Fashion advice 43y/o

  • whoisbambam

    Posts: 1

    Dec 07, 2011 7:29 AM GMT
    I did find some posts years back on the subject matter but looking for more recent advice.

    I am fashion/dress clueless.

    In highschool it was 501/701 levis 30-31/32-33 and le tigre or izod, primarily. I never went beyond this.

    I no longer want to dress like a bum, for lack of a better description.

    details: 5 9.5inches, 175lbs (ideal weight probably 168-ish, as in college I had no fat to find, was muscular, etc. despite this being at the highest end of the bmi charts), larger chest area in contrast to thinner legs. I plan on losing more fat around mid-torso. blue-green eyes, brown hair, wear glasses, 43 years old, but I doubt anybody would ever guess that as I look young--but the age of ppl I will be around is late 20s-50s, quasi-professional to professional (nurses, doctors). At 43, I do have less muscle, so I am not sure what the adjusted ideal weight may be, perhaps 165 would represent absolutely no fat. I am mentioning this as I am attempting to lose it and I am not sure how relevant this may be to the choice of clothing. I have always had wide hip bones, large rib cavity, so I am not a classic 'tapered' man even with no lard whatsoever


    For suits, it seems I am best off going to brooks brothers and purchasing two suits, perhaps navy and charcoal, and letting them take care of the details?

    That seems easy compared to more casual wear wherein I do not have professionals necessarily advising.

    I need everything: every range of shirt, short, trousers, socks, ties, sweater, coat (perhaps one for the suit that may double for semi-casual, i dunno)

    Based on the posts I have read, it seems I should consider Banana republic

    In the past, I have simply gone to JC Penney type stores purchasing 'docker like' clothing.

    Perhaps this will suffice, I really do not know.

    for the suits, I am assuming I may be able to get two basic suits for about a $1,000 not including accessories

    For my new wardrobe, ideally I am looking for something that may double for 'just going to my friend's place' and 'an average restaurant', that may also be good enough for dinner with medical staff (to include winter and summer)

    I am completely clueless about glasses (brands, lens shapes, rims etc) other than black frames seem to be the most versatile. I can not wear contacts as my eyes just can not take it, so any ideas on where to go for this would be nice--my head is perhaps larger than normal (perhaps 7 3/4 helmet size to avoid headaches, but 7.5 is manageble short-term)

    I have found this challenging as 'lens crafter's' type outfits never seem to get it right--i am assuming due to my head size or some incompetence, i dunno really--perhaps my ears are low-set, as a frequent problem is that they dont stay on well or they slope too much)


    I hope i have provided enough information. As for facial type, I am not too sure, but perhaps more on the round-ish 'baby face' type as my heritage is Irish/scottish and that seems to be a characteristic (not trying to oversimplify that heritage tho)

    I probably need to look for a dress watch for a suit, but hopefully something like seiko or citizens would suffice.

    As for shoes, I am flat-footed, wide-footed. As an example, I am wearing brooksrunning 'the beast' 4E, and altho my true shoe-size is probably a 10-10.5, I find myself needing a 10.5-11 to avoid 'smashing' the toes together, even with 2E/4E. This makes for very uncomfortable dress shoe choices.

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    Cost needs to be minimized but must be balanced by my absolute lack of awareness with fashion/design or whatever u would like to call it. Ppl seem to emphasize that I shouldn't skimp on the suits, but nor do i want to 'over do' it. I need some middle-ground for interviews, special occasions, etc without over-dressing (but that seems less of an issue as under-dressing)

    Ideally, care should be simplified (minimal ironing and dry cleaning) to lessen the pain with this transition (time is a premium presently)

    all advice most welcome, and I thank you all in advance for any help for my lifelong 'issue'






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    Dec 07, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    whoisbambam saidI did find some posts years back on the subject matter but looking for more recent advice.

    I am fashion/dress clueless.

    In highschool it was 501/701 levis 30-31/32-33 and le tigre or izod, primarily. I never went beyond this.

    I no longer want to dress like a bum, for lack of a better description.

    details: 5 9.5inches, 175lbs (ideal weight probably 168-ish, as in college I had no fat to find, was muscular, etc. despite this being at the highest end of the bmi charts), larger chest area in contrast to thinner legs. I plan on losing more fat around mid-torso. blue-green eyes, brown hair, wear glasses, 43 years old, but I doubt anybody would ever guess that as I look young--but the age of ppl I will be around is late 20s-50s, quasi-professional to professional (nurses, doctors). At 43, I do have less muscle, so I am not sure what the adjusted ideal weight may be, perhaps 165 would represent absolutely no fat. I am mentioning this as I am attempting to lose it and I am not sure how relevant this may be to the choice of clothing. I have always had wide hip bones, large rib cavity, so I am not a classic 'tapered' man even with no lard whatsoever


    For suits, it seems I am best off going to brooks brothers and purchasing two suits, perhaps navy and charcoal, and letting them take care of the details?

