Size Blindness

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    Nov 30, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    Hehe dont really know if it's a word, but anyway.
    So I was at the gym with my friend today, and he is pretty buff.
    We are looking in the mirror, and I told him that he was pretty huge.
    But apparently he thinks that he is small.(Dont really know who he is comparing himself to tho)
    And he thinks he is smaller me (which he is not!).
    What I was wondering is, does a lot of guys think this too? That they are smaller than they actually are? icon_razz.gif

    Is it physcological? Coz I was having a few years ago, a tanning bed phase...
    Where I just kept on tanning, and I thought I looked so pale, until my mother forbid me to go coz apparently I was beyond orange.
    Haha but dont know if that is the same thing or just stupidity. icon_wink.gif

    Kinda dumb question, I know... but I'm curious!
    Sorry about the grammer and all that crap
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    Nov 30, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    Yes, it's a matter of perspective. Everyone has a different view of what they're ideal body type/size should be.
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    Nov 30, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    Oh; it was the size of the body he was asking about?
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    Nov 30, 2011 6:05 AM GMT
    I agree with xrichx that he's most likely comparing himself to his ideal. I know I tend to do that.

    Worst case scenario is that he has body dysmorphia/bigorexia but that's pretty extreme.
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    Nov 30, 2011 1:36 PM GMT
    It's completely psychological. I was a skinny asthmatic geowing up and I got into swimming inmiddle school and then weight lifting. Today I pack a solid 200# of beef and growing..but I still see hot guys in teh gym and think "Man I want to get to that kinda/build/size" and then I will get up next to them and discover I am actually as big or more often bigger than they are. I still seemyselfd a s the skinny kid but tha helps drive me to be the best and biggest I can at my sport.
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    Nov 30, 2011 1:38 PM GMT
    party247 saidHehe dont really know if it's a word, but anyway.


    Yeah, it's a word. Three in fact.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder
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    Nov 30, 2011 1:41 PM GMT
    I think A LOT of guys have this.
  • Latenight30

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    Nov 30, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    I think it is all in peoples head. I know lots of good looking guys who say "I just don't see it"
    Don't know if they just want more compliments? But to quote someone very famous.
    "If you can't love yourself, HOW THE HELL, you gonna love someone else?"
    "Can I get a Roo-HA!" RuPaul
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    Nov 30, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    Wow! I think my Ex had this... That explains a lot... He was so good looking and in good shape but never believed the compliments I gave him... He kept telling me that I was lying and that he hated compliments. Ugggg... I am glad I don't have to deal with that anymore!

  • Nov 30, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
    Latenight30 saidI think it is all in peoples head. I know lots of good looking guys who say "I just don't see it"
    Don't know if they just want more compliments? But to quote someone very famous.
    "If you can't love yourself, HOW THE HELL, you gonna love someone else?"
    "Can I get a Roo-HA!" RuPaul


    I'm one of those "just don't see it" guys. I'm told that I'm good looking and sexy all the time, but I really don't see it. I'll admit to "above average" but there are plenty of better looking guys than me. I'm also told that part of why I'm sexy is that I don't see it. *shrug*


    On the size thing .... speaking from a penis viewpoint, I've long thought that guys perhaps don't see their penis themselves as others see it. Perhaps it's the vantage point.
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    Nov 30, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    I think this. People tell me I am big or muscular and I dont see it.
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    Nov 30, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    I still feel like I'm a lot smaller than I actually am, then there are days where I know my 6 pack is more lil a ab, most of mine prolly comes from the fact that when I started I weighed about 120, and I guess self perception is extremely difficult to change, I now realize I look pretty good, and I think I have a pretty healthy body image, I kina wann hit tha goals from the Steve reeves body calculator, I think that would do it for me , I wonder what happens to former fatties, ppl that drop 80 lbs in a year do they still think their fat?
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    Nov 30, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    Guess it's pretty common then. icon_razz.gif
    Would be interesting to see yourself from another persons perspective.
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    Nov 30, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    party247 saidGuess it's pretty common then. icon_razz.gif
    Would be interesting to see yourself from another persons perspective.

    I know, right?

    I will say to someone "I wish I had a body like that guy" and they wlll say "you do"
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    Nov 30, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said
    party247 saidGuess it's pretty common then. icon_razz.gif
    Would be interesting to see yourself from another persons perspective.

    I know, right?

    will say to someone "I wish I had a body like that guy" and they wlll say "you do"


    But I would rather have a hotter body than I think I have, instead of having a less hot body and think I have super hot body. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 30, 2011 3:30 PM GMT
    "Muscle dysmorphia": Never seeing, feeling or believing that one is "big enough".
    An increasingly prevalent variant of Body Dysmorphic Disorder.
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    Nov 30, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    Oxus said"Muscle dysmorphia": Never seeing, feeling or believing that one is big enough.
    An increasingly prevalent variant of Body Dysmorphic Disorder.


    My buddies at work say I have that. icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 30, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    My default pic does not represent what I see in person. I still see the 250# mess I carried around for 5 yrs.
  • tegga8

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    Nov 30, 2011 6:44 PM GMT

    "And he thinks he is smaller me (which he is not!)."

    Maybe he is.
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    Nov 30, 2011 6:48 PM GMT
    I have yet to meet any guy who thinks he is "big enough" or exactly where he wants to be.

    This seems to apply more the bigger and more perfect a dude gets. I dated pro body builders many years ago and they NEVER felt they were enough of what they really wanted to be.
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    Nov 30, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    I find the tanning bed incident even more blind! Specifically, colour blindness icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 30, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    Same deal here. People tell me I look muscular and I don't really see it.
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    Nov 30, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
    I am guilty of this myself sometimes. Some days I swear the gym is packed with lean guys 200 lbs. and up and I'll start to feel small, overwhelmed too by sensory overload icon_lol.gif. Sometimes I even feel like I am bigger than I'd like to be when I around a lot of smaller people, or if I have a crazy arm pump and my arms seem to completely take over my chest. I also am pretty self critical though and over-analyze just about everything, something I'm working on. I've already decided I don't want to gain much more mass anytime soon though.
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    Nov 30, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    It's the same with chicks who work out regularly and look good but still want to believe that their asses are too big. It starts out a matter of the mind and becomes an addiction
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    Nov 30, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    fns_swimmer saidIt's the same with chicks who work out regularly and look good but still want to believe that their asses are too big. It starts out a matter of the mind and becomes an addiction


    Thats different.

    Their asses really ARE too big...