What are bath-houses like?

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    Nov 26, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    I watched an episode of queer as folk where brian has sex with a few guys in a 'gay bathhouse' ('the baths').

    Is it actually like that? What are they actually like?
    And, if you've had an experience in the bathhouse....what happened?... icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 26, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    deeley1 saidI watched an episode of queer as folk where brian has sex with a few guys in a 'gay bathhouse' ('the baths').

    Is it actually like that? What are they actually like?
    And, if you've had an experience in the bathhouse....what happened?... icon_twisted.gif



    Go check one out and you'll have your answer. Here you'll just get opposing views.
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    Nov 26, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    It's basically a place to have anonymous sex. The experience anybody has depends on the time, the type of bathhouse, the other people there, and other factors.

    What happened? A bathhouse in Fort Lauderdale is most likely where I contracted HIV, and was exposed to Hepatitis B in the early 1980's. I was in my late teens/early 20's and I used to like to cram 3-4 guys at a time into one of those little rooms while they would take turns fucking my ass and face...all night. We didn't use rubbers back then. I was a little cum dumpster.

    That's the downside risk of what may seem glamorous, but is really seedy and sleazy. Seedy and sleazy are usually part of the attraction.

    Take it from somebody who has lived with HIV for 27 years. Do yourself a favor. If you're not already HIV positive, do what you can to keep from becoming HIV positive.

    Know the risks, make your decisions. Know that your decisions can result in life changing consequences.
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    Nov 27, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    [quote]The experience anybody has depends on the time, the type of bathhouse, the other people there, and other factors.[/quote]

    This is true. While everybody is there for essentially the same reason, to get off, there are varying ways to do that.

    I enjoy the one here from time to time. It's fun even just to hang out and use the pool and hot tub as much as anything. Some light, safe play is nice too if there is someone desirable there. I'm not much into the whole top/btm thing but, if I were, it probably wouldn't be at a "bath" with a complete stranger.

    Worse comes to worse, I can just get myself off watching someone else or the porn they show on the TV's.

    Like most things, it's up to you as to how you want to enjoy it and to what level.
  • chubbtm5

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    Nov 29, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    GAMRican is right. The whole experience sounds more interesting that it is. I was also at the baths in Chicago quite often, sometimes 3 times a week. This was when I was in my 30s. I had plenty of sex, sometimes alone with a guy in a room, and sometimes gathered around the movie area for group sex. One guy I met, an African-American doctor, fucked me three times at our first meeting. He continued fucking me regularly at my apartment for a couple of years. Sometimes I would connect with a couple and they would fuck my mouth and ass at the same time. I went through a period when I liked public sex, so I got fucked many times in my room with the door open. Guys would pass by and look in, sometimes joining us, sometimes lining up to fuck me next. I also had sex in the showers and steam room and in the movie area. Around 4:00 a.m. many guys were looking for last sex before going home, and the action in the movie area was quite public. My last time there I got fucked by five guys and joined in a circle jerk with about twelve guys. Then I sucked off a few others. The action was very hot, totally naked and uninhibited. Then one day a friend of mine, who had seen me getting fucked at the baths the night before, told me he thought I was playing a dangerous game. He told me the truth about AIDS and all the other STDs. He told me about the friends he had lost (this was 1985) and his friends who had to take piles of pills to stay alive. He told me about his many friends who had caught gonorreah or syphilis or herpes and how I was risking my health by fucking around so recklessly. Well, that friend saved my life. I learned that the baths are breeding grounds for all kinds of diseases and that men will lie about their health. I had a complete checkup and it was only by the grace of God that I had not caught anything more serious than a wart. I never went back to the baths. I understand some men's desire for frequent sex and multiple partners, but now we have a good idea how to prevent catching anything, which we didn't 25 years ago.
  • jackthejock

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    Nov 30, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    Personally I think that the bath houses are part of the same internalized homophobia that causes gay men to become Republicans who get caught trying to have sex in an airport bathroom. When people don't think they can be open about who they are, and don't think that they can find love with another person than they are more likely to get into the anonymous sex scene.
  • blackslut23

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    Dec 01, 2013 4:28 AM GMT
    Just bring condoms lots of them.whenyou goto bathhouses thats all
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    Dec 01, 2013 4:31 AM GMT
    I inadvertently went to a bath house in Guadalajara, Mexico. Chilled out in the pool waiting for an attractive man to come by. A muscular older man got in and I approached him. I was obviously foreign so he asked where I was from and all that. We fooled with each other a bit under the water, then got out and went to a private room.
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    Dec 01, 2013 8:11 AM GMT
    Kinda weird and dirty! I went to that one bath house in Hollywood, Is it The Blow Buddies? on Santa Monica and SYcamore? ANyway, it was kinda dark, dungeon, a little creepy! I saw a couple of creepy guys jerking off in some corner! Lol, anyway wasted $25 member fees! I figure just going to the bars is just easier! lol
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    Dec 01, 2013 12:14 PM GMT
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    deeley1 saidI watched an episode of queer as folk where brian has sex with a few guys in a 'gay bathhouse' ('the baths').

