Are you proud of being a bottom?

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    Nov 30, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    I was talking to my RJ BFF last night, and we were just discussing that whenever you ask a guy about their role, and they're like, I don't like to discuss that, that's private, they're always bottoms. It's like they're ashamed or something, tops are never ashamed of saying they're tops. That's something to think about, I mean I don't wear a BOTTOM PRIDE t-shirt icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif but if someone asks, I say I'm a bottom (like you have to ask icon_lol.gif ).

    So are you proud of being a bottom?

    Please don't post if you're one of those versatile weirdos -LOL totally j/k btw- icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 30, 2011 10:33 PM GMT
    LOL. I wouldn't say it's one of my life accomplishments, I just think in the gay community, it's a funny thing to throw around. I wouldn't go around telling it to my mother, but it's not something I'm ashamed of.

    And it's all about context. Around here and among my friends (real life friends) most are pretty open with their sexuality. So I feel no need to hide it....
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    Nov 30, 2011 10:44 PM GMT
    Some people imagine that there is a strict correlation between sexual roles and personality strengths... as if being a top makes you a stronger person, and being a bottom makes you weaker. The thing is though, while I agree that there is a psychological strength/vulnerability dynamic here, those are just sexual roles and a guy may enjoy that role at a given moment because he isn't that way in the rest of his life. Or maybe there is no relation between the sexual role and the personality outside the bedroom.

    In my last relationship I was the more dominant one, and I'm typically a top, but I didn't mind bottoming for him when he wanted. The being made vulnerable part was enjoyable for a range of reasons, but I think doesn't really speak to anything beyond a bedroom activity.
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    Nov 30, 2011 10:45 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidSome people imagine that there is a strict correlation between sexual roles and personality strengths... as if being a top makes you a stronger person, and being a bottom makes you weaker. The thing is though, while I agree that there is a psychological strength/vulnerability dynamic here, those are just sexual roles and a guy may enjoy that role at a given moment because he isn't that way in the rest of his life. Or maybe there is no relation between the sexual role and the personality outside the bedroom.

    In my last relationship I was the more dominant one, and I'm typically a top, but I didn't mind bottoming for him when he wanted. The being made vulnerable part was enjoyable for a range of reasons, but I think doesn't really speak to anything beyond a bedroom activity.


    I think a lot of people have a corrolation between being the bottom and being the women of the relationship. I cant count how many times I see profiles on Grindr stating "I am not a top" instead of "I am a bottom."

    They both mean the same thing, but speak leaps and bounds about the person.
  • FifiSillyBunz

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    Nov 30, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    I bottom because i have a killer ass and owe it to society, whereas my dick is just average. I honestly like ass more than i like cock... If i was hung, id probably top more instead. But my butt just blows my cock outta the water. I get more requests to bottom than to top.

    I do think that if one is gonna call themselves a bottom they better bring some body-ody-ody to the table. If a guy is a hung top, he don't need much else... But if ur gonna act like your ass is the hot ish, you betta be doin squats till u puke, i know i do...
  • tjmwdm1

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    Nov 30, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    I love being a bottom. No problems at all admitting it or talking about it. It's just what I enjoy sexually; has nothing to do with anything else. I would say I'm actually the more dominant person in my relationship outside of the bedroom. My job is high stress and forces me to be dominant at work, thus i like the idea of being submissive in that part of my life.
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    Dec 01, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
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    I am a bottom and i am proud icon_biggrin.gif
  • Bobby323232

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    Dec 01, 2011 12:23 AM GMT
    MMM Me I like to bottomicon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 01, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidLOL. I wouldn't say it's one of my life accomplishments, I just think in the gay community, it's a funny thing to throw around. I wouldn't go around telling it to my mother, but it's not something I'm ashamed of.

    And it's all about context. Around here and among my friends (real life friends) most are pretty open with their sexuality. So I feel no need to hide it....


