is he gay????so confused :(

  • Thebiguy

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    Dec 02, 2011 9:30 AM GMT
    So there's this guy that I really like....
    But first of all, I can't tell if he's gay or not...
    When we talk online, he's kinda feminine? uses a lottt of smileys and what not. He is friends with a lottt of girls too and I only see him talking to them online... Even when I'm with him in person... .I get kind of a vibe....
    I was talking about transferring schools with him and he was telling me not to go and was trying to convince me to stay....
    and like we were at a party once and he like came up from behind me and hugged me..

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    Dec 02, 2011 9:33 AM GMT
    Verdict: gay.
  • Nayro

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    Dec 02, 2011 1:43 PM GMT
    Pure saidVerdict: gay.


    we should definitely have a court like this.. I need help with a guy too icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 02, 2011 1:54 PM GMT
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    Dec 02, 2011 4:20 PM GMT
    I suppose you could always ask him but then that might be awkward if he says no and he finds out you're gay. But then if he's a friend, he shouldn't care and if you're transferring to a new school, it's the perfect time to find out.
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    Dec 02, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    Just from what you've said, I wouldn't make any assumptions. Hang out with him more.
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    Dec 02, 2011 4:28 PM GMT
    lottts of speculation.
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    Dec 02, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    I agree. Need more details. icon_smile.gif
  • mybud

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    Dec 02, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    Thebiguy saidSo there's this guy that I really like....
    But first of all, I can't tell if he's gay or not...
    When we talk online, he's kinda feminine? uses a lottt of smileys and what not. He is friends with a lottt of girls too and I only see him talking to them online... Even when I'm with him in person... .I get kind of a vibe....
    I was talking about transferring schools with him and he was telling me not to go and was trying to convince me to stay....
    and like we were at a party once and he like came up from behind me and hugged me..

    Ask him if he want's to clap yo cheeks...if he smiles...grab dem ankles...
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    Dec 02, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    People have a tendency to read too much into other peoples actions and what they say when they like that person..... almost wishing that a smiley face is a hint rather than just a smiley face! That said you never really know..... some guys don't give much away even if they really like you!

    Objectively, nothing you described about the guy and your interactions with him really supports or indicates that he may be gay..... but there are plenty of gays out there that you wouldn't think were gay so I think you need to think of some subtle questions you might ask him that might shed some more light of his persuasion..... just as a suggestion, maybe ask if there's "anyone" he's dating or likes at the moment..... if you ask if he's dating any girls, you might kinda push him into a more limited range of responses..... being neutral about whether it's a he or a she allows him to respond in a manner that gives more away than you might think..... If he straight away says yeah theres this "girl" or he starts talking about girls then I think that indicates he's straight. If the question makes him uncomfortable then that obviously means there's something that he may be hiding, if he say something like oh well there's is someone I like, then it could suggest he's being neutral too because he doesn't want to say it's a he, but he doesn't want to lie and say it's a girl if you get what I mean..... a straight guy will almost always refer to some chick or something.

    Bottom line if you're clever, there are many indirect questions that you can ask that as a whole gives you an unspoken picture about something.....
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    Dec 02, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    Well, maybe he is. in my university, i had see that someone straight looking, look at me in the eyes every time i pass trough him, i just keep looking but change direction, he can look straight...but i think is gay o.o....and, alot of female friends in FB...is a sign that he might be. and straight guys dont make does smile faces in internet frecuently...icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 02, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Maverick6180 saidPeople have a tendency to read too much into other peoples actions and what they say when they like that person..... almost wishing that a smiley face is a hint rather than just a smiley face! That said you never really know..... some guys don't give much away even if they really like you!

