Am I crazy, or....

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    Dec 04, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    do I have a right to be annoyed at this:

    Just got finished studying for finals. Then I got to play Cinderella. My roommates (both women) don't believe in doing dish, not evening rinsing them off before putting them in the sink. Nor do they believe in vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom, buying community supplies (i.e. TP, paper towels, hand and dish soap, etc.). You get the picture. It's really driving me crazy. I just spent 45 mins on dishes and they're not even all finished yet. That was after I already had thrown a load into the dishwasher earlier. Both of them are really moody and are even more difficult to live with (if that's even possible) if they get upset about something. I have 6 months left living with them. How do I get them to get their lazy asses off the couch and do stuff without causing WWIII and a terrible living environment for half a year?

    Literally, this place can grow things better than a lab if I'm not home for a few days, or if I refuse to clean because I'm studying.
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    Dec 04, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
    House meeting?

    White board with chore flowchart (with penalties)?

    Maid charge given to you every month when rent is due?
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    Dec 04, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    I've tried the monetary incentive thing. The one barely pays the bills as is. Getting her to do that is like pulling teeth. I made her put the bills all in her name because I'm never late, so when she is it screws her credit.
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    Dec 04, 2011 6:12 AM GMT
    Sounds like you're going to be their maid for the next 6 months.
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    Dec 04, 2011 6:15 AM GMT
    I've lived in a few different situations as room mates go.

    I've been the more responsible one, I've been the less responsible one...

    What worked for me in both situations was a house meeting... If both parties go about it with the mindset of avoiding conflict, it usually works. Their idea of avoiding conflict right now is sitting back and watching you quietly do everything for them...

    Cause a ruckus... Give them a piece of your mind... THEN ask for a house meeting to figure out how to spread the load evenly... The fight wont last very long if you speak to them like adults, and not your children.

    People know when they aren't pulling their weight, but you're giving them a reason not to. Once they see you're not taking it anymore they should at least momentarily turn around.
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    Dec 04, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    Example: my friend got kicked out of his house and I invited him to stay for 2 weeks while he got on his feet. He's very polite, cleans up, helped out with rent, the whole 9 yards. (His dad has a few psych issues and switched his meds and went off the deep end, hence the kicked out part).

    Anyway, because I let my friend stay for a couple of weeks, the one went 3.5 of ignoring everyone. Now normally I'd be thrilled but she also won't talk about bills nor would she pay rent for like 3 weeks on one of the instances. They aren't capable of adult conversion. For a while I was calm and and tried to reason with her. Finally, I told her to come out of her room and discuss the monetary issues or I would remove all the doors in the apartment from their hinges.
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    Dec 04, 2011 7:27 AM GMT
    Yes, you are crazy.

















    Just kidding. Your roommates sound like slobs. They have a dishwasher, but they still don't do the dishes? I'm still stuck having to wash dishes by hand. How hard could it be to put dishes in the dishwasher and let it literally do all the work for you....
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    Dec 04, 2011 8:02 AM GMT
    By playing Cinderella, you're only enabling them. I would horde my own soap/TP, and possibly my own pots and dishes. Bitches need to clean up after themselves. I grew up in a house full of women and trust me, "moodiness" is just a cop-out.
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    Dec 04, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    I agree moodiness is a cop-out, but I can't afford the rent for the entire apartment which they decide to just stop paying if they get pissed enough.

    The thing is, even if it's not my filth, it's still filth. I don't like living in unclean environments. I'm VERY OCD as is, so that compounds the problem. They started talking about living together next year and I said, "No, next year I'm living alone I don't care if it's a lot more expensive!"
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    Dec 04, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    catch saidBy playing Cinderella, you're only enabling them. I would horde my own soap/TP, and possibly my own pots and dishes. Bitches need to clean up after themselves. I grew up in a house full of women and trust me, "moodiness" is just a cop-out.


    Catch is right on this. I also have problematic flatmates and they're messy as hell. I simply put my things in my room except for fridge food and lock the door when i'm not there. it seems to be working- there's no more mess ;)
  • Timbales

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    Dec 04, 2011 8:21 PM GMT
    go back to living a dorm style life:

    1) Lock your bedroom door.

    2) Have a plastic basket for your toiletries and bring them to the bathroom with you, take them to your room.

    3) Keep your non-perishable food, dishes, cooking implements in your room. Any items that aren't yours and in your way, neatly stack to one side and leave there. Clean only what you need. to clean to get by.

    It's only 6 months, it will suck but it's doable.
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    Dec 04, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    Sounds like they are just messy people, your not going to be able to change them, luckily you aren’t married to them so you can probably just move on and find a better living situation, your best off just finding other people more on your level to live with.

    Or to put it in fairy tale terms, you need to be more like Goldilocks, ditch the wicked stepsisters and move in with some bears.
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    Dec 04, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidAre they lesbians? Let the place go to hell an invite some pretty girls over that they would be interested in and then have the girls say right before they leave, while the roomies there of course, "Man you guys are pigs, maybe next time let's meet somewhere else." directed at no one in particular of course.

    And just keep inviting friends over and have them do your 'dirty work' for you (that is dropping hints)



    LMAO! I WAS WONDERING THE SAME THING! Why do you have to be stuck with them for 6 more months? I'd get there assess out one way or another. If been both kinds of roommate but that just sounds messy. Friends consider each other & their feelings. Sounds to me these girls figured you'd be the clean one & they could go be messy. If they're straight, invite over hit guys for a bbq or something. Then do as he ^^ suggested. Let your friends do the dirty work. I'm sure they'll be able to tell its them. If they keep they're living quarters like that, lord only know how they keep it down stairs!
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    Dec 05, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    Stuttershock saidOr to put it in fairy tale terms, you need to be more like Goldilocks, ditch the wicked stepsisters and move in with some bears.

    Can't argue with good logic and a good metaphor. icon_biggrin.gif

    WillBPharmD saidI agree moodiness is a cop-out, but I can't afford the rent for the entire apartment which they decide to just stop paying if they get pissed enough.

    That is bogus! Is there anything you can possibly work with with your landlord - or search through on your lease? You shouldn't be punished for crap like that.