Have you ever dealt with separation?

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    Dec 02, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    I came from India to Canada 2 years ago because life for LGBT is way beyond miserable. After 2 months of arrival, I met this guy who is now my boyfriend. I met him during his darkest time of his life and he has helped me in some of my darkest times. We have been in relationship for 1 year and 8 months now and I have never loved anyone in my life as much as I have loved him and vice versa. I just came to know that my work permit won't be extended further and that I have to leave the country, leave the country in 4 days. It is so abrupt. It is coming at a time when we are in such a good place in our relationship. He is the best thing that has happened to me and I can't imagine my life without him. He has become a part of me. We both had a very emotional day today. I have already started working on my re-entry to Canada but that I cannot come back until September next year. The pain is just killing me and he is equally devastated. We both want this to workout but we will be separated brutally. I know he would be very lonely without me esp. now that he is struggling to keep his job. If I knew that no matter what he will be happy that would reduce half my anxiety. I just have my head spinning. The thought of separation is just cruel. Any advice on how to handle such a situation and can anyone care to share their experience of being in a similar situation?
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    Dec 03, 2011 3:05 AM GMT

    Have the two of you thought about getting married?

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    Dec 06, 2011 12:04 PM GMT
    I'm really sorry that this is happening to the both of you... I wish I could offer advice but sadly, I don't know what I can tell you. But "meninlove" does bring up a good question. Have you guys thought of maybe getting married?
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    Dec 10, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    Thanks to both of you. We overcame the situation (at least temporarily). I will be staying in Canada until March and will return back to Canada in September. We have talked about the challenges we will have to overcome during this period but one thing we are sure of is that we both want this to work and we both are willing to give our best effort. Yes long term relationship will be hard but it is only a matter of 5 months and then we will be back together.