    Is it actually like that? What are they actually like?
    And, if you've had an experience in the bathhouse....what happened?... icon_twisted.gif

    Go check one out and you'll have your answer. Here you'll just get opposing views.

    Opposing views not only because guys have different personal attitudes towards bathhouses, but the bathhouses themselves can be as different as night & day.

    Some are dank holes, little better than an unfinished factory basement. So-called steam rooms are cold & dirty, with a moldy smell I can only term New York City subway station.

    Yet others are palaces, with fully equipped modern gyms, columned Grecian decor, luxurious large swimming pools, attractive glass-walled gang showers, leather upholstered media lounges, immaculate saunas & steam rooms kept at a perfect temperature, and elegant amenities everywhere. All very much like an upscale spa for men. And of course everyone nude or with a towel wrap, or some minimal gym wear in the workout rooms.

    One place where I was a member had an extensive poolside complimentary buffet on weekends, complete with a carving station where the attendant was dressed in full chef's whites. In stark contrast with the members standing around stark naked, rather amusing to see it. Of course you paid a premium price for all this.

    So bathhouses can vary greatly, from dumps to dazzling. You can try checking them out online first. And of course make sure you understand what safe sex is all about, and practice it without exception. Even the poshest places will have HIV-poz guys there, and carrying other STDs as well, you must just assume it, a given. So that if you feel insecure navigating such a risky health environment then don't go there, no matter how attractive it may appear, nor how tempting the easy sex with strangers may be.
  • Apparition

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    Dec 03, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    amusing story..

    before porn was on the internet and free it was harder to come by. we went to a bathouse for the first time. We walked through the showers and there was a huge hot tub and a (for then) enormous screen playing good porn right in front of us. I couldnt figure out why all the guys were crowded at the far end of the hot tub with their backs to the huge screen. Guys would a leave and new guys would always sit with their backs to the porn, I had the opposite end to myself, figuring I had a view of the porn and the guys in the tub.

    When there was finally a break in the crowd, I moved to the other end to see what was so popular (figuring it was a waterjet or something). When I turned around, I realized that the real show was looking back into the shower room which I had had my back to all evening. DOH!

  • f2muscle

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    Dec 03, 2013 5:22 AM GMT
    I think it was Dan Savage who said bath houses are whore houses staffed with volunteers. icon_eek.gif
  • memphis

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    Dec 03, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    I think the sight of so many naked guys all together for one reason is hot as hell! The sexual tension is palpable. And the hot tubs and steam rooms feel great! But it needs to be a clean and busy location, which you'll only find in very big cities. The ones in smaller cities are never worthwhile. But, you must play safely!
  • Koaa2

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    Dec 03, 2013 8:51 PM GMT
    Been to many all over the world. Always enjoyed them, met some nice people. Just depends on what type of experience you are looking for and whether or not you can be flexible with it all.
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    Dec 03, 2013 9:04 PM GMT
    If one is doing hook-ups, it is probably safer to go to the baths with them, than to go back to their place, or to a motel room. And cheaper than the motel room.
  • hokie88

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    Dec 03, 2013 11:22 PM GMT
    As long as you're sure to be safe, bathhouses can be a lot of fun. I've read a lot of reviews in different cities for bathhouses (while considering visiting one); some are clean and beautiful, some are dirty and revolting; some are frequented by plethora of sexy men, some are solely attended by hideous trolls who creepily follow you around if you're even remotely attractive (or young).

    I've only been to one official gay sauna/bathhouse (the steam room/sauna/showers at a clothing optional gay men's campground/resort doesn't count, in my mind lol) and it was actually pretty awesome:

    I was in Rome for a few days when studying abroad, met up with a guy from online and toured for a little while, then he asked what I wanted to do and I told him I'd been wanting to go to a bathhouse the whole time I'd been in Europe. We went to one right up the street from the Colosseum. The hot tub always had like 4 guys in it, the steam room around 3-5, and 3-5 in the sauna. Guys were always jacking off or jacking/sucking each other, very few were there just spectating. The back had a small theater with cinema seats and a projection screen, then booths behind that with sliding doors and little beds for sex (the theater had a few guys, the booths had several people coupled, tripled, and quadrupled up, the whole place probably had about 25-30 guys total). I did a few cycles with the guy, fooling with several dudes, then he and I went to a booth and finished up with a 1-on-1 grand finale(safely, naturally).

    All in all, it's pretty fun if you're into anonymous and semi-public sex (something I've really got to be in the mood for, and never bareback). If you're interested, give it a shot, just be safe.
  • takashi

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    Dec 04, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    I would love to go to a bathhouse like this, 'Yet others are palaces, with fully equipped modern gyms, columned Grecian decor, luxurious large swimming pools, attractive glass-walled gang showers, leather upholstered media lounges, immaculate saunas & steam rooms kept at a perfect temperature, and elegant amenities everywhere. All very much like an upscale spa for men.'

    The one near me is a dark place with rooms and a maze and showers and a steam room. I bring rubbers and rubber slippers so I don't go bareback or barefoot.

    Still if I really want sex then I know I will get it. I have had some of the most amazing sex in that bathhouse.
    Guys over 8 inches, where I had to give incredible effort just to let the guy inside of me. No matter what, that is some intense coupling.