    That seems easy compared to more casual wear wherein I do not have professionals necessarily advising.

    I need everything: every range of shirt, short, trousers, socks, ties, sweater, coat (perhaps one for the suit that may double for semi-casual, i dunno)

    Based on the posts I have read, it seems I should consider Banana republic

    In the past, I have simply gone to JC Penney type stores purchasing 'docker like' clothing.

    Perhaps this will suffice, I really do not know.

    for the suits, I am assuming I may be able to get two basic suits for about a $1,000 not including accessories

    For my new wardrobe, ideally I am looking for something that may double for 'just going to my friend's place' and 'an average restaurant', that may also be good enough for dinner with medical staff (to include winter and summer)

    I am completely clueless about glasses (brands, lens shapes, rims etc) other than black frames seem to be the most versatile. I can not wear contacts as my eyes just can not take it, so any ideas on where to go for this would be nice--my head is perhaps larger than normal (perhaps 7 3/4 helmet size to avoid headaches, but 7.5 is manageble short-term)

    I have found this challenging as 'lens crafter's' type outfits never seem to get it right--i am assuming due to my head size or some incompetence, i dunno really--perhaps my ears are low-set, as a frequent problem is that they dont stay on well or they slope too much)


    I hope i have provided enough information. As for facial type, I am not too sure, but perhaps more on the round-ish 'baby face' type as my heritage is Irish/scottish and that seems to be a characteristic (not trying to oversimplify that heritage tho)

    I probably need to look for a dress watch for a suit, but hopefully something like seiko or citizens would suffice.

    As for shoes, I am flat-footed, wide-footed. As an example, I am wearing brooksrunning 'the beast' 4E, and altho my true shoe-size is probably a 10-10.5, I find myself needing a 10.5-11 to avoid 'smashing' the toes together, even with 2E/4E. This makes for very uncomfortable dress shoe choices.

    icon_sad.gif

    Cost needs to be minimized but must be balanced by my absolute lack of awareness with fashion/design or whatever u would like to call it. Ppl seem to emphasize that I shouldn't skimp on the suits, but nor do i want to 'over do' it. I need some middle-ground for interviews, special occasions, etc without over-dressing (but that seems less of an issue as under-dressing)

    Ideally, care should be simplified (minimal ironing and dry cleaning) to lessen the pain with this transition (time is a premium presently)

    all advice most welcome, and I thank you all in advance for any help for my lifelong 'issue'








    For starters, visit men.style.com then I would pick up a copy of GQ and Details magazines. They have great fashion advice and a lot of interesting articles. A lot of times you will find places that I have "fashion experts". EXPRESS has these (used to be one/worked as a manager as well two times over) and you can get something ot fit your build. I would say stick with "modren fit" shirts and most likely the Producer pant. As for suits, Express has had really high rated suits. Brooks Brothers is over rated in my book! I walked in there to look for something for graduation and walked right back out. The seams were so cheaply done and the material was crap. I was really surprised as was my friend's grandpa whom had always bought BrooksBros. As for glasses, don't worry about brands and things like that. Find something that works with your face. I would suggest something but you don't have a pic so it would make it a little hard. Hope this helps.
  • jimbrody

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    Dec 07, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    Too complicated for forum postings. You need a gay man, or a girl friend, who you think has good dress sense, to tell you what you should wear and go shopping with you. (Either will probably enjoy doing it.)
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    Dec 07, 2011 5:05 PM GMT
    jimbrody saidToo complicated for forum postings. You need a gay man, or a girl friend, who you think has good dress sense, to tell you what you should wear and go shopping with you. (Either will probably enjoy doing it.)


    ^^^ this


    Give a man a shirt and you dress him for a day, teach a man to shop and you dress him for a lifetime.
  • CuriousJockAZ

    Posts: 19128

    Dec 07, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    Pick up a copy of ESQUIRE or MEN'S JOURNAL magazine and thumb through them for some age-appropriate ideas as those magazines cater to more the 30's, 40's and 50's aged men