Met a new guy, but I only go to his house to hang out. He does not want to go out and do anything. (What's wrong!)

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    Dec 06, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
    Hey guys. I having been hanging out with this guy for about 2 weeks now. we get along really well and have stuff in common. He has invited me over to his place to watch a movie and eat dinner and we have had sex 3 times already. My concern is that when I ask him if he wants to go out and do something he just wants to stay in. Is it that he doesn't want to go out because of me? or he is just a homebody lol?
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:20 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 saidHey guys. I having been hanging out with this guy for about 2 weeks now. we get along really well and have stuff in common. He has invited me over to his place to watch a movie and eat dinner and we have had sex 3 times already. My concern is that when I ask him if he wants to go out and do something he just wants to stay in. Is it that he doesn't want to go out because of me? or he is just a homebody lol?


    Its you brah.

    I wouldnt meet someone at their house for a date, that screams sex. Always meet in public first. If he was a homebody, he would want to stay in after like the 4th or 5th date, which isnt bad. But yea, dump his ass.
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    Yea... I guess it was kinda of a hookup then. It might turn into friends with benefits. I don't know. I just don't see the harm in going out and doing something.. Not like I'm going to go out and put him on the spot lol
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:27 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 saidYea... I guess it was kinda of a hookup then. It might turn into friends with benefits. I don't know. I just don't see the harm in going out and doing something.. Not like I'm going to go out and put him on the spot lol


    People are weird man. If he is sleeping with you, chances are he likes you. Play hard to get, when he texts you to come over reject him and so forth (not all the time but sometime). Make him realize you are busy and he has to work for it.

    Or do what I do and say "This is too much work, I need a new man"
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    Very true.. Well sometimes he tells me to text him and then it leads to me going over there. I mean the sex is good and don't have to have a serious relationship right now. Friends and fun are fine just suks that he is such a homebody
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:32 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 saidVery true.. Well sometimes he tells me to text him and then it leads to me going over there. I mean the sex is good and don't have to have a serious relationship right now. Friends and fun are fine just suks that he is such a homebody


    Pull the bitch card.

    He says "Secks!"

    You say "Bitch, come by me a drink first"

    he says no, go pull better tail. It werks gurl!
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
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    BCmasc1 saidVery true.. Well sometimes he tells me to text him and then it leads to me going over there. I mean the sex is good and don't have to have a serious relationship right now. Friends and fun are fine just suks that he is such a homebody


    Pull the bitch card.

    He says "Secks!"

    You say "Bitch, come by me a drink first"

    he says no, go pull better tail. It werks gurl!


    haha...funny shit man...Ill just play it by ear. I mean he is not a bad guy tho...
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 said
    Chainers said
    BCmasc1 saidVery true.. Well sometimes he tells me to text him and then it leads to me going over there. I mean the sex is good and don't have to have a serious relationship right now. Friends and fun are fine just suks that he is such a homebody


    Pull the bitch card.

    He says "Secks!"

    You say "Bitch, come by me a drink first"

    he says no, go pull better tail. It werks gurl!


    haha...funny shit man...Ill just play it by ear. I mean he is not a bad guy tho...


    Dont expect much from him, never underestimate the horniness of man.
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:39 PM GMT
    I guess we can just enjoy eachother with no emotions. I mean he is really good looking and has the goods to back it up, so I guess Ill just play the game. Like you said, act like he is not really that important all the timeicon_evil.gif
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    He probably just doesn't feel comfortable being in a public setting as a "gay couple". Even if y'all were just hanging out as friends in public, he still might feel paranoid and self-conscious about it. Maybe ease him into it or just talk to him about it.
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:42 PM GMT
    Charlieee saidHe probably just doesn't feel comfortable being in a public setting as a "gay couple". Even if y'all were just hanging out as friends in public, he still might feel paranoid and self-conscious about it. Maybe ease him into it or just talk to him about it.


    Thank man, very true words.
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:42 PM GMT
    no harm in flat-out asking him. Did you not do the typical, "what do you do for fun" before you started dating him?

