Older guys, would you date a younger man?

  • bolero_of_fir...

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    Nov 27, 2011 7:12 PM GMT
    I always see this question asked on reverse, if a younger guy would date someone older than him. But what about you older guys? Would you even want to date a younger guy?

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    Nov 27, 2011 7:43 PM GMT
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    Nov 27, 2011 9:28 PM GMT
    As long as it's not a daddy/son thing, then yes.

    And I think as guys get older, age difference becomes less relevant. A 35 yo with a 20 yo...some people may have a problem with that. A 50 yo with a 35 yo...no problem at all
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    Nov 27, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    Not me. I like guy's around my age....more in common. I wouldn't know what to say about Lady Gaga.
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    Nov 27, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidNope.

    Granted "younger" has to be defined, but if you're referring to an over 12 year (max!) age difference, I personally don't have any interest. Dragons be there. icon_eek.gif

    I actually start counting at 16....I care how long a person has been an adult, not how long they've been on the planet (your time filling diapers and making mudpies doesn't count for me.) So if a guy is 25 to my 45, I really think of him as 9 to my 29 in adult years....that's just freakishly absurd. icon_eek.gif

    A lot of the cuties are fun to flirt with on RJ, and I'm glad they're kind enough to banter with a geri like me. But I'd rather be big gay uncle/mentor to them than anything creepier than that.

    You're breaking my heart. ;)
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    Nov 27, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    If you making at life commitment with someone 25 to 30 years older than you, you are very likely setting yourself up to be a widower at an early age in life. If this were to happen to you around my age (45), the chances of finding someone again to spend the rest of your life has greatly decreased. Yes, death of your partner can happen no matter how old the person you are dating, but you increase your chances greatly when they are much older than you. If I were single today that is just one of many reasons that would keep me away from someone much younger.
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    Nov 27, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    depends on the guy..............and if i don't have to be a "daddy" to him.
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    Nov 27, 2011 10:59 PM GMT
    It didn't work out too well the last time, so I'll respond with a firm "maybe"
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    Nov 27, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    Buddyboy938 saidNot me. I like guy's around my age....more in common. I wouldn't know what to say about Lady Gaga.


    Then you need to talk with more young guys. It's not like I know tons of them, but I do know quite a few and don't know any who like Lady Gaga.

    And when you speak with these younger guys, you'll find that many of them like older guys because we're not into that Lady Gaga shit like guys their own age are.
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    Nov 27, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    Below 30? No, most likely not.
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    Nov 27, 2011 11:33 PM GMT
    Oh, I would date one on a Monday
    A Monday, a Monday is very very good
    Or I would date one on a Tuesday
    A Tuesday, a Tuesday in fact I wish I could
    Or I could date one on a Wednesday
    A Thursday, a Friday, and Saturday is best
    But never never on a Sunday
    A Sunday, a Sunday 'cause that's my day of rest

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    Nov 28, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    bolero_of_fire said I always see this question asked on reverse, if a younger guy would date someone older than him. But what about you older guys? Would you even want to date a younger guy?



    depends on what you mean by younger. would i date a guy that's 1-5 years younger than i am. absolutely!

    would i date a guy that's 15-20 years younger... i don't think i could. i just don't find them attractive enough for me to do this.

    i think of the dynamic involved: i have a maturity and knowledge level that come only from living through years and experiences. i want a guy who is pretty much on the same wavelength.
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    Nov 28, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    yeah yeah, i probably would .. *yawns*
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    Nov 28, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    I've usually dated guys somewhat younger - from a year or so to about 10 years. I've had a couple of long term guys - one was 9 years and the other 10 years younger. No real reason for that........it just happened. Now I'm in a relationship with someone who is THE one, and he's about a 1 1/2 years older. This is the best though, and it is great being able to share a frame of reference. We have a ton of topics we can talk about, having grown up in a similar time. We're at the same place in our lives.

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    Nov 28, 2011 5:25 AM GMT
    I would. As a general rule of thumb, no more than 5 years younger. But it really depends on the maturity level. I've met some really mature and smart guys in their mid 20's.
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    Nov 28, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    Current BF is 9 years younger, which is coincidentally what our next anniversary will be. This is my longest relationship to date, so I guess it's working.
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    Nov 28, 2011 7:41 AM GMT
    We have been together for over a year now. I didn't go looking for a youngin but he was the best man I could find for the job.
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    Nov 29, 2011 7:37 AM GMT
    Alpha, very nice. I am not looking for an older/younger man. I am looking for a that person who just clicks/matches me. We all have flaws and weakness. I look for that person that wants me for who I am regardless of age.
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    Nov 29, 2011 8:06 AM GMT
    Honestly, I would not rule it out. However, we must be able to relate on very personal topics, maturity, attitudes, lifestyles and mainly communication. Able to discuss different preference without disdain. For instance, I like Lady Gaga, also like IL DIVO. The ability to conduct oneself in public as well as in private, knowing the difference of the two. J.C.