Straight guys just dont get it...

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    Jun 05, 2008 2:20 PM GMT
    I am completely out and open at work. The reason I bring this up is because most of the straight guys at work have been pretty cool about me being gay and a few of them I have been able to help out because of it...

    I have hooked up so many straight couples at work...wether it be one night stands or the one I fixed up that has lasted a year now. The straight guys have come to understand me and respect me for who I am, not just because I suck dick. We have actually been able to use it to their advantage because the women I hook them up with will be totally honest with me about how they feel and there ya go!

    I wonder why more straight guys wont just let go of their egos and if they befriended more gay guys...they could so use them to their advantage to get so much more!!! Anyway, just thought it was a funny situation...anyone relate?
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    Jun 05, 2008 2:45 PM GMT
    Most of my friends are straight and they love me and my fellow "mos". In general, you need to be around people who are attracted to you not your sexuality.
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    Jun 05, 2008 2:45 PM GMT
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    Jun 05, 2008 2:48 PM GMT
    My "core" friends are ALL straight and these are the same guys that I played sports with in High School....
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    Jun 06, 2008 4:20 AM GMT
    some heter guys will never be comforable with it, things may not be as real as u would like but man thats life, depends what they mean to u.
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    Jun 06, 2008 1:21 PM GMT
    Many straight guys think they will be looked at as gay if they befriend a gay guy. Also alot of straight guys think that if you have sex with a guy and fall in love with a guy, you are somehow less masculine. I have never understood that thought process, some of the most masculine guys I know are as queer as a $3 dollar bill. icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 10, 2008 3:28 PM GMT
    ramblinfreak, interesting phenomenon your story about your relationships with your straight friends. I can't remember where I read it but it was about gay dolphins in pods of dolphins. The gay dolphins had the same effect among the group to an extent and ameliorate interpod hostility.

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    Jul 21, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    My experience is similar to the OP. I've found that the more open I am in all facets of my life the generally positive experience I have. That's not to say that there's not a certain amount of fear when opening that door. However, I tend to just talk about my life, partner, family and friends just like everyone else without editing my pronoun usage. It's not my burden whether people are comfortable with it or not, but I find it useful when I discover someone who has hang ups. Lifes to short to deal with bigots, and being honest and open has brought many many more positive experiences than negative. When I do encounter negative folks I'd much rather know so I can limit my interaction with them, but again that has been a rare occurrence.
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    Jul 21, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    Ummmmmmm. I use my straight friends to help me with lots of things and they are more than willing to help me too.

    The smart straight men are cool and wise about life and realize that gay or straight.........men are men.

    To a certain extent it depends on geography and where you live. There is a big difference between living in NYC and living in the boodocks somewhere in the states.

    Plus my straight friends use me to get them dates since I can be so freakin charming with the ladies and then refer the ladies to them.

    But all my straight friends know me for who I am rather than some gay guy who wants to get in their pants. And believe it or not I am comfortable with them because they don't want to get in MY pants.

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    Jul 21, 2010 3:41 AM GMT
    I think straight guys are finally catching on to it though... Most of my friends that I hang out with often are straight, and they ALWAYS want me to come out with them because they have figured out that a gay man is the best wing man you could ever have... It's kinda sad how easy it is for me to get a girl to hookup with any friend of mine. They can basically choose whoever they want, and it never seems to fail. So every weekend I get phone calls to go out with them, and its fun, but it started to get a little old because sometimes I want to be able to hit on a guy or something lol, so I told them they have to start finding me guys if I am going to be finding them girls lol... They are totally game for it, but it has never really worked yet... If we ever go out to a gay club, everyone always hits on them instead, or it makes me look unavailable with them around, who knows,haha... Still have to figure out how to make it work both ways