Tick tock...Dating when you have a time limit

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    Nov 29, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    This isn't a thread about speed dating.

    What are people's thoughts on dating when you know you're moving?

    When I moved here almost 5 years ago, dating seemed like a good idea. I could see meeting someone even up to a year ago and forming a relationship such that we might decide to tough it out or move away together, or not. Fast forward 4 years, and I know where I'll be in 7 months (it's a job thing), and it's not going to be here.

    Is it fair to date someone knowing you're going to move in a few months? Should one even bother having a dating mindset? I know there are successful couples who moved in together within 6 months of meeting, but that's not really my style. At the same time, the eternal optimist in me says it would be a shame to miss out on what could be a life-changing event (though the jaded side of me disagrees)

    Just curious about opinions.
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    Nov 29, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    bryanc_74 saidThis isn't a thread about speed dating.

    What are people's thoughts on dating when you know you're moving?

    When I moved here almost 5 years ago, dating seemed like a good idea. I could see meeting someone even up to a year ago and forming a relationship such that we might decide to tough it out or move away together, or not. Fast forward 4 years, and I know where I'll be in 7 months (it's a job thing), and it's not going to be here.

    Is it fair to date someone knowing you're going to move in a few months? Should one even bother having a dating mindset? I know there are successful couples who moved in together within 6 months of meeting, but that's not really my style. At the same time, the eternal optimist in me says it would be a shame to miss out on what could be a life-changing event (though the jaded side of me disagrees)

    Just curious about opinions.


    No its not, now go whore yourself around instead.
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    Nov 29, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    I love your succinctness icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 29, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    I dated an amazing man while on an internship for grad school in south florida. We both knew my time in florida was limited. But it was one of the best times of my life. And when it was over, we both moved on. My advice: Live for the moment. No one is guaranteed tomorrow.
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    Nov 29, 2011 10:10 PM GMT
    Wait... isn't this the plot of a chick-flick? As I recall, the point was "don't be seen around town dating someone else after the date you told the previous person that you were joining the french foreign legion." Or something like that.
  • jackthejock

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    Nov 30, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    I think if you are upfront about it then go for it, live in the moment. Do what makes you happy as long as you are being safe and respectful of others. It would be an ultimate scumbag move to date somebody and not tell them you will be leaving in a few months.
  • LJay

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    Nov 30, 2011 1:22 AM GMT
    Are you talking about dating or making lifelong commitments?

    Do you typically/exclusively involve yourself only in relationships that last longer than seven months? [If so, please publish your method.]

    Is making a post with your question an indicator that you need to learn to think things out before getting online?
  • megaboo1991

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    Dec 04, 2011 6:37 AM GMT
    I wouldn't close myself off to a relationship. Who knows, you might meet somebody who will be moving to that same area/region, or who is from that area and still has family and friends there, etc.

    I would go about life as if you weren't moving in a few months, and if you do meet somebody, try to work it casually into the conversation that you will be moving to _______ in a few months and see how they react.
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    Dec 04, 2011 5:03 PM GMT
    "I know there are successful couples who moved in together within 6 months of meeting, but that's not really my style."


    I'm thinking that real and true love doesn't really care about style. It doesn't have a schedule or a formula. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 04, 2011 5:59 PM GMT
    meninlove said "I know there are successful couples who moved in together within 6 months of meeting, but that's not really my style."


    I'm thinking that real and true love doesn't really care about style. It doesn't have a schedule or a formula. icon_wink.gif


    I agree, true love doesn't work on a schedule. Moving in, however, does icon_smile.gif