Do you have to give up kids if you're gay? 100% honest question and I'd like serious answers. Thanks!

  • michaelallows

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    Dec 01, 2011 3:50 AM GMT
    Just wondering, I know when I'm older I want to have kids. What are you guys' opinions about gay couples adopting kids and raising them? Do you feel as though it's okay or do you think it isn't fair to the child because they could be teased for it?
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    Dec 01, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    One of my little cousins participated in a formal debate during junior high on behalf of marriage for gay people. I've no doubt that was not her first time standing up for us and being vocal about it. Her parents are hetero. Her uncle, myself and a bunch of other cousins are gay. A bright kid, I"m pretty sure if anyone tried to tease her about her views or family life, she'd have properly put them in their place. No worries. Live your life.
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    Dec 01, 2011 4:39 AM GMT
    If they are loved.. they will be able to overcome ANYTHING!
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    Dec 01, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    If its something you really want to do, go for it. I am really glad that I never became a father though. Raising kids is a huge, expensive responsibility.
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    Dec 01, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    If people didn't have kids because they might get teased, then hardly anyone would have kids. I've thought about this question myself, but no one has it easy. I think you just have to take that into consideration when you decide when and where to raise kids.
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    Dec 01, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidThis man is my hero.


    Good post. That was stunning.
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    Dec 01, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    i think its okay, and the kids i think will be just as happy with same sex couple
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    Dec 01, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    i love kids
  • disasterpiece

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    Dec 01, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    The strong desire to have and raise children is what kept me in the closet for so long.

    Today, I realized that it will be hard, it will be long, and it won't stop after the adoption papers are signed. Of course, my children and I will be faced with prejudice all our lives, but I have hope that we will be one of many example that gay couples can raise kids more than properly.

    This said, I need a second father. Any volunteer ? icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 01, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidThis man is my hero.



    Yup. Love the Zach.
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    Dec 01, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    My younger sister was ashamed of my parents in h.s. and they're not even gay. It's parents' job to embarrass their teen-ager. If you don't , you're not doing it right!
  • johndubuque

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    Dec 01, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    When I saw the topic the first thing I thought of was what Trollileo posted, Zach addressing the Iowa legislature. Thanks for posting that Trollileo.

    If you want to have kids and you think you would be a good parent, go ahead and do it.
  • wellwell

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    Dec 01, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    njmeanwhile saidMy younger sister was ashamed of my parents in h.s. and they're not even gay. It's parents' job to embarrass their teen-ager. If you don't , you're not doing it right!


    ^^^ This Is GR8 ! ^^^

    I plan (am counting) on having them; minus, the adoption part!
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    Dec 01, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    I have raised 2 kids in a straight marriage and would be more then happy to raise another with the right man at my side. Fatherhood is an amazing thing, and if you are up to life long commitment, there is no experience like it. Kids respond to love. Period. Family structures have changed and evolved throughout time. And in the grand scheme of history, the American nuclear family structure is but a blip on a time line. Those who laud it today have an agenda which is most often religiously base.
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    Dec 01, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    Does Alaska have a law allowing a gay couple to adopt? I am not against your right to have children but you do not want to get your hopes up if you are faced with a long legal battle. On the other hand, if you want to fight for it, then more power to ya.
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    Dec 01, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
    Disasterpiece saidThe strong desire to have and raise children is what kept me in the closet for so long.

    Today, I realized that it will be hard, it will be long, and it won't stop after the adoption papers are signed. Of course, my children and I will be faced with prejudice all our lives, but I have hope that we will be one of many example that gay couples can raise kids more than properly.

    This said, I need a second father. Any volunteer ? icon_razz.gif


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    Dec 01, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidI have had considerable influence on three of my sisters' children and even took on the role a parental figure for two of them for an entire summer. If I can have a significant part of a child's life as a gay uncle, why can I not do the same as a gay father?


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  • xysx

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    Dec 01, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    serious answer --> no.
    you just have to wait till they're 17 yrs old like mine is,
    then be thankful that it's not because your gay that they are acutely hormonally labile and emotionally psychotic,-- it's just that you are their parent, and they are a normal teenager.. icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 01, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    Fatherhood is the one thing that I know I will be able to do correctly. I embrace the idea of raising children, with or without a man by my side (hopeful WITH). Nobody is going to tell me I can't do it because I will find a way. My life has been a lot of "I'll find a way"s so this situation is no different.

    There are those that will try to stand in the way. There are those that will try to make it difficult and make me want to quit. However, from the bottom of my heart, I want to be a father . I wouldn't feel complete until that has occurred.
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    Dec 01, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    I stay single for a couple of reasons. Namely, when I meet someone, I ask myself if he would be a good father.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Dec 01, 2011 5:59 AM GMT
    r u kidding me i love kids and want to have 30 when i find mr right lmao jk about 30 2 will do me fine.
  • socalisurfer

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    Dec 01, 2011 6:01 AM GMT
    Kids are going to be teased for any reason. It's part of growing up. When I first moved to the States I was teased because I spoke a second language and had a slight accent in English.

    Like one poster said on here 'if they are loved they'll overcome anything'.
  • kevineleven

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    Dec 01, 2011 8:52 AM GMT
    michaelallows saidJust wondering, I know when I'm older I want to have kids. What are you guys' opinions about gay couples adopting kids and raising them? Do you feel as though it's okay or do you think it isn't fair to the child because they could be teased for it?


    Gay people please listen:

    Please do not raise children. Please don't do that to a child.
    Not having kids is part of being homosexual, nature just didn't work that way for you, embrace it.

    I bet lots of kids who are raised by gay parents become gay or messed up because they were indoctrinated from birth to see the world that way, not to mention the fact that it's just not right for a child to have to say "my two dads" or "my two moms". It actually makes me sick. It's not the way it's supposed to be, why must we constantly go AGAINST nature's design?

    A child is supposed to be raised by a MOTHER and a father, a WOMAN and a man each of and attracted to the opposite sex with normal ideals and values. A woman instills values in a child that a man can't, and a man instills values in a child that a woman can't.

    We didn't CHOOSE to be this way, right? We're ANOMALIES, it's not supposed to be this way, so why raise a child to see all of this as being normal? Nature dictated that we aren't supposed to have children. If you want a child in your life, become a teacher or some shit and get over it. Otherwise, have a child with a woman and don't instill it with your gay ideals if you care enough that he or she lives a normal, happy life.

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    Dec 01, 2011 8:55 AM GMT
    You are not required to "give up kids if you are gay."

    However many are thrilled to discover the option and view it as a complete benefit.
  • kevineleven

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    Dec 01, 2011 8:57 AM GMT

    It's like these gay people who insist on getting married. WTF.
    Marriage was first made to unite a MAN and a WOMAN, so why would you want any part of that? Why can't you just be happy being united in your own gay way. I don't get it. The church hates you and you're obsessed with being part of it, even though it makes no sense to do so.

    Because again it's just about boasting your sexuality and forcing it on people, that's all that is. I bet most of the time it's got nothing to do with love at all.