Two (not-so-versatile) Tops

  • dcguy987

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    Nov 28, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    OK guys. I'm sure this has been posted before, but I'd love to hear from some of y'all with experience here. My guy and I are both tops. We will bottom for each other sometimes out of necessity, and we will enjoy it, but neither of us gets excited by the idea of bottoming.

    What have you done in the past to keep an active sex life when you're both tops and neither really likes to bottom that much?
  • calibro

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    Nov 28, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    buy a bag of bagels
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    Nov 28, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    Start up a sign-up thread here on RJ. I'm sure you won't have any problem finding bottoms here willing to help you guys out. ;)
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    Nov 28, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    TriAthInCA saidStart up a sign-up thread here on RJ. I'm sure you won't have any problem finding bottoms here willing to help you guys out. ;)


    Somewhat of a joking answer, but you might take it seriously. This is one of the main reasons my partner and I decided to have a degree of negotiated openness in our relationship - though it took us 23 years to get to that point. icon_wink.gif As with any sexual disconnect, this can be kind of a tough one, especially if you value monogamy. Best wishes and good luck.
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    Nov 28, 2011 3:57 PM GMT
    Find a bttm to devour
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    Nov 28, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    up1ntheair saidOK guys. I'm sure this has been posted before, but I'd love to hear from some of y'all with experience here. My guy and I are both tops. We will bottom for each other sometimes out of necessity, and we will enjoy it, but neither of us gets excited by the idea of bottoming.

    What have you done in the past to keep an active sex life when you're both tops and neither really likes to bottom that much?





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    Nov 28, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    Spit roast a bottom between you both.

    Definitely a good way to kill an evening, and make a deserving bottom feel just a little extra whorey for that night =P
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    Nov 28, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    up1ntheair saidOK guys. I'm sure this has been posted before, but I'd love to hear from some of y'all with experience here. My guy and I are both tops. We will bottom for each other sometimes out of necessity, and we will enjoy it, but neither of us gets excited by the idea of bottoming.

    What have you done in the past to keep an active sex life when you're both tops and neither really likes to bottom that much?


    I'll be more than willing to bring you guys closer together!!!
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    Nov 28, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    Scissor.
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    Nov 28, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    AlphaTrigger saidSpit roast a bottom between you both.

    Definitely a good way to kill an evening, and make a deserving bottom feel just a little extra whorey for that night =P
    I'll be the roast!
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    Nov 28, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    Brandon112586 saidScissor.


    +1

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SS-DSg394Dg
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    Nov 28, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    Perfect the art of the blow job icon_surprised.gif
  • groundcombat

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    Nov 28, 2011 9:16 PM GMT
    This is a dumb question. You both knew going in that neither liked to bottom so why are you surprised when your sex life sucks? Not to say the two tops/bottoms can't be together but the issue should've been obvious from the get go. You guys can man up and bottom, find another bottom, or STFU. Next question.
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    It could have been worse--you could have been two bottoms. There are many highly satisfying and distinctly pleasurable things that two tops can do together sexually. Be creative and put your imagination to good use.
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    calibro saidbuy a bag of bagels


    I loves the bagels....icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 29, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    groundcombat saidThis is a dumb question. You both knew going in that neither liked to bottom so why are you surprised when your sex life sucks? Not to say the two tops/bottoms can't be together but the issue should've been obvious from the get go. You guys can man up and bottom, find another bottom, or STFU. Next question.


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    Nov 29, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    Assuming you're monogamous and sharing a bottom is out of the question, frottage is fun. My ex wouldn't let me top him, but he let me do that and it was awesome.
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    Nov 29, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    Find a woman! there are TWO holes! icon_wink.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Nov 29, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    up1ntheair saidOK guys. I'm sure this has been posted before, but I'd love to hear from some of y'all with experience here. My guy and I are both tops. We will bottom for each other sometimes out of necessity, and we will enjoy it, but neither of us gets excited by the idea of bottoming.

    What have you done in the past to keep an active sex life when you're both tops and neither really likes to bottom that much?


    I'll be more than willing to bring you guys closer together!!!


    ↑ I am curious as to how exactly a ( soon to be?) married/monogamous man is gonna do that =)
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    Nov 29, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    jerk each other off...................
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    Nov 29, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    Now I have to Google FROT or FROTTAGE...
    Sex is important and I guess you need to find what works best and stick to that, or find a third... but finding a third or occasional third may ruin the relationship... of course not resolving your sex issues will cause one to linger.
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    Nov 29, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    MaxStirner saidNow I have to Google FROT or FROTTAGE...
    Sex is important and I guess you need to find what works best and stick to that, or find a third... but finding a third or occasional third may ruin the relationship... of course not resolving your sex issues will cause one to linger.


    so THAT'S what that word means... got it.
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    Nov 29, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    ^ OH I didn't know it had a name. I just called it fun till now.
  • dcguy987

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    Nov 29, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    Thanks for some real responses - PM8 not a phantom profile but thanks for your concern.

    And the dude who said to stfu...c'mon man, it's a forum, if you don't like the question don't waste time posting a reply.

    If anyone has experience in dealing with/negotiating these sorts of things with a partner, message me. I'd really appreciate it!
  • jackthejock

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    Nov 30, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    I agree with the people that said frottage is the way to go. My boyfriend and I are both versatile but we still both like frottage a lot, it is easier than dealing with condoms, lube..ect my personal fav is when he lays on his stomach and I fuck between his ass cheeks but don't actually penetrate him and then cum all over his back. He like it when I am on my back and he fucks between my thigh and my junk. Also, you can always squirt some lube on your thighs and let him fuck you between your legs doggy style