You know this brings up a very good question... can you remain friend's with your ex's? I now have two ex's, the 3rd passed away so I don't consider him an ex obviously. The first of 4 yrs, I went back and forth with him for like a year before I said... screw it, I'm done. Changed numbers, deleted him from FB, the whole nine yards. I think about him some times but have no intention to reconnect. As for my current ex of 3 months, I'm not so sure how to deal with this. We talked about how to deal with ex's and the truth is he said to him it depends how it ended. I thought about that because we ended on what I would think were good terms but at the same time... I thought about it one day. I know how it ended for him, but how did it end for me. I am at school 4 hrs from him. I spend the weekend with him and knew things felt differently when we kissed something was different. I just had this feeling soemthing was up but as per usual nature... I doubt my intution and I know I shouldn't. He became really distant and I didn't know why ... I just figured he was down cause of things going on in his life and I was busy with things in school. It bothered me but I tried not to think about it. Then 4 days following my visit to see him, he calls me 2:38am to let me know he had to fix things in his life before he could be with anyone. It ended with me over a phone call. I don't have the whole truth because I've been told one of the things was weither or not he had feelings for his ex from 4 yrs ago. It ended very bad for me. I really thought I had met the one and pictured things very differently from where they are now. As much as I miss him and still honestly do Love him and know he's got much potential... I hate the fact that I have more balls then he does and can come out and say things, deal with things head on. During my time with him, I lost 65 lbs, I saw myself in a whole new light and he treated me so amazingly that it's hard to not want to be his friend, but to think someone else could get what was mine that I did nothing to deserve being walked out on again... make me feel very shitty. I know I wasn't perfect but I tried damn hard. I wonder if things will change and if he even thinks of me at all but who knows... this shit hurts. I keep thinking about this winter social at my university that I want to go to because it's my last one since I graduate in december... but I don't want to go because once again. I'd be going solo and not knowing why.