Unreasonable fear of the weight room...?

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    Nov 28, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Pretty much what the topic says.
    I have an unreasonable fear of going into the weight room, and I feel like this has been keeping me from getting stronger/leaner, etc.
    I've gotten by, but I feel like I need to somehow get over it and get my butt in there. Any other way besides just sucking it up?
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    Nov 28, 2011 9:55 PM GMT
    The question is ask yourself is why you are afraid of the weight room. Is it that the muscle-bound jocks and ladies are intimidating? Is it a fear of getting hurt by the large, heavy weights? Is it a fear of looking inadequate when lifting light weights? Is it more of a sociological fear of not fitting in or being ostracized? Is it a fear of potentially being aroused and subsequently embarrassed by someone you may find attractive?

    Once you figure out the root cause of your apprehension, you can start to address it. Without getting into your head to discover the root cause, just take it slow. Take a day and tour the weight room with one of the managers or with a friend. You’ll get the chance to walk around and see the weight room in a different light with the security of a friend or manager. Then start off by going at a time when it’s less crowded, if the crowd is what is giving you pause. Go early in the morning or late at night to get acquainted and comfortable with the environment. Have your iPod or something that you can focus on to ease the apprehension as you lift, as well as a workout log so your attention is on lifting, music/journal during your rest periods.

    Everyone goes through a little bit of uneasiness when it comes to the gym, but it isn’t anything you can’t overcome with ease! Good luck!!
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    Nov 28, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    I was the same way for a while. The more you go, the more you'll get used to it.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:13 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidYou're definitely not the only one afraid of lifting. I was always afraid of looking like an idiot who didn't know what he was doing. I've been researching lifting form and routines for a few months now and I plan to start lifting in January. The only thing I'm really afraid of now is that I don't know how much weight to start with.


    January's too late!! Start tomorrow!! What you'll probably have to do is experiment with varying weights and lift what feels comfortable, while giving you an effective workout. If it's ten pound dumbbells, then it's ten pound dumbbells! Trust me, any quy who has lifted had to start with those same ten pound dumbbells!

    But I'm also glad to hear that you focused on reearching exercises and form BEFORE hitting the gym. A lot of guys neglect that aspect of lifting and jeopardize their entire goal with improper technique. Once you start, it sounds like you will be well on your way to achieving the goals you set forth! Good luck!!
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    SemiTransparency saidPretty much what the topic says.
    I have an unreasonable fear of going into the weight room, and I feel like this has been keeping me from getting stronger/leaner, etc.
    I've gotten by, but I feel like I need to somehow get over it and get my butt in there. Any other way besides just sucking it up?


    What is that you are afraid of?

    Most people are there for an individual experience, and could care less about you lol. Just observe some basic etiquette, and don't kill yourself icon_razz.gif Everyone hates blood splatter on the benches.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    When I started on my "quest" over the summer, I was able to use the fitness room at the college I work for. It has weights and other equipment, but I just used the elliptical for the first month or so. Then I audited a summer class of weight training - which was only for a month and let me ease into it. It was a basic weight training program, and one that I could easily continue on my own for that month.

    I sort of progressed as far as I could to on that and I have been working with a trainer for the last few weeks. - Let me just say, I am sooo glad that I didn't try going in there when I weighed over 300 pounds.

    I am just a bit over 200 pounds and I am the fattest person in the room. It is so intimidating to me. I feel like a weakling when I see teenage kids grabbing 60 pound dumbbells and I am lifting 15 pound dumbbells. - So, I feel your pain.

    However, you have to make the decision of what's is more important to you. Is this worth overcoming your fear. I can tell you that anyone that knows me would never guess that I would 1) Be spending time in a gym and 2) Love it.

    I may be a gym rat before it's all said and done.

    If you have the proper help to make sure you are doing the exercises correctly and not risking injury, really what do you have to lose? You may be uncomfortable at first, but it will pass. I am still uncomfortable, but the people in my gym seem to be genuinely nice and as we all start getting to know each other better, it gets easier.

    Good luck to you.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    I was the same way a few years ago. Find a time when you know the gym won't be busy and go then. Keep at it and you'll find your comfort zone.
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    Nov 28, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Marvel_X said
    Trollileo saidYou're definitely not the only one afraid of lifting. I was always afraid of looking like an idiot who didn't know what he was doing. I've been researching lifting form and routines for a few months now and I plan to start lifting in January. The only thing I'm really afraid of now is that I don't know how much weight to start with.


    January's too late!! Start tomorrow!! What you'll probably have to do is experiment with varying weights and lift what feels comfortable, while giving you an effective workout. If it's ten pound dumbbells, then it's ten pound dumbbells! Trust me, any quy who has lifted had to start with those same ten pound dumbbells!

    But I'm also glad to hear that you focused on reearching exercises and form BEFORE hitting the gym. A lot of guys neglect that aspect of lifting and jeopardize their entire goal with improper technique. Once you start, it sounds like you will be well on your way to achieving the goals you set forth! Good luck!!
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    Nov 28, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    SemiTransparency saidPretty much what the topic says.
    I have an unreasonable fear of going into the weight room, and I feel like this has been keeping me from getting stronger/leaner, etc.
    I've gotten by, but I feel like I need to somehow get over it and get my butt in there. Any other way besides just sucking it up?


    Try to frame it in a real context. You give yourself way too much importance. Understand, all those folks in the weight room started someplace. In a world of 7 BILLION people, to be real honest, nobody gives a shit about you and the weight room.

