Party and RSVP

  • Latenight30

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    Dec 05, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    Good afternoon,
    I have mentioned in the recipe section about doing a cookie exchange party. Well Evites have gone out and I also do a Hold the Date Pre-vite to allow people to have early information while I do guest list and settle on times.
    Back in the day when "invitations" were hand done and sent via the mail, like many of our birthday parties at McDonalds, parents would RSVP in some form or not. Either with an official replay via snail mail or passing it along via the child.
    Do you RSVP? Even if it is a Maybe?
    I think RSVPs are common courtesy. We aren't throwing a solo cup kegger, this is a planned menu and drinks.
    If you get an invite, or evite, RSVP, something.
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    Dec 05, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    RSVP.

    I actually have no idea what you are talking about but I guess since this is a group forum, we have to put RSVP or something else....

    so RSVP.
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    Dec 05, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    What is worse that a person who is too lazy to respond to an invitation? If he is not able to attend, or just plain doesn't want to go, he should take a minute to RSVP his regrets. A host goes through a lot of planning and expense / time / thought and work to put on a party. Even if the party is catered, you have to give the caterer a number and plan for how much food and drink.

    Today's Evites are a cinch. You can just reply right on line - without any time or trouble. That is the least an invitee can do. Anybody who would be too lazy to respond to an invitation doesn't need to be invited ever again.

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    Dec 05, 2011 10:09 PM GMT
    RSVP unless it's a Facebook invite. Then it's okay to just not go even if you clicked Attending. After all, they didn't put in the effort to invite you personally, so whatever.
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    Dec 05, 2011 10:13 PM GMT
    If the evite (or invitation) asks for an RSVP, then you should RSVP. If it doesn't ask, no RSVP is necessary. It's up to the host to request an RSVP or not.
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    Dec 05, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    Mitigate the damage and ask for an "RSVP by __/__/__ " deadline. Then you have time for the proper purchasing and preparations.
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    Dec 05, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    just RSVP's 2 three parties, and a wedding last wk. easy w/ evites. now i'm working on dates 4 them....
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    Dec 05, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    I'm actually having my 2nd annual Christmas party this year. Last year, I invited about 35 guests which I chose very carefully. Probably one third of the people who showed up did not bother to RSVP. And on top of that, some people invited more than one guest, and some people actually brought SEVERAL uninvited people! We estimated we had about 80 people there and I had only planned for about 20 due to the lack of RSVP's. And this doesn't count the party crashers we had. It's just completely rude and puts the host in the position of not knowing how much food or drink to provide.
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    Dec 05, 2011 11:56 PM GMT
    I will admit that one of the reasons I continue to use Facebook is that doing events on their instead of using Evite is brilliant. You can track who's coming, who's declined, who's a maybe, etc etc. Message all guests. Post info about the party.

    I do my annual Hannukwanzmas party on Facebook...and if someone shows up who didn't bother to accept the invite on Facebook...they get a stern lecture.

    For non-Facebook people, I just forward the event to their email and they can reply accordingly, RSVPing by email.
  • metta

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    Dec 06, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    I do normally RSVP. I forgot to do it one time because I was just so busy with everything and did not go because of it. During the party, they called me and told me to get over there...that they did not care that I did not RSVP. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 06, 2011 11:53 AM GMT
    If you don't include RSVP in the invite, you're telling people it doesn't matter if they respond in advance.

    If you do ask for RSVPs and someone who has not responded shows up, you can say something passive aggressive like, "Oh, how lovely. I never dreamed you would actually show up."
  • metta

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    Dec 06, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    ^
    I think that would be rude for a host to say such a thing. I think it is better to be prepared and expect that there will be at least a few extras and just let the issue go.
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    Dec 06, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    Common courtesy. I cook for company and get annoyed when I don't make enough food for everyone - less food to go around means I get left hungry. Even in the case of a "wild party" I still would want to get a ballpark figure of how many people are coming. Cooking is cheap, but I'd rather not share all my booze with 15 people that have varying definitions of moderation. Facebook events is my friend.

    "It seems to me that maybe pretty much always means no."
  • metta

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    Dec 06, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidI'm actually having my 2nd annual Christmas party this year. Last year, I invited about 35 guests which I chose very carefully. Probably one third of the people who showed up did not bother to RSVP. And on top of that, some people invited more than one guest, and some people actually brought SEVERAL uninvited people! We estimated we had about 80 people there and I had only planned for about 20 due to the lack of RSVP's. And this doesn't count the party crashers we had. It's just completely rude and puts the host in the position of not knowing how much food or drink to provide.


    You should consider just inviting real friends then. Real friends do not step all over you. Some of that does seem to cross a line. In general, they should have at least asked you if it was ok to bring someone else or more people than that. I don't keep in contact with people that don't treat me with respect.
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    Dec 06, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    I always RSVP if I know about the invite. I chronically never check my e-mail and usually get a text about an event, but will respond through that fashion.
  • Latenight30

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    Dec 06, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    1969er saidMitigate the damage and ask for an "RSVP by __/__/__ " deadline. Then you have time for the proper purchasing and preparations.
    Répondez, s'il vous plaît.


    You know my wise mother told me to date it next time. It's a good point.
    I also assumed that everyone know what RSVP was. It's the Acronym for the French phrase
    réspondez s'il vous plaît. or Respond, or reply please.