Communication between East Coast and West Coast men

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    Jun 06, 2008 3:56 AM GMT
    So I grew up in Ohio and regardless of what anyone else says, I say Ohio is part of the East coast and not the midwest. But that's another forum topic. HAHA

    Anyway I've noticed a distinct difference in the way men and probably people in general communicate differently from the two coasts. And I think it comes down to this.

    Guys from the east (and I would also say the midwest) take an active role in conversation. For example and east coast person converses:

    East coast guy: "Hi! How are you?"
    Another east coast guy: "I'm fine. How are you doing?"

    And the conversation continues.....

    But here on the West Coast that same conversation goes:

    East coast guy: "Hi! How are you?
    West coast guy: "Fine"
    time passes...

    West coast guy to the East coast guy: "Why did you stop talking to me?"
    East coast guy: "You didn't seem very in to the conversation with me."

    It seems people from the West coast expect you to volunteer information without being asked. And I've had people say they don't want to ask questions such as, how my day was, because it seems to be intrusive and prying. And if there's something about my day I want to share then I should just automatically share it.

    Where I feel being from the east, if you don't ask me how my day was then you probably don't care so why should I bore you with details you don't care about.

    I'm not saying either communication style is better or worse than the other. Any body else experience differences in communication styles?

    What about in other countries?
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    Jun 06, 2008 1:38 PM GMT
    i'm from the west coast and here's my take on it.

    if my only response is "fine." then i'm not interested in you or not interested in talking to you right now and my simple answer should be a hint to search elsewhere.

    every now and then "fine." means i'm really tired and would rather be asleep right now but i'm forcing myself to stay awake until bedtime. you can talk to me if you want but until you awaken my mind instead of my semi-autonomous reaction machine, you'll be driving the entire conversation.

    on the flip side, i've never known the west coast guys to not be fluid with conversation when they have an interest in you. frankly i find that west coast guys are far more open and free with information than east coast. east coast - particularly north east as in new england, seem haughty.
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    Jun 06, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    East-coasters are deeper.

    Flame away.
  • kinetic

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    Jun 06, 2008 3:29 PM GMT
    That's because we're liberal, east-coast, Ivy-league intellectuals and better than everyone else. HAHAHAHA!!!
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    Jun 06, 2008 3:29 PM GMT
    Please define "West Coast." How far north does it extend?
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    Jun 06, 2008 3:40 PM GMT
    SockMonkey saidPlease define "West Coast." How far north does it extend?


    the northern edge of west hollywood. i believe that's one building's worth on the northern side of santa monica blvd.
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    Jun 06, 2008 4:27 PM GMT
    FirefighterBlu3 saidi'm from the west coast and here's my take on it.

    if my only response is "fine." then i'm not interested in you or not interested in talking to you right now and my simple answer should be a hint to search elsewhere.

    every now and then "fine." means i'm really tired and would rather be asleep right now but i'm forcing myself to stay awake until bedtime. you can talk to me if you want but until you awaken my mind instead of my semi-autonomous reaction machine, you'll be driving the entire conversation.

    on the flip side, i've never known the west coast guys to not be fluid with conversation when they have an interest in you. frankly i find that west coast guys are far more open and free with information than east coast. east coast - particularly north east as in new england, seem haughty.


    What you see as being haughty, is more likely being reserved. That is a typical New England stereotype.
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    Jun 06, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    newp. i actually mean haughty. i moved up there for 5 years.
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    Jun 06, 2008 5:31 PM GMT
    I live in Mass. and I am a big talker lol. I enjoy a conversation, weither it has a point or not.

    I completely understand the frustration about trying to have a conversation with someone and having them reply with only monosyllabic responces. Hell, I have tried to talk to people before and reciever grunts or stares for my troubles lol.

    I just don't think that it matters where you are from, it is different for each person.
  • coolarmydude

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    Jun 06, 2008 5:38 PM GMT
    On the South Coast, we say Kee-yaaawww!
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    Jun 06, 2008 5:42 PM GMT
    SockMonkey saidPlease define "West Coast." How far north does it extend?


    I don't know how far north it extends but I know I consider anything west of I-81 and south of Philly to be West/South.
  • DCEric

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    Jun 06, 2008 6:03 PM GMT
    I never had much liking for the left coast... a bunch of people who like to live in a desert, yet expect their lawns to be green (and in not the eco friendly way), and/or live with a Starbucks in their hand.

    The east coast is down to earth.
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    Jun 06, 2008 7:30 PM GMT
    FirefighterBlu3 saidi'm from the west coast and here's my take on it.

    if my only response is "fine." then i'm not interested in you or not interested in talking to you right now and my simple answer should be a hint to search elsewhere.

    every now and then "fine." means i'm really tired and would rather be asleep right now but i'm forcing myself to stay awake until bedtime. you can talk to me if you want but until you awaken my mind instead of my semi-autonomous reaction machine, you'll be driving the entire conversation.

    on the flip side, i've never known the west coast guys to not be fluid with conversation when they have an interest in you. frankly i find that west coast guys are far more open and free with information than east coast. east coast - particularly north east as in new england, seem haughty.



    I would completely agree that a one word response in general means I'm being polite but just not interested. However when the guy then follows up with a question wanting to know why I stopped talking to him, is where I raise an eyebrow and am like "huh?"

    As far as definitions of the coast, for all intended purposes, it's easiest to just use the time zones as the guide. Terms like Northeast and Pacific Northwest and the South and the bible belt all grey the areas. Like why is Florida considered the south yet Southern California is still the west coast??? I don't know who drew those lines.

    So from maine to florida is the east coast and from Washington to California is the West Coast.
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    Jun 06, 2008 7:31 PM GMT
    DCEric saidI never had much liking for the left coast... a bunch of people who like to live in a desert, yet expect their lawns to be green (and in not the eco friendly way), and/or live with a Starbucks in their hand.

    The east coast is down to earth.


    Except nearly every New Yorker and person in DC also have Starbucks in their hands.... in fact Starbucks is even served in the White House.
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    Jun 07, 2008 2:56 PM GMT
    luckydawg70 said[quote][cite]DCEric said[/cite]I never had much liking for the left coast... a bunch of people who like to live in a desert, yet expect their lawns to be green (and in not the eco friendly way), and/or live with a Starbucks in their hand.

    The east coast is down to earth.


    Except nearly every New Yorker and person in DC also have Starbucks in their hands.... in fact Starbucks is even served in the White House.[/quote]

    The White House is currently under foreign occupation.

    I grew up in Baltimore, which was one of the last cities to fall to Fortybucks.