I hang out in the chat room during the daytime at work, and post in forums occasionally, but I find myself spending more time in the chat room. The regulars there are a great set of guys who are great to get immediate feedback from- there's no guarantee if you post something in the forums that someone will actually respond, but in the chat room you can have the same sort of dialogues that exist in the forum, at a much faster rate. I find that the chat room keeps me on my toes when I'm debating someone, because I have to be able to defend anything I say immediately, and not take hours to cogitate to defend or respond to any position. Sex talk does happen, but it's not like it doesn't take place here either. Having a cam there is the same as being verified on the forums, and even if you don't, people will still talk to you, once you engage them in the proper manner (not rude, disrespectful, or making untoward sexual advances). The friends I have from the chat room know more about me than anyone from the forums (with one notable exception, http://www.realjock.com/profile/?id=135893
) and I feel more comfortable talking to someone who I can see face to face, albeit from a large distance.