Misunderstood because of your wrestling fetish?

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    Dec 03, 2011 1:59 PM GMT
    Not here to judge anyone. If you're into hookups, competitive only wrestling, or something else, although I may not be interested in something like that anymore, I have no problem at all with people who are. I'm a relationship-oriented, monogamous, romantic type of guy who just happens to like wrestling. I like wrestling for various reasons but mostly because it's very erotic and sexual and at times can be intimate.

    My question is this, and I base it on my own past experiences.

    Do people think you're something else...into hookups when you're not, sadist or into pain when your not...just because you tell them or let them know you like wrestling? It seems there's a slight stigma to it.

    Sometimes I'm wary of putting my wrestling interest in an online profile because of this, but because I like it so much, I usual do include it among my interests.

    Thoughts?
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    Dec 03, 2011 3:19 PM GMT
    RIGuy60 saidNot here to judge anyone. If you're into hookups, competitive only wrestling, or something else, although I may not be interested in something like that anymore, I have no problem at all with people who are. I'm a relationship-oriented, monogamous, romantic type of guy who just happens to like wrestling. I like wrestling for various reasons but mostly because it's very erotic and sexual and at times can be intimate.

    My question is this, and I base it on my own past experiences.

    Do people think you're something else...into hookups when you're not, sadist or into pain when your not...just because you tell them or let them know you like wrestling? It seems there's a slight stigma to it.

    Sometimes I'm wary of putting my wrestling interest in an online profile because of this, but because I like it so much, I usual do include it among my interests.

    Thoughts?
    Humm, I have wrestled before and I enjoy it as long as I know we will end up naked. ha ha ha Seriously, I was on the wrestling team for all but a week in high school. I was good at it but was very uncomfortable doing it.
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    Dec 03, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    well,wrestling can also mean play wrestling as well....just rolling around on a bed..laughing...tickling and holding onto a lover or good friend....that's what i think of "wrestling"....it reminds me of when i was a kid..''rasslin"..it can be fun,and erotic....
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    Dec 03, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    I hear ya with that, tuffguyndc. I tried out for my HS wrestling team, but I knew there would be...um.... "problems." Plus I think the idea was to win, not wish to be pinned by that hot, muscular guy.
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    Dec 03, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    eddie13 saidwell,wrestling can also mean play wrestling as well....just rolling around on a bed..laughing...tickling and holding onto a lover or good friend....that's what i think of "wrestling"....it reminds me of when i was a kid..''rasslin"

    That' s more what I'm talking about. It's a fun thing for two guys to do and it's all part of the sexual experience (to me anyway).

    I just think the stigma of teh wrestling "fetish" (and I don'really liek using that woprd for some reason) is when others who may not be into wrestling think you're only about hookups or something.
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    Dec 03, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    This whole topic is confusing me... and gettin' me hard. icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 03, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    RIGuy60 said
    eddie13 saidwell,wrestling can also mean play wrestling as well....just rolling around on a bed..laughing...tickling and holding onto a lover or good friend....that's what i think of "wrestling"....it reminds me of when i was a kid..''rasslin"

    That' s more what I'm talking about. It's a fun thing for two guys to do and it's all part of the sexual experience (to me anyway).

    I just think the stigma of teh wrestling "fetish" (and I don'really liek using that woprd for some reason) is when others who may not be into wrestling think you're only about hookups or something.


    I hate that word too. It makes something go from hot to creepy. buying people's smelly socks over Craigslist is a fetish. To me what you are describing sounds like a specific "turn-on" and in a populated area it's a shame it's not easier to find more people who share it without being judged.

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    Dec 03, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    There's "stigma" associated with any perceived non-normative kinks. Wrestling is a pretty mild kink in the grand scheme of things. I agree with Dan Savage in that it's all in the presentation. If you present your kink like you have herpes, then you're more likely to come across as ashamed of your kink, when in fact, your partner should be so lucky that you have this extra dimension to your sexual life, and who knows, it might open up something about them that you didn't know about that could be just as fun.

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    Dec 03, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    freaks! lol
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    Dec 03, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    It's taken me over 40 years to feel no "shame" in my turn-ons. Mostly.

    But yeah - I love the feel of hard physical contact - watching it too... major turn-on - always has been. I want my next man to 'play' with me that way. ROUGH and tender... then rough again. HOT. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 03, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    RIGuy60 saidI hear ya with that, tuffguyndc. I tried out for my HS wrestling team, but I knew there would be...um.... "problems." Plus I think the idea was to win, not wish to be pinned by that hot, muscular guy.
    ha ha ha LOL That was not my issue. I did not like wrestling in high school because i really did not like some of the positions that you had to start in. Ha ha but I can see how it would affect others though
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    Dec 03, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    people hear the word "fetish" and they freak out...i use the word "fantasty'" and that even freaks people too...i have many fantasies..but people assosciate fantasy with some kind of weirdo..who might hurt them....when actually it's just harmless erotic play...we older guys like the emotional side of sex not just the physical...........even guys who like such things as biting think about fetishes...and they get an instant mental block.???
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    Dec 03, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    one of my big "turn ons" would be to watch a hot man showering...then help him dry off...then rub his muscles down with olive oil...and wrestle him like a Roman Gladiator............GGRRRR! oh hell.............now i'm a fetish freak..
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    Dec 22, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    It's funny that you mentioned it. I did want to join wrestling in high school, but was terrified of getting an erection. For me wrestling is pretty erotic for me, and honestly I love doing stuff like that. After wrestling for more than a minute with someone I always get hard. I can't help it, and if I found other guys who were into it. I'd do it all the time, it really excites me, it's one of the few things I do feel really competitive in. Makes me wonder why I've yet to hear of a gay wrestling federation or anything of that nature yet. I hate that portrays lives we wanna live before any of us think to do it.

