. My mother went into her religious rant on how it's a sin and blah blah blah and my brother was equally upset. I will say from experience that it will hurt the first time you tell your family but in time you will feel good that you did this because you are being honest with yourself and them.


    Props to you for keeping it real boy
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    Nov 27, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    It was the photo evidence...icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 27, 2011 12:26 AM GMT
    At the end of the day only you can determine the answer to these questions. No one's answer is probably gonna be right, not even yours. However, by staying true to yourself you can't really disappoint yourself as long as you felt like you were doing it for your own reasons.

    If your family is very religious I can only imagine that when you do come out to them they may see your attraction to males as a temptation rather than a true part of your sexual orientation. But anywho...

    A lgbt group that I am talked about some of the things ppl might want to do before you come out:
    (No Order)

    -Have a support system
    -Financial stability
    -Mentally Ready
    -Write it down (Like in a letter or answers to possible questions they may have, though try to stay away from religious, values, morals debate; tell them you'll discuss that latter. *this moment is solely about you coming out, which is already enough haha)
    -Try not to demean there religion/values
    -Not on a big religious holiday

    I couldn't remember all the things we talked about but here were some, hope it helps.