    Objectively, nothing you described about the guy and your interactions with him really supports or indicates that he may be gay..... but there are plenty of gays out there that you wouldn't think were gay so I think you need to think of some subtle questions you might ask him that might shed some more light of his persuasion..... just as a suggestion, maybe ask if there's "anyone" he's dating or likes at the moment..... if you ask if he's dating any girls, you might kinda push him into a more limited range of responses..... being neutral about whether it's a he or a she allows him to respond in a manner that gives more away than you might think..... If he straight away says yeah theres this "girl" or he starts talking about girls then I think that indicates he's straight. If the question makes him uncomfortable then that obviously means there's something that he may be hiding, if he say something like oh well there's is someone I like, then it could suggest he's being neutral too because he doesn't want to say it's a he, but he doesn't want to lie and say it's a girl if you get what I mean..... a straight guy will almost always refer to some chick or something.

    Bottom line if you're clever, there are many indirect questions that you can ask that as a whole gives you an unspoken picture about something.....


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  • Thebiguy

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    Dec 02, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    I just don't know how to bring it up...
    I've never talked about girls with him or anything...
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    Dec 02, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    Snype saidJust from what you've said, I wouldn't make any assumptions. Hang out with him more.


    I'm with Snype... Get to know him more.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 02, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    Thebiguy saidSo there's this guy that I really like....
    But first of all, I can't tell if he's gay or not...
    When we talk online, he's kinda feminine? uses a lottt of smileys and what not. He is friends with a lottt of girls too and I only see him talking to them online... Even when I'm with him in person... .I get kind of a vibe....
    I was talking about transferring schools with him and he was telling me not to go and was trying to convince me to stay....
    and like we were at a party once and he like came up from behind me and hugged me..

    LOL OK does he have a gf? How did you two meet? I do not have enough to go off of here.
  • Thebiguy

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    Dec 02, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    No he does not have a girlfriend.
    And we met at the beginning of the semester and we didn't really start talking to each other frequently until a few weeks ago.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 02, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    Thebiguy saidNo he does not have a girlfriend.
    And we met at the beginning of the semester and we didn't really start talking to each other frequently until a few weeks ago.
    listen, i say just get to know him. go and have drinks with him. i have another question. have you ever seen him with a gf
  • Thebiguy

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    Dec 02, 2011 8:40 PM GMT
    I've only known him for a few months now and he's never had a gf during the time ive known him... and i kinda stalked his past twitter and facebook and Ive seen nothing related to being in a relationship... haha
  • danielek

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    Dec 02, 2011 8:46 PM GMT
    What's with the random questions by faceless profiles? I don't get it.
  • Thebiguy

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    Dec 02, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    o. im sorry.
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    Dec 02, 2011 11:49 PM GMT
    Thebiguy saidSo there's this guy that I really like....
    But first of all, I can't tell if he's gay or not...
    When we talk online, he's kinda feminine? uses a lottt of smileys and what not. He is friends with a lottt of girls too and I only see him talking to them online... Even when I'm with him in person... .I get kind of a vibe....
    I was talking about transferring schools with him and he was telling me not to go and was trying to convince me to stay....
    and like we were at a party once and he like came up from behind me and hugged me..



    Just frigging ask. Doh. "Are you gay?" "You like dudes?"

    3 possible answers.
    Yes, I thought you'd never ask
    Maybe / go fuck yourself
    No, but, thanks for asking.

    Save the drama for the theater.
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    Dec 02, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    danielek saidWhat's with the random questions by faceless profiles? I don't get it.


    It's based on an inability to be honest about the whole sexuality thing.

    Instead of asking simple question of the friend, or being honest, liking oneself, and all that...there's the pictureless, closet case, drama. Whatever.
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    Dec 03, 2011 4:23 AM GMT
    he gay
  • Thebiguy

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    Dec 03, 2011 10:35 PM GMT
    hahahah.... thanks ^
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    Dec 04, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    I'm all Bella over my step moms sisters husband. I shouldn't. Of asked a married man to have sex at 2 in the morning. Well in due time guys. He is gay if u want him to be...I think he's staight but high-school sweethearts and being 42. What would u do? Would a straight Guy flip the fuck out? I was asking him if he'd want to have sex while next to him in bed. He said no Patrick get some rest we'll talk about it in the morning and I was like just this once. We'll talk about it in the morning. I love this man guys. Any takers?