    We should never feel ashamed of who we are and what we love to do. Especially not amongst people who for all we know are just like us. If there was nude wrestling group, i'd join that in a fucking heart beat.
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    Dec 23, 2011 9:07 AM GMT
    I produced a two-hour documentary and put together two books on this subject. Check my profile.
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    Dec 23, 2011 9:18 AM GMT
    When I wrestled, it was competitively, so all I thought about was strictly competition. I never wrestled any good looking guys anyway. I think you can still participate in recreational wrestling without having to feel those associations you spoke of. I guess it's hard though, because men are so horny all of the time
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    Dec 23, 2011 10:29 AM GMT
    Wrestling is a good workout, but I guess it is a standard porn sport...
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    Dec 23, 2011 10:33 AM GMT
    Faggots have a problem with wrestling. Real gay men will not.
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    Dec 23, 2011 10:34 AM GMT
    I suppose the wrestling fetish is fine as long as the people involved have the same interest.
    That's why I tend to distinguish this kind of (erotic) wrestling from the sport of competitive wrestling.
    sometimes there's a grey area in between but that's where you may get in trouble lol. The guys who didn't get into/stopped HS wrestling because they knew they might be getting aroused, may have made the smart move (sad as that may sound). Probably not the best way or place to get outed....

    you just have to find likeminded people to share your interest. I don't recommend going to a "normal" wrestling gym to poke straight guys with your boners LOL.

    I think you'll find that most people who've done wrestling as a competitive sport from an early age (gay or not), won't associate it with something erotic. And some may look down upon the "fetishists" as someone who's perverted their noble sport into something lewd.

    personally I accept that some people find wrestling erotic, I'm just not interested in that particular discipline icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 12:05 PM GMT
    I love some good hot wrestling, but there are some guys that they can ONLY talk about it.

    There is a guy I was talking to a few years ago and he wanted to wrestle. I thought it was fun flirting... I have known him online for years now and he is incapable of talking about ANYTHING else. He contacts me occassionally with "Are you afraid of me? Let's hit the mats, big boy!" or something as inane. He is a good guy, but he is so focused on wrestling that it is a huge turnoff.

    Is wrestling fun and hot.. yes... but it is only one thing and be willing to be relaxed and chill with a guy.
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    Dec 23, 2011 12:11 PM GMT
    There are also many guys who were staunch competitive wrestlers who decide later in life to explore the erotic side, and those who only did it for the erotic play who decide to do it more for sport. From my vast day-to-day experience with this, there are all kinds of reasons guys like to wrestle.

    I can honestly tell you, though, that 50% of the guys who say they've never seen anything erotic in wrestling are lying their asses off. Denial and fear.
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    Jan 12, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    I LOVE watching wrestling and better still erotic wrestling, but I have never wrestled in my life.

    I wonder if I would be turned on if I was actually wrestling and not just watching.
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    Jan 12, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    Vcrsicht saidMy, what a fine line it is we toe.


    Tread. What a fine line we tread. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 13, 2012 12:25 AM GMT
    People think I'm a crazy religious nut who is somehow masochistic because I like suffering. To be honest, I don't give a fucking rats ass. I've said this before, and I'll say it again, I don't wanna settle, I don't wanna stop, I'm gonna keep climbing the mountain of life, even if that means I have to do it by myself.

    I don't let other people dictate my happiness. I live by my own rules. I do my own thing. I am my own person, and I want to stay that way. I've learned that people are just complete and total dumbasses, and are just stupid in general. Does this mean I hate people completely? No, I still have great respect for people and I still have much love for people...if anything I sympathize with some people (and some more than others), but I'm not gonna sit here and listen to someone else lecture me about "Well you're dumb because blahdy blahdy blah" They don't live my life, they don't go through what I go through, so their opinion on me doesn't matter. If I do something wrong, I'll admit that I'm doing something wrong, but if someone's just gonna be a pest because they're bored and have nothing better to do except make someone else feel down, fuck that!

    I honestly will never understand why people are so paranoid as to what other people think about them.
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    Jan 13, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    eddie13 saidwell,wrestling can also mean play wrestling as well....just rolling around on a bed..laughing...tickling and holding onto a lover or good friend....that's what i think of "wrestling"....it reminds me of when i was a kid..''rasslin"..it can be fun,and erotic....


    I LOVE this kind. Too bad you're hidden. icon_twisted.gif