My Boyfriend thinks my friends Are Sedity

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    Nov 29, 2011 6:05 PM GMT
    so my close circle is basically 3 friends one now lives in england. all from humble backgrounds and they worked hard to get where they are. they are Jamaican, Nigerian and because of their accents when speaking they try to keep their english as clipped as possible, me myself having an accent i do the same. come to realize he initially thought the same of me when we first met.

    i honestly think this tops the list of all the colors he's now showing that he's gotten comfy after 8 months.

    i admit i had to look up Sedity. Now i'm thinking of dumping him
  • PipHop

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    Nov 29, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    Most people hang with like minded people; so I assume he's kind of speaking on you as well as them. That being said, if he's making time for you, then that means he cares in at least some way. Maybe he's seeing something in you that he feels becomes less endearing when you're around your friends. If you're not feeling him, then by all means break it off. But if you're mad because you think he made a backhanded comment, talk to him and get the scoop.
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    Nov 29, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sedity
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    Nov 29, 2011 11:14 PM GMT
    Well i learned something. I never heard that word.

    Maybe ask someone else who knows all four of you if they feel you give off that vibe (I'm sure it's not intentional, but if he's perceiving it, it may be interesting to know if anybody else felt anything similar).
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    Nov 29, 2011 11:14 PM GMT
    Yeah, we Jamaicans are high seditty, so what?
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Nov 29, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    I learned a new word too. It sounds like an earnest conversation is in order!
  • monet

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    Nov 29, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidhttp://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sedity


    Thank you!
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    Nov 30, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    Your boyfriend sounds like a bigot that only tolerates your non-whiteness for your body.
    Dumping him would probably be quite fun. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 30, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    hah.. oh God a new word for the people whom don't know me to call me by....

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    Nov 30, 2011 12:30 AM GMT
    A new word. Tho from the sounds of it, no one will know what the heck I'm talking about if I use it.
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    Nov 30, 2011 12:33 AM GMT
    just tell him you're trill
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    Nov 30, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    sadity i think no?
  • jackthejock

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    Nov 30, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    I think you should dump him for using the term sedity...the only worse option would have been bougie


    Oh and the fact that he sounds sorta judgmental and vaguely racist.
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    Nov 30, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    i vote that thread topic sentence as possibly the most annoying shit of november (:
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Nov 30, 2011 1:17 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete saidYeah, we Jamaicans are high seditty, so what?


    So calling someone "sedity" is okay, but god forbid we use the word "uppity" icon_rolleyes.gif
  • jackthejock

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    Nov 30, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    TroyAthlete saidYeah, we Jamaicans are high seditty, so what?


    So calling someone "sedity" is okay, but god forbid we use the word "uppity" icon_rolleyes.gif



    uppity, racist connotations aside, is not synonymous with sedity. Sedity is more like stuck up, which is not the same thing as being uppity.

  • Nov 30, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    Funny how this turned into a discussion about THE word icon_biggrin.gif

    I actually have the same problem. My English can be choppy, especially when I'm tired or tipsy. It makes me feel insecure when it comes to talking to people (but strangely enough, it never stopped me when I had to speak in front of an audience). Lots of guys have told me that my accent is sexy and beautiful and exotic, but that's not the way it is for me. Yet another thing I have to struggle with in my life.
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    Nov 30, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    jackthejock saidI think you should dump him for using the term sedity...the only worse option would have been bougie


    Oh and the fact that he sounds sorta judgmental and vaguely racist.


    no no he's used bougie
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    Nov 30, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    The_Dollarwine said
    jackthejock saidI think you should dump him for using the term sedity...the only worse option would have been bougie


    Oh and the fact that he sounds sorta judgmental and vaguely racist.


    no no he's used bougie


    Sedity and bougie. lol. I have to admit that I've used those terms a few times myself. And been called them too.
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    Nov 30, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete saidYeah, we Jamaicans are high seditty, so what?



    Holy cow, my family's all Jamaican, both sides!

    -Doug


    *eating an arinje, nuh.*
  • jboy84

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    Nov 30, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    That's something we Brits call inverted snobbery.
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    Nov 30, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    TroyAthlete saidYeah, we Jamaicans are high seditty, so what?



    Holy cow, my family's all Jamaican, both sides!

    -Doug


    *eating an arinje, nuh.*


    LMAO *deddin*
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    Nov 30, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Nov 30, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidYou are old enough to know about the history of 'uppity'.


    We covered this in painful length in another thread. Not everyone is familiar with the race-related use of the word "uppity". In fact, I wasn't even all that familiar with the word "uppity" at all. I think it has a lot to do with where you were raised. In Colorado, where I grew up, I don't remember anyone ever using the word "uppity", and if I did I certainly didn't correlate it in any way with african-americans


    As per the URBAN DICTIONARY

    1. sedity 69 up, 14 down
    uppity..stuck up...to think that you are better than others...snoodity, uptown, rich acting, fake
    She really is sedity...
    buy sedity mugs & shirts
    by protector Feb 6, 2003 share this add a video
    2. sedity 4 thumbs up
    Adjective.

    1. To think so highly of oneself that all others are viewed as being separate.

    2. To think you're better than all others and that you are all that matters.

    3. High maintenance, uppity.
  • josh995

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    Nov 30, 2011 6:59 AM GMT
    WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?

    I'm so confused.