    Maybe he is just a homebody or just enjoys staying home. At some point, though, he'll have to start doing things you like to do, too, to make this relationship work. And sex 3x's in 2 weeks doesn't mean it's all about sex by a long shot. There are also some people in dating relationships that would sometimes rather just stay home, watch a movie and eat dinner instead of going to clubs/bars/out. So, it can work both ways.
  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 06, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    I'm sure he watches TV a lot. Figure out what he likes to watch on tv and come up with away activities that gets him out of the house. For example, if he likes watching sports, go to sporting events. If he likes movies, go to dinner and a movie. The small local theaters (i.e. seating 25) are sometimes the best. Be creative if you're willing to meet him halfway. And remember, you can't change him; only he can change himself. The only thing you can do is show him an alternative and get him to like it.
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:47 PM GMT
    Well we are not dating. Just the first time we met up it was at his house and it has only been there lol. Like Chainers said I should not expect too much from him even if he is a nice guy.
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 saidHey guys. I having been hanging out with this guy for about 2 weeks now. we get along really well and have stuff in common. He has invited me over to his place to watch a movie and eat dinner and we have had sex 3 times already. My concern is that when I ask him if he wants to go out and do something he just wants to stay in. Is it that he doesn't want to go out because of me? or he is just a homebody lol?
    Have you asked him to hangout? Where did you ask him to go? He may be a homebody type of guy. If that's the case than you probably may need to end this before you get a little to attached. He might not like being seen out in public with you. I am not trying to be mean but guys whom I really no interest in other than sex. I usually just have sex with them and that is it. Think you need to find out what his story may be
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:49 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 saidWell we are not dating. Just the first time we met up it was at his house and it has only been there lol. Like Chainers said I should not expect too much from him even if he is a nice guy.


    Well, there you have it. You're his booty call. As long as you're okay with that, the rest is up to YOU. If you want to take it further, just talk to him.
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:51 PM GMT
    I have asked him to go out, but he says he is too tired to go out or he does not want to because he works outside all day. Also when I ask him who he goes out with when he goes out he just says himself...odd... Says he doesn't have many friends in the area.
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:53 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 saidI have asked him to go out, but he says he is too tired to go out or he does not want to because he works outside all day. Also when I ask him who he goes out with when he goes out he just says himself...odd... Says he doesn't have many friends in the area.


    There's a reason why he doesn't have many friends. He's ambivalent. icon_idea.gif
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
    Haha..well I guess I can't change that about him thenicon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 saidVery true.. Well sometimes he tells me to text him and then it leads to me going over there. I mean the sex is good and don't have to have a serious relationship right now. Friends and fun are fine just suks that he is such a homebody
    If he is only into you for sex that game may not work. I know if it was me. I would not give a rats ass if you did not come over. Why don't you ask him what you want to know. If you play those stupid high school girl games like chainers is suggested than you take a big chance and losing him. Listen, if you want to know the answer to something none of use can answer it. The only person who can answer that questions you want to know is the guy you are sleeping with. Anyhow, good luck I hope you get the answer that you are looking for
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    Dec 06, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    BCmasc1 saidI have asked him to go out, but he says he is too tired to go out or he does not want to because he works outside all day. Also when I ask him who he goes out with when he goes out he just says himself...odd... Says he doesn't have many friends in the area.
    Is he out?
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    Dec 06, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    BCmasc1 saidVery true.. Well sometimes he tells me to text him and then it leads to me going over there. I mean the sex is good and don't have to have a serious relationship right now. Friends and fun are fine just suks that he is such a homebody
    If he is only into you for sex that game may not work. I know if it was me. I would not give a rats ass if you did not come over. Why don't you ask him what you want to know. If you play those stupid high school girl games like chainers is suggested than you take a big chance and losing him. Listen, if you want to know the answer to something none of use can answer it. The only person who can answer that questions you want to know is the guy you are sleeping with. Anyhow, good luck I hope you get the answer that you are looking for


    lol you cant lose something you dont have.

    Seriously brah, Ive had "fuck buddies" who did that shit to me, I played them right back and now they eat out of the palm of my hand. Just how it goes.
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    Dec 06, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    Only to some people. Not really many
  • barriehomeboy

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    Dec 07, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    I'm not sure what's wrong with being a home-body. I am one. I'm more comfortable at home with a guy, sharing the things in my space that define me, than going out and being a drunken goon annoying gay guy in a bar somewhere. Love and intimacy and a family life or being gay and childish forever? Those are the choices.