Back Out The Blue

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    Nov 29, 2011 10:34 PM GMT
    OK so you know that feeling when ex's or guys you "WERE" talking to just go away. and its like "finally i can be free" then you move on and your living life and like a ball to a wall they keep bouncing back. im just curious whats the best way to make sure they dont come back besides the typical changing numbers and disconnecting from the world for a few months.
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    Nov 30, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    You know this brings up a very good question... can you remain friend's with your ex's? I now have two ex's, the 3rd passed away so I don't consider him an ex obviously. The first of 4 yrs, I went back and forth with him for like a year before I said... screw it, I'm done. Changed numbers, deleted him from FB, the whole nine yards. I think about him some times but have no intention to reconnect. As for my current ex of 3 months, I'm not so sure how to deal with this. We talked about how to deal with ex's and the truth is he said to him it depends how it ended. I thought about that because we ended on what I would think were good terms but at the same time... I thought about it one day. I know how it ended for him, but how did it end for me. I am at school 4 hrs from him. I spend the weekend with him and knew things felt differently when we kissed something was different. I just had this feeling soemthing was up but as per usual nature... I doubt my intution and I know I shouldn't. He became really distant and I didn't know why ... I just figured he was down cause of things going on in his life and I was busy with things in school. It bothered me but I tried not to think about it. Then 4 days following my visit to see him, he calls me 2:38am to let me know he had to fix things in his life before he could be with anyone. It ended with me over a phone call. I don't have the whole truth because I've been told one of the things was weither or not he had feelings for his ex from 4 yrs ago. It ended very bad for me. I really thought I had met the one and pictured things very differently from where they are now. As much as I miss him and still honestly do Love him and know he's got much potential... I hate the fact that I have more balls then he does and can come out and say things, deal with things head on. During my time with him, I lost 65 lbs, I saw myself in a whole new light and he treated me so amazingly that it's hard to not want to be his friend, but to think someone else could get what was mine that I did nothing to deserve being walked out on again... make me feel very shitty. I know I wasn't perfect but I tried damn hard. I wonder if things will change and if he even thinks of me at all but who knows... this shit hurts. I keep thinking about this winter social at my university that I want to go to because it's my last one since I graduate in december... but I don't want to go because once again. I'd be going solo and not knowing why.
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    Nov 30, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    It's your fault that you're so cute.
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    Nov 30, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    restraining order.

    my sister had an ex who became a "family stalker" (he would phone us all up and tell us how we were his "family"), and he was generally a psychopath and what-not. Eventually, police had to be involved.

    My sister and I have had such great luck with men! Though, she now has a bf for several years who is great, so... eventually your luck may change as well.
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    Nov 30, 2011 5:56 PM GMT
    It's just one of those things you gotta wait out.
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    Nov 30, 2011 6:09 PM GMT
    My exes don't bounce back to me...they bounce into the adult film industry where I see them on various websites when I least expect it.
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    Nov 30, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    Maybe you should just tell him? And I mean REALLY tell him, not in that American-friendly way. Just be honest.

    May sound like a really dumb advice but there's probably no such things like "patents against annoying ex's"
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    Dec 01, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    don't answer their calls (there's also an app for blocking specific numbers)
    don't reply to their IMs, texts or emails
    unfriend them on Facebook
    block them on Twitter/unsubscribe from their tweets

    at some point they will get the message.