Jun 05, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
I tend to think that a good way to measure how much someone cares for you is to guesstimate just to what degree they would carry on at your funeral.
I ask this question in jest because I'm not completely sold on my own conviction that a person will go into hysterics only if they love you. I am aware that people express their emotions differently and some withdraw.
I remember when my step-father died. I loved him a lot (more than she did, but that is another thread). Anyway, I remember thinking at his funeral that I wasn't crying enough. In truth, I hadn't cried a tear. I thought it was odd because I loved him so much and I was deeply hurt he was gone. I think the reason is because, he hadn't passed suddenly, it was something we all knew was coming, he had been ill for several months. Still I was very upset by my not crying. I managed to eventually, cry before the service was over. My mother on the other hand, was classic church lady, she was all over the place with her emotions, could have won an Oscar for her portrayal of the classic bereaved widow. Not to say that any of her actions didn't represent true heart felt emotion, but I remember thinking at the time, that if I died, I'd want my man to carry on a lot like that for me.
So, for the sake of the interesting comments I'll get to read, those of you with partners and boyfriends, how much do you think your man would carry on at your funeral??