What would you do?

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    Dec 01, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    Ive posted this because I had an encounter with a woman today that made me question If I did the right thing, or if I acted improperly. This sticks in my mind because of an incident this year in the capital of my province, where a homeless man drowned in a lake, and his friend tried for nearly an hour to get help for him, before someone finally called 911. Indeed it is very tragic that no one bothered to help for 45 minutes. It is also sad that both men were homeless. It also took very little effort on the part of the woman who finally called for help, to do so. I am in no way trying to justify what happened. Im merely curious. What would you do in that situation? A deshevelled, clearly homeless man runs out of a park into traffic screaming and waving his arms, trying to get people to follow him into the park, saying that his friend is drowning. You do not have a cell phone. Do you follow him? If you had a cell phone, but were in your vehicle, would u stop and call 911, or move on thinking the next person will?

    I was approached in a gas station today while filling up my truck, by a woman who appeared to be of a low economic demographic. Though she did have a cell phone, and was chuckling at something she was reading on it as she walked passed. I glanced at her, and she glanced back, but she kept walking. I kept pumping gas, and looked around again. She was on the other side of my truck, staring at me across the bed. She suddenly came back around and said, "I usually dont do this, but I'm in a bit of a bind. I went home, and there was blood everywhere, and the place had clearly been broken into, and I am freaked out and am not going to go back there. My friend lives (across town) and I need a ride to get there." I asked if she called the police, and she said "Yes I already called them, they are investigating it, but I obviously cant go back there until they are done." I became instantly suspicious, as in my experience, after a traumatic episode, the police generally take you somewhere to stay, Usually a "Is there somewhere we can take you until this gets sorted out?" or "Do you have a place where you can stay?" We were directly across the street from the police station as well. I suggested she ask the police for a ride. She said "Nows not really a good time." I apologised and said I couldn't offer her a ride. She left. I finished getting gas and drove away, seeing her walking down the street in an opposite direction from where her friend lived.

    What would you do in this instance? Was I right to be suspicious, or was I overly paranoid or just rude?
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    Dec 01, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    Seems most likely that she was lying and up to no good.
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    Dec 01, 2011 12:28 AM GMT
    She wanted to carjack you.

    Send her to the kitchen where she belongs.
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    Dec 01, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    RoughriderTitan11 said ... I suggested she ask the police for a ride. She said "Nows not really a good time." ...


    What an odd response... I think you did the right thing. icon_confused.gif

    And didn't she consider public transportation (if any)?
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    Dec 01, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    If I had had money on me, and my gut told me that the woman was in fact in dire need of help, I would have offered to pay for her cab ride. I certainly would not have given her a ride in my car. You can never be too careful in this day and age.
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    Dec 01, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    RoughriderTitan11 saidIve posted this because I had an encounter with a woman today that made me question If I did the right thing, or if I acted improperly. This sticks in my mind because of an incident this year in the capital of my province, where a homeless man drowned in a lake, and his friend tried for nearly an hour to get help for him, before someone finally called 911. Indeed it is very tragic that no one bothered to help for 45 minutes. It is also sad that both men were homeless. It also took very little effort on the part of the woman who finally called for help, to do so. I am in no way trying to justify what happened. Im merely curious. What would you do in that situation? A deshevelled, clearly homeless man runs out of a park into traffic screaming and waving his arms, trying to get people to follow him into the park, saying that his friend is drowning. You do not have a cell phone. Do you follow him? If you had a cell phone, but were in your vehicle, would u stop and call 911, or move on thinking the next person will?

    I was approached in a gas station today while filling up my truck, by a woman who appeared to be of a low economic demographic. Though she did have a cell phone, and was chuckling at something she was reading on it as she walked passed. I glanced at her, and she glanced back, but she kept walking. I kept pumping gas, and looked around again. She was on the other side of my truck, staring at me across the bed. She suddenly came back around and said, "I usually dont do this, but I'm in a bit of a bind. I went home, and there was blood everywhere, and the place had clearly been broken into, and I am freaked out and am not going to go back there. My friend lives (across town) and I need a ride to get there." I asked if she called the police, and she said "Yes I already called them, they are investigating it, but I obviously cant go back there until they are done." I became instantly suspicious, as in my experience, after a traumatic episode, the police generally take you somewhere to stay, Usually a "Is there somewhere we can take you until this gets sorted out?" or "Do you have a place where you can stay?" We were directly across the street from the police station as well. I suggested she ask the police for a ride. She said "Nows not really a good time." I apologised and said I couldn't offer her a ride. She left. I finished getting gas and drove away, seeing her walking down the street in an opposite direction from where her friend lived.

    What would you do in this instance? Was I right to be suspicious, or was I overly paranoid or just rude?
    Ok those are two different situations. First of all, who leaves a crime scene if something happened at there place. ha ha ha First the police would not have let her leave. Second, they would have escorted her to a friends place if she did not have a ride. Her story did not make since from the beginning. I think you did well not to believe that crap. However, I think I would have helped the homeless man but that is just me. I have witnessed similar things here in DC. I witnessed a lady slip and fall coming off of the escalator. I watched another guy walk right over here without missing a step. There were a few people behind her. I saw three others walk around her. I was the only one who stopped to ask to see if she was ok. There was another lady who came up in front of me turned around after I offered assistance. I would have figured some of the ladies would have stopped but none of them stopped. I wanted to run after the guy who just walked over here as if she was some dead dog and beat the living crap out him
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    Dec 01, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    RoughriderTitan11 saidIve posted this because I had an encounter with a woman today that made me question If I did the right thing, or if I acted improperly. This sticks in my mind because of an incident this year in the capital of my province, where a homeless man drowned in a lake, and his friend tried for nearly an hour to get help for him, before someone finally called 911. Indeed it is very tragic that no one bothered to help for 45 minutes. It is also sad that both men were homeless. It also took very little effort on the part of the woman who finally called for help, to do so. I am in no way trying to justify what happened. Im merely curious. What would you do in that situation? A deshevelled, clearly homeless man runs out of a park into traffic screaming and waving his arms, trying to get people to follow him into the park, saying that his friend is drowning. You do not have a cell phone. Do you follow him? If you had a cell phone, but were in your vehicle, would u stop and call 911, or move on thinking the next person will?

