Is Premarital Sex Wrong?

  • HopefulMuscle

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    Dec 05, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    First off I would like to begin by stating that my policy for sex is "No glove, no love"and that I am HIV Negative and tested regularly (actualy i am coming up to another test date). And now on to the topic.

    Along with most guys I have needs and urges, while I almost make the decision to have a hookup I can't help but to feel guilty. I am a regular church goer, but contary to popular belief I am not a bible thumper nor do I condone the acts of how these so-called "christians" spread hate messages. For my own being I refer to myself to being christlike. Meaning that I love all people as Jesus would have wanted it (but thats beside the point). As for being in church we are told that premarital sex is wrong, but isn't that not the point of growing up? Finding out what you like in the world? And say a couple really loves each other (not in my case, mine is just out of being horny) and has sex without being married is it still wrong? I guess I am asking permission to have sex, even though it cannot be given on here. That decision is entirely up to me. So, I guess what I am asking is another guy's opinon. Any would be helpful.
  • HopefulMuscle

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    Dec 06, 2011 5:42 AM GMT
    Maybe I should take this as a sign, lol.
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    Dec 06, 2011 5:50 AM GMT
    not having sex before marriage scares me!

    what if I ended up with a dud of a man... *shudders @ thought*
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    Dec 06, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    The whole "no premarital sex" thing was conceived back in a time where people were illiterate and rural based. No condoms. No birth control. Horny teenagers, etc. It was a blunt instrument, used because no other tools existed.

    Sex is a healthy thing, but with that right comes a responsibility. You need to read and educate yourself about the risks of STDs or sex addictions, communicating with your partner, etc. In between celibacy and sex lies the wonderful playground of foreplay....affection, kissing, licking, making out, massaging and JO.

    Have fun. b0212.gif

    As for church? Its easy for a bunch of old married guys to make moral judgements...which many of them never lived up to anyway.
  • Suetonius

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    Dec 06, 2011 7:37 AM GMT
    Sounds like you are already having sex, and no, it is not wrong. Anyway, what people in church say is not god speaking, but only men. No matter how many bibles you read, you won't find Jesus telling people not to have sex before marriage. He preached love, so if you are following him, go out and love. Love can include sex.
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    Dec 06, 2011 3:35 PM GMT
    To the OP - in Indiana where you live you cannot get married to someone else of the same sex.

    Bill and I had premarital sex for 20 years before we married up here in Canada.

    I'm christian. Beware of those who feed you dogma disguised as faith.
  • tjmwdm1

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    Dec 06, 2011 4:54 PM GMT
    Can't have premarital sex if you can't get married!
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    Dec 06, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    tjmwdm1 saidCan't have premarital sex if you can't get married!


    I was about to say, a bit of a contradiction for gays, yes?
  • HopefulMuscle

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    Dec 06, 2011 6:44 PM GMT
    There's a lot I dont understand with the church, which is why I try to live in a way that Jesus would have wanted. And it's not like I dont want sex, bcause to be bluntly honest sex feels so good. I just dont understand why it is a bad thing.
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    Dec 07, 2011 6:37 AM GMT
    Lying to a loved one is wrong.
    Murdering someone is wrong
    Stealing is wrong.
    Cheating is wrong.
    Raping someone is wrong.
    Causing a worldwide economic collapse is wrong.
    Spreading rumors is wrong.
    Hating is wrong.
    Treating people like shit is wrong.

    Having consensual (& non-cheating) sex with adults is never wrong.

    The Bible is out-dated. After reading it for the first time, I stopped caring about the Bible. It's packed full with nonsense and garbage.