feel like a failure?

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    Nov 28, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    So, im 23, and - pretty much going no where in my life.. i literally have no idea what i wanna do with my life + kinda have lost hope..

    what are you life stories/ struggles/ accomplishments? i kinda need some support literally feel like falling apart at the moment icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 28, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
    How can you feel like a failure if you haven't done anything yet?

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    Nov 28, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    I have 2 cars and a smoker grill older than you!

    If you look back from age 40 and feel like a failure, get back to me then....icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 28, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    Patrick88 saidSo, im 23, and - pretty much going no where in my life.. i literally have no idea what i wanna do with my life + kinda have lost hope..

    what are you life stories/ struggles/ accomplishments? i kinda need some support literally feel like falling apart at the moment icon_sad.gif


    What exactly should you have accomplished at 23? Hell, I didn't even have my first boyfriend until I was 23....icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 28, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    malefeet said
    Patrick88 saidSo, im 23, and - pretty much going no where in my life.. i literally have no idea what i wanna do with my life + kinda have lost hope..

    what are you life stories/ struggles/ accomplishments? i kinda need some support literally feel like falling apart at the moment icon_sad.gif


    What exactly should you have accomplished at 23? Hell, I didn't even have my first boyfriend until I was 23....icon_wink.gif


    awwww icon_smile.gif yay ! i havent had one either - just feel like my life hasnt met the "guidelines" america sets up in kids heads these days. yah know?

    and im human and i look at other peoples accomplishments and instead of being supportive im jealous ? guess i can only change myself
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    Nov 28, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    No worries man- I'm 23 too and we're in similar positions. I've never been in a serious relationship either and I don't really want one right now. I had to move back in with my parents after college, and I'm working a part-time job making $10 an hour. I've learned to be ok with all of this- for whatever reason, the way I've seen my life work out, this is where it has taken me for right now. The job I have is at least a solid starting point in the field I want to be in and I'm studying for a personal training certification which will hopefully give me more options. So basically- don't get too hung up on supposedly not having accomplished anything, it's your life and you have a lot of it to go. If you don't like it then figure out how to change it and put it into action.
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    Nov 28, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    !!! thanks wolfman!
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    Nov 28, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    You just need to market your fetish develop a socially acceptable obsession passion in life. Or get used to just winging it like the rest of us.

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    Nov 28, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    at 23, its called 'making mistakes, and learning from them".... and when you learn from one, wow, there will be another lesson to learn from... and it will keep on going. Get used to it... Called the 'game of life'.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    Patrick88 saidSo, im 23, and - pretty much going no where in my life.. i literally have no idea what i wanna do with my life + kinda have lost hope..

    what are you life stories/ struggles/ accomplishments? i kinda need some support literally feel like falling apart at the moment icon_sad.gif

    Patrick......Never...Never...Never forget this is only a temporary thing.
    Don't let your mind trick you into thinking otherwise.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    Patrick88 saidSo, im 23, and - pretty much going no where in my life.. i literally have no idea what i wanna do with my life + kinda have lost hope..

    what are you life stories/ struggles/ accomplishments? i kinda need some support literally feel like falling apart at the moment icon_sad.gif
    Listen, I think we all go through that at some point in our young lives. I had the same problem but I was in college. It took me 3 years to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I finally figure it out but that meant two extra years in college because of it. I would not change a thing. Things will become clear, just give it some time
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    wolfpackbuddy saidNo worries man- I'm 23 too and we're in similar positions. I've never been in a serious relationship either and I don't really want one right now. I had to move back in with my parents after college, and I'm working a part-time job making $10 an hour. I've learned to be ok with all of this- for whatever reason, the way I've seen my life work out, this is where it has taken me for right now. The job I have is at least a solid starting point in the field I want to be in and I'm studying for a personal training certification which will hopefully give me more options. So basically- don't get too hung up on supposedly not having accomplished anything, it's your life and you have a lot of it to go. If you don't like it then figure out how to change it and put it into action.


    I do believe you have provided a logical answer. Perhaps the OP can provide us with context in regards to his "life" condition.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    First, you are just fine!! Better than fine...you should feel great!! Fact: you obviously have a roof over your head, food to eat, and an Internet to be entertained on! Don’t beat yourself up because you feel that you “aren’t going anywhere in life.” You’re in a good position because you have a clean slate ahead of you. I don’t know your past or what your current situation is, so the advice I would give probably wouldn’t work for you because I don’t know you.

    What I would say is to sit down with someone that knows you...knows your ambitions...knows your desires...knows you inside and out. Talk to them about goal-setting and where you want to go or about potential things that you would like to do. Put small goals out there and seek to achieve those first, then move on to the larger goals. That way, it will make it easier to change mid-stride if you need to. All-in-all, you have a lot of potential and flexibility to create a solid foundation for yourself. So pursue that with positive energy and kick this negative slump out of the window!!

    And as dysfunctional as this place can be, I know that you can find a support network here, so don’t hesitate to reach out to some people about careers, certifications, or whatever!

    Keep your head up and start to shine!! Good luck!!
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    Nov 28, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidThere are people who are in their 40's still trying to figure out what they want to do when they grow up...


    40s? Lucky them. I'm almost 55 & trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. You think I'm one of the oldest kids in school now? Just wait until I do this again in my 70s.

    10 years in construction. Enjoyed it. Got tired of it. 20 years in publishing, loved it, then I'd had enough. Now onto my next entry level job. I'm moving down in the world.

    You find a few things that you might enjoy or that you won't hate too much. You make a decision. You put one foot in front of the other. And that decision becomes your life until you decide otherwise.

    Even at my age I might see 100. Kids today in their 20s could possibly see 110 or 120 or who knows. What are you going to do, stress about working one career that you might only work until you're, say, 60, and then do nothing for the next 50 or 60 years? Think how stressed out yer gonna be by the time you hit 87 or so.

    Relax. Do something, anything--it doesn't matter--for 5 or 10 or 20 years and then you can continue with that or go do something else. This is that kind of world.

    "Like you got squat to celebrate! You're a delivery boy this millennium and you'll be a delivery boy next millennium!"~~Futurama

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    Nov 29, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    You're not a failure till someone puts your pic on failblog.