Too late to show him my affection

  • kevinoops

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    Nov 28, 2011 9:42 PM GMT
    As a Chinese gay, I tried to find love in US when coming here for grad school two years ago. Unfortunately, mom had cancer since I came to US and passed away the past Valentine's Day. I didn't expect that I could have a crush on a first-year gay student in the last quarter of my study. I went to the psychology counseling session and was advised to focus on things with a deadline: my graduation papers and job hunting, because I want to stay here. Last night, I dreamt of my mom who held me tightly and cried that she missed me. I woke up feeling emotionally vulnerable. Do I just need a boyfriend to comfort my broken heart or do I really like him? Tomorrow will be the last day of my classes in this program and I may not see him very often. I think I conveyed the message that I liked him, but he politely kept a distance with me. I had a complicated feeling so hope some friends could share some advice. Thank you.
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    Nov 28, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidDo you rove him rong time?


    Isnt this kind of racist jp?

    I mean, he has a photo, even if he is a troll he has put a ton more effort into it than others.
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    Nov 28, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    Well that's easy. Does he like you? He's kept distance so that's your answer.
    Yes focus on your graduation and job hunting. There will be other white guys who want to fuck you I am sure.

    Sorry about your mom btw. I'm sure she loved you very much icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 28, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva said
    Chainers said
    jpBITCHva saidDo you rove him rong time?


    Isnt this kind of racist jp?

    I mean, he has a photo, even if he is a troll he has put a ton more effort into it than others.

    What, so you get to be the only one on here who can be tasteless? icon_smile.gif


    Its an art, being tasteless, an art you dont have.

    I mean, be tasteless at the trolls not this innocent soul who stumbled on here for advice.

    Back in 2008 I was one of those souls, now I am an overactive jerkwad on the forums. He could be the next Chainers, do you really want to stop that?
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva said
    Chainers saidIts an art, being tasteless, an art you dont have.

    I don't, eh? Sir. I demand satisfaction.
    I challenge you to a duel. A duel of crudeness, vulgarity, tastelessness and All Things Just Plain Wrong.

    Name your seconds and the time and place of combat, sir.


    I'm sorry chainers is a bottom he can't satisfy you the way you want to be satisfied.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:05 PM GMT
    waimea said
    jpBITCHva said
    Chainers saidIts an art, being tasteless, an art you dont have.

    I don't, eh? Sir. I demand satisfaction.
    I challenge you to a duel. A duel of crudeness, vulgarity, tastelessness and All Things Just Plain Wrong.

    Name your seconds and the time and place of combat, sir.


    I'm sorry chainers is a bottom he can't satisfy you the way you want to be satisfied.


    lol win.

    Duel accepted. We shall meet at high noon in China town, we shall dress as stereotypical Asians with signs saying "I want white dick!" as well as "I cant drive!" and "I do math good and other stuff!" and "I love Anime!"

    Whoever gets more people upset wins.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:09 PM GMT
    kevinooopsAs a Chinese gay, I tried to find love in US when coming here for grad school two years ago. Unfortunately, mom had cancer since I came to US and passed away the past Valentine's Day. I didn't expect that I could have a crush on a first-year gay student in the last quarter of my study. I went to the psychology counseling session and was advised to focus on things with a deadline: my graduation papers and job hunting, because I want to stay here. Last night, I dreamt of my mom who held me tightly and cried that she missed me. I woke up feeling emotionally vulnerable. Do I just need a boyfriend to comfort my broken heart or do I really like him? Tomorrow will be the last day of my classes in this program and I may not see him very often. I think I conveyed the message that I liked him, but he politely kept a distance with me. I had a complicated feeling so hope some friends could share some advice. Thank you.




    I'm sorry to hear about your mother. You and your family have my condolences and sympathies. icon_sad.gif

    It's entirely possible that your feelings were legitimate towards your friend, but then it sounds like you had a lot on your plate. In the end, all you can do is tell him how you feel. It sounds like you tried that, and he didn't reciprocate. Don't beat yourself up for it, or blame yourself that it didn't work out. Focus on yourself and your own happiness. There will be others.
  • kevinoops

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    Nov 28, 2011 10:10 PM GMT
    Thank you all for your prompt response. I feel your love and will keep finishing what I am supposed to finish.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    waimea said
    jpBITCHva said
    Chainers saidIts an art, being tasteless, an art you dont have.

    I don't, eh? Sir. I demand satisfaction.
    I challenge you to a duel. A duel of crudeness, vulgarity, tastelessness and All Things Just Plain Wrong.

    Name your seconds and the time and place of combat, sir.


    I'm sorry chainers is a bottom he can't satisfy you the way you want to be satisfied.


    lol win.