    Go work out. If you need a friend to hold your hand, or a trainer, do that, but, go work out. The worst enemy is within, and your fear is not good.

    Get this book: SOS Help For Emotions. Read it.

    Make a plan. Execute it. Looking a certain way is by design (other than your genetic features.).

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    Unless you are standing in front of them, tieing up three benches, or leaving your weights laying around, folks could CARE LESS about you at the gym. Get over yourself.
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    Nov 28, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    SemiTransparency said... Any other way besides just sucking it up?
    Try sucking the manager. It makes going to the gym much more fun. icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 29, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    You fear what random people in a weight room might think of you but not what random people on the internet think of you?

    Please read this: http://inoveryourhead.net/the-complete-guide-to-not-giving-a-fuck/

    Peace.
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    Nov 29, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    What worked for my similar fear/hesitation was what someone else said "go when it's slow" so you get a feel for the place; then once you've got that down you'll likely be more comfortable when there at busier times. It worked for me years ago. So did having a workout partner at times.
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    Nov 29, 2011 12:28 AM GMT
    Nothing to worry about. If you feel a little self-conscious at the beginning, that's normal. Just make yourself go. Soon it will all seem natural and you won't feel self-conscious anymore.
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    Nov 29, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    I feel like i can relate. Crank your mp3 player to max and don't make eye contact with anyone. icon_smile.gif
    I get weird social anxiety when it comes to working out in public gyms. Especially commercial gyms.
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    I had the same problem. I was very intimidated by the mere notion of being around other people while I was working out. I got over it by thinking "what's the worse that could happen?" Even if I completely humiliate myself, all I have to do is find another gym.
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:28 AM GMT
    Try going in the mornings. People usually wanna do their work out and go to work. Evenings are usually crowded with little high school boys and those mofos stare, stand around and just waste time and take up space. Put a hat and headphones on and do your thing. Stop making excuses.
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    I used to be afraid of the weight room too. You walk in and there are all these butch buff attractive guys working out. After going for several months I got used to it and do not feel comfortable anymore. Now I am so comfortable that I follow these guys around the room. I would stand right up behind them with my 5lbs dumbbell and do bicep curls and stare at them while they work out. They give me these dirty looks but I don't care, honeybadger don't give a shit. I am currently working up the courage to following them into showers and going into the same stall as them.
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidI used to be afraid of the weight room too. You walk in and there are all these butch buff attractive guys working out. After going for several months I got used to it and do not feel comfortable anymore. Now I am so comfortable that I follow these guys around the room. I would stand right up behind them with my 5lbs dumbbell and do bicep curls and stare at them while they work out. They give me these dirty looks but I don't care, honeybadger don't give a shit. I am currently working up the courage to following them into showers and going into the same stall as them.


    He's right bc he creeps me all the time 24 hr fitness ;)
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidI used to be afraid of the weight room too. You walk in and there are all these butch buff attractive guys working out. After going for several months I got used to it and do not feel comfortable anymore. Now I am so comfortable that I follow these guys around the room. I would stand right up behind them with my 5lbs dumbbell and do bicep curls and stare at them while they work out. They give me these dirty looks but I don't care, honeybadger don't give a shit. I am currently working up the courage to following them into showers and going into the same stall as them.


    5lbs dumbbell? You're making progress I'm proud of you. Soon you'll be able to lift 6 lbs.

    Baby's growing up.


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    Nov 29, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    SemiTransparency saidPretty much what the topic says.
    I have an unreasonable fear of going into the weight room


    Because of...? Fear of dropping a weight on your foot? Fear of pissing off some roid raging closet case who'll smush your head in between two dumbbells?

    What is about the weightroom that's scaring you? Once you know that, you'll know how to conquer it.
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    Nov 29, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    Get a trainer or at least a friend who knows what they are doing. When I first started I would only use the machines because I was afraid I'd look dumb on the real stuff. Then my buddy showed me how and I've never looked back.
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    Nov 29, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    I think he developed a unreasonable fear of RJ now because he hasn't been back icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 29, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    Nooo don't fear it! look at it this way, usually the hottest guys are in the free weight room. Turn it into a positive and your goals will be met too icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 29, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
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    SemiTransparency saidPretty much what the topic says.
    I have an unreasonable fear of going into the weight room, and I feel like this has been keeping me from getting stronger/leaner, etc.
    I've gotten by, but I feel like I need to somehow get over it and get my butt in there. Any other way besides just sucking it up?


    Try to frame it in a real context. You give yourself way too much importance. Understand, all those folks in the weight room started someplace. In a world of 7 BILLION people, to be real honest, nobody gives a shit about you and the weight room.

    Go work out. If you need a friend to hold your hand, or a trainer, do that, but, go work out. The worst enemy is within, and your fear is not good.

    Get this book: SOS Help For Emotions. Read it.

    Make a plan. Execute it. Looking a certain way is by design (other than your genetic features.).

    c69e66d23bd159df61689d0ad6ab344f.jpg

    Unless you are standing in front of them, tieing up three benches, or leaving your weights laying around, folks could CARE LESS about you at the gym. Get over yourself.


    Uhm. . .the fuck?
    #shamelessselfpromotion
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    Nov 29, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    just go for it. who cares what everyone else thinks. they're just as insecure in there as u may be. go hard or go home. boom.