Discussing Fitness in Chat

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    Nov 26, 2011 10:16 AM GMT
    OK. I am venting for a second.

    I was in the chat section of this website this morning. A very attractive person entered the room. In an effort to make polite conversation, I asked bout his fitness plan and how he stayed in shape.

    Everyone who has seen my profile knows that's the "quest" I am on.

    This person got rude and defensive and asked why I would want to know...

    So my question is this... This is RealJock, Gay Fitness, Health, & Life.

    Since when did it become inappropriate to ask someone about fitness on this website?

    I wasn't asking for a strip show or trying to marry him or anything. I was just making conversation. If you aren't interested, that's fine. Simply say, I'm really not interested.


    Thanks, I am done venting now.



  • calibro

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    Nov 26, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    depends on how you phrased it.
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    Nov 26, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    I phrased it --

    "So, tell about your fitness routine and how you stay in shape..."

    That's about it.

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    Nov 26, 2011 7:36 PM GMT
    That's an awfully broad question. You're literally asking the guy to sit down and write a huge essay as his first response. That's a lot of effort to ask for in a first-time chat. When I get questions like that in my work accounts, unless I happen to have a lot of time on my hands, I just send them a link to the FAQ page. Maybe a better opening question would be something that could reasonably be answered with a one sentence reply. Preferably preceded by asking whether it's OK to briefly pick his brains on that particular topic.
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    Nov 26, 2011 9:55 PM GMT
    Point taken.

    The person had just commented that there wasn't much going on. So, I thought I would be polite and strike up a conversation. That was the best I could come up with at the moment.

    Maybe it was a bit too complicated.

    These are things I am learning about the etiquette of this site as I go...

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    Nov 26, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    Just shrug off people like that. Most guys on here are very helpful, and more than glad to answer questions. I woulda said "never fuckin mind then." or something to that effect probably, but that's me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 26, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    Chat is where guys go to flirt with each other. You're better off posting fitness questions in the forums.
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    Nov 26, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    As mentioned earlier, it is a pretty broad question to be asking. When someone asks me for advice on how to stay in shape over the internet I typically drop my shoulders, sigh, and have myself a miniature temper tantrum (all for the sake of my own personal humor, of course). The problem is I could go on forever about it. I don't know what the person's goals are, what their eating habits are, what their gym habits are. The question typically comes across as a rather cheesy way to hit on someone. That may not have been your intention, but it comes across that way since the internet/books can provide more information that one person can. It's something I get asked at bars occasionally, and I typically try to divert the question in any way possible. It can be a rather annoying question to answer.

    Don't let it bother you though. I'm sure the guy was having a bad day and just needed to vent.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 28, 2011 6:01 AM GMT
    They may have read your questioning wrong or they are a D-bag either way why sweat it. Just ask someone else.icon_idea.gif