    I agree. I'm not ashamed--the way I look at it... if there were only tops, no one would be having sex. Tops need bottoms and bottoms need tops. Demeaning bottoms is illogical.
  • Brick_n_Lace

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    Dec 01, 2011 4:04 AM GMT
    pride in a sexual position seems odd. I mean i get what you are saying though i guess. It just doesnt inspire pride in me one way or another. also i dont feel like its anyone's business that Im not considering dating. sex is very personal.
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:32 AM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidSome people imagine that there is a strict correlation between sexual roles and personality strengths... as if being a top makes you a stronger person, and being a bottom makes you weaker. The thing is though, while I agree that there is a psychological strength/vulnerability dynamic here, those are just sexual roles and a guy may enjoy that role at a given moment because he isn't that way in the rest of his life. Or maybe there is no relation between the sexual role and the personality outside the bedroom.

    In my last relationship I was the more dominant one, and I'm typically a top, but I didn't mind bottoming for him when he wanted. The being made vulnerable part was enjoyable for a range of reasons, but I think doesn't really speak to anything beyond a bedroom activity.


    stop pandering to the bottoms larkin....icon_rolleyes.gif
  • DR2K

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    Dec 01, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    Why would you be proud of a sexual position? Is your life so miserable that your only accomplishment is taking it up the ass.icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:55 AM GMT
    Maybe it is just the fact that on an actual date, that is an inappropriate question. . .I know that I have had people ask me that before, and I have refused to answer, it has nothing to do with being ashamed of being a bottom, but if we aren't talking strictly in terms of hooking up, that isn't really something that I feel like is appropriate to ask someone.

    If you mean on like here, or on grindr, or when talking to someone about just hooking up then I guess I wouldn' really understand why someone would be ashamed of it.
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    Dec 01, 2011 9:21 AM GMT
    Bottoms SHOULD be proud of being a bottom - it's much more difficult to bottom well than to top!
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    Dec 03, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    Where are the proud bottoms at?
  • jackthejock

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    Dec 03, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    FifiSillyBunz saidI bottom because i have a killer ass and owe it to society, whereas my dick is just average. I honestly like ass more than i like cock... If i was hung, id probably top more instead. But my butt just blows my cock outta the water. I get more requests to bottom than to top.

    I do think that if one is gonna call themselves a bottom they better bring some body-ody-ody to the table. If a guy is a hung top, he don't need much else... But if ur gonna act like your ass is the hot ish, you betta be doin squats till u puke, i know i do...



    I really hope that was a joke, otherwise you are fucking insane. You prefer to top but you don't becase you think you have a nice ass? Crazy
  • Slowride

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    Dec 04, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    I am a bottom and proud of it. I do not offer my ass because I am weaker. From the compliments I've received on my butt I realize that men are attracted to it and find it desirable. Since nothing (to me) feels as good as a stiff cock sliding in and out of my horny ass I offer it up with the intent of providing intimate pleasure to my lover and am proud to feel him get off in this bottom.
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    Dec 06, 2011 10:52 AM GMT
    i love being a bottom. dont know what should be wrong with that..
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    Dec 06, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    You're welcome bitch. Hahaha!!! Love you hoe(s). ;)
  • scottblue

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    Dec 28, 2011 11:56 PM GMT
    lol almost everone bottoms at one time..top bottom all the same its spice in a hot way........icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 29, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    I don't like to discuss sexual roles with people I'm not A) Comfortable with or B) Will never need to know because I don't see us going anywhere.

    And I'm a proud Vers. icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 29, 2011 9:42 PM GMT


    I am completely proud of who I am and that includes being a bottom. Though I think I had my "sexual awakening" and accepted my homosexuality along with my bottom sexuality, all together. I had a "boyfriend" at somewhat of a young age (late 15 to 16ish), though at the time we never referred to each other as such, but that's what we were. I lost my virginity to him and only bottomed for 3 years until we broke up when I couldn't handle the distance between him and college any more (he stayed in our hometown). Then I met another guy who I dated for 2 years, but he also just had me bottom. So essentially during the first 5-6 years of my sexual life I was a bottom, getting fucked around once a week.

    Once I was on my own I experimented a bit when a couple guys asked, but topping was just unnatural for me and I never enjoyed the experience. I decided to just accept my sexuality for what it was, and that was right as I first started really emotionally opening up about my homosexuality to others as well. So for me it was all the same.

    Long story, but YES, I am proud of who I am!
  • Soccorjock95

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    Jan 01, 2012 9:01 PM GMT
    lol im proud of being a bottom. i love it! and i dont care what anyone thinks.. if i were embarrassed about it, i would just become a top.. but ya, anyone who knows im gay knows im a bottom, i dont care about that