    Duel accepted. We shall meet at high noon in China town, we shall dress as stereotypical Asians with signs saying "I want white dick!" as well as "I cant drive!" and "I do math good and other stuff!" and "I love Anime!"

    Whoever gets more people upset wins.


    I'll be the referee. The person who gets me upset wins.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
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    Cityaznguy saidI'll be the referee. The person who gets me upset wins.
    They need a wider demographic of officials. It should be me, you, Claystation, Bullwinkle, and GuerillaSodomite.


    No they have to be Asian, so Ava needs to be there same with Waimea.

    That way we can see who can piss off more than the others.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    Chainers said

    Back in 2008 I was one of those souls, now I am an overactive jerkwad on the forums. He could be the next Chainers, do you really want to stop that?


    My religion is monoChainistic. There can be only one.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Cityaznguy saidI'll be the referee. The person who gets me upset wins.
    They need a wider demographic of officials. It should be me, you, Claystation, Bullwinkle, and GuerillaSodomite.

    Fine. But I'll get to be head-referee
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva said
    waimea saidI'm sorry chainers is a bottom he can't satisfy you the way you want to be satisfied.

    When you ASSUME, you make an ASS out of UMA THURMAN.

    Monsieur


    And she hates when that happens.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
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    Chainers said

    Back in 2008 I was one of those souls, now I am an overactive jerkwad on the forums. He could be the next Chainers, do you really want to stop that?


    My religion is monoChainistic. There can be only one.


    LOL I approve this message!
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    Trollileo said
    Cityaznguy saidI'll be the referee. The person who gets me upset wins.
    They need a wider demographic of officials. It should be me, you, Claystation, Bullwinkle, and GuerillaSodomite.


    No they have to be Asian, so Ava needs to be there same with Waimea.

    That way we can see who can piss off more than the others.


    If I get to sit between ava and city then I'm in.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    Cityaznguy said
    Trollileo said
    Cityaznguy saidI'll be the referee. The person who gets me upset wins.
    They need a wider demographic of officials. It should be me, you, Claystation, Bullwinkle, and GuerillaSodomite.

    Fine. But I'll get to be head-referee


    what's this? you're gonna give them head to the referees?
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    waimea said
    Chainers said
    Trollileo said
    Cityaznguy saidI'll be the referee. The person who gets me upset wins.
    They need a wider demographic of officials. It should be me, you, Claystation, Bullwinkle, and GuerillaSodomite.


    No they have to be Asian, so Ava needs to be there same with Waimea.

    That way we can see who can piss off more than the others.


    If I get to sit between ava and city then I'm in.


    You can sit on Ava and city if you want. After the contest as a ceremony they get to spit roast you.
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    waimea said
    Cityaznguy said
    Trollileo said
    Cityaznguy saidI'll be the referee. The person who gets me upset wins.
    They need a wider demographic of officials. It should be me, you, Claystation, Bullwinkle, and GuerillaSodomite.

    Fine. But I'll get to be head-referee


    what's this? you're gonna give them head to the referees?

    Oh I would never steal your "job" like that. I have morals. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
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    what is it with people think I am a huge slut or something like that.

    oh because I kinda am
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:30 PM GMT
    waimea saidicon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif

    what is it with people think I am a huge slut or something like that.

    oh because I kinda am


    kind of? Waimea, you are a ho fo' sho'

    Be proud of what you are...
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    Nov 28, 2011 10:33 PM GMT
    P.S OP I am sorry for derailing your thread. Also, you are young, you have plenty of time to find what you are looking for. No need to rush the love, plus you dont even know where you will end up in life. Go get yourself a job, get settled, then look for a partner. Preferably end up with a job in a major city.
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    Nov 28, 2011 11:00 PM GMT
    Chainers saidP.S OP I am sorry for derailing your thread. Also, you are young, you have plenty of time to find what you are looking for. No need to rush the love, plus you dont even know where you will end up in life. Go get yourself a job, get settled, then look for a partner. Preferably end up with a job in a major city.


    Cities like LA, NYC, Honolulu, or SF where diversity is valued and people of all kinds are appreciated and accepted icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    your mother is just trying to tell you that she loves you..and that you are going to do well in life..she is letting you know that everything is okay with her..{i had a similar dream about my mom after she passed away}...don't worry about your finding the "right guy"...one day,when you least expect it...he will show up.
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    Nov 29, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    It is never too late to profess one's love or affection. The worst that could happen is that the object of your love or affection rejects you or does not reciprocate. Life is too short to keep your sentiments to yourself. Go for it.
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    Nov 29, 2011 3:27 AM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidDo you rove him rong time?


    this is the most tacky yet most hilarious thing EVER posted.

    EVER. icon_cool.gif