    I was approached in a gas station today while filling up my truck, by a woman who appeared to be of a low economic demographic. Though she did have a cell phone, and was chuckling at something she was reading on it as she walked passed. I glanced at her, and she glanced back, but she kept walking. I kept pumping gas, and looked around again. She was on the other side of my truck, staring at me across the bed. She suddenly came back around and said, "I usually dont do this, but I'm in a bit of a bind. I went home, and there was blood everywhere, and the place had clearly been broken into, and I am freaked out and am not going to go back there. My friend lives (across town) and I need a ride to get there." I asked if she called the police, and she said "Yes I already called them, they are investigating it, but I obviously cant go back there until they are done." I became instantly suspicious, as in my experience, after a traumatic episode, the police generally take you somewhere to stay, Usually a "Is there somewhere we can take you until this gets sorted out?" or "Do you have a place where you can stay?" We were directly across the street from the police station as well. I suggested she ask the police for a ride. She said "Nows not really a good time." I apologised and said I couldn't offer her a ride. She left. I finished getting gas and drove away, seeing her walking down the street in an opposite direction from where her friend lived.

    What would you do in this instance? Was I right to be suspicious, or was I overly paranoid or just rude?


    You handled it the same way I would have. I would have told her "I'm sorry but I don't know you well enough to give you a ride, no offense". Seems really suspicious to me that she chuckled if she was so worried.
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    I agree you did the right thing. You could have given her a ride and gone a couple miles down the road and she could threaten to go to the police saying you groped her if you don't give her some money.
    She wasn't in any imminent danger.
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:26 AM GMT
    Sounds like you were possibly being baited into a bad situation. Trust your instincts...if this had been a woman who was truly in distress you would've known it.
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:29 AM GMT
    u did great so dont worry she was lieing her ass off because u r totally right about the police thing have some in the family.
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    Dec 01, 2011 7:42 AM GMT
    A lot of things about this story doesn't make sense. And I have to admit, the part about her staring at you over the truck bed kinda make me laugh and think "CREEPER." The story about the two homeless guys was a different situation. There was obviously some expression of urgency and a good effort to get noticed and be taken seriously. Your story just sounds fishy. If it walks and talks like a duck...
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:01 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidIf I had had money on me, and my gut told me that the woman was in fact in dire need of help, I would have offered to pay for her cab ride. I certainly would not have given her a ride in my car. You can never be too careful in this day and age.


    I would have done the same .... I would have waited for the cab to show up , and ask the cab driver how much the fare would be and paid him . I wouldn't have given the cash to the woman ...
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    Dec 01, 2011 6:04 PM GMT
    Yersteday , i was stopped at a traffic light , a man was standing at the corner of the street holding a sign saying " i have no money and i am hungry " , and he was standing right there talking on his cell phone !!!! ,
    I was like REALLY !!!!!!
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    Dec 24, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    neffa saidYersteday , i was stopped at a traffic light , a man was standing at the corner of the street holding a sign saying " i have no money and i am hungry " , and he was standing right there talking on his cell phone !!!! ,
    I was like REALLY !!!!!!


    This happens every day in Lansing.
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    Dec 24, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
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    neffa saidYersteday , i was stopped at a traffic light , a man was standing at the corner of the street holding a sign saying " i have no money and i am hungry " , and he was standing right there talking on his cell phone !!!! ,
    I was like REALLY !!!!!!


    This happens every day in Lansing.


    Yeah, I get approached constantly in Meijer parking lots especially southside icon_evil.gif
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    Dec 24, 2011 8:32 PM GMT
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    All signs point to crazy lying bitch up to no good (with poorly constructed story).
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    Dec 24, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    This sort of reminds me of a similar situation which happened to me a couple weeks ago. I was sitting in my car in the parking lot after doing a bit of Christmas shopping when a lady who was sort of rugged looking knocked on the window. I pulled down the window and she basically asked if I had any money to spare and she gave some sob story. Me being generous (I tipped my hairdresser 10 dollars on a 24 dollar bill, lol), I gave her 5 bucks, and when I saw that I had an extra two bucks on me, I gave that to her aswell. You know what her response was? "Can I have some more?" Not even a fucking thank you from her. I was shocked she would say something like that to me after I scrambled to find cash for a complete stranger. I basically told her no and she walked away in search of other people. I'll definatley think twice next time this ever happens.
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    Dec 24, 2011 8:34 PM GMT
    I woulda told her to go fuck herself, and have a Merry Christmas.
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    Dec 24, 2011 8:52 PM GMT
    One night after work I stopped at gas station for gas. As I was filling up another car pulled in and a younger guy got out. He approached me and asked for any money I could spare as he was on fumes and needed a couple of buck worth of gas to get home. I gave him $5 after which he walked up to the window and bought a pack of cigarettes then left with no gas. That was 15 yrs ago and the last scam I ever fell for. No money!! and No rides!!