How was your first relationship?

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    Dec 07, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    So I just broke up recently ( 2 months ago) from my first relationship. We were going out for almost 6 months and everything was going great ( well at least i thought) we just came back from a trip from Montreal and it was nice. The relationship was great for being my first. He was a great guy and made me really happy and I thought I did the same for him... anyways we broke up because he said he "couldn't be in a relationship anymore." so we parted ways... So my first experience really taught me a lot about dating, relationships and myself.

    So my question to you guys... Do you remember your first relationship? Was it a good experience or a bad one? Did it help you decide what you wanted for a future partner?

    Just curious... would love to hear some stories icon_smile.gif
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Dec 07, 2011 7:39 PM GMT
    CRAZY went to his home town with him to get woke up by the police at the door and i answer in my underwear and half asleep. they asked to serch his place because someone accused him of drug running madison to appleton. so that was the end of that one.
  • umphreak

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    Dec 07, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
    Mine made me realize i wanted him to be my partner.

    Monday was our 7th anniversary (or 49 gay years).

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    Dec 07, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    no long story here. dated this girl for 5 months in high school. lame.
  • jackthejock

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    Dec 07, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    My first relationship was a good experience. He was only a few years older than me and was one of the managers at my first job out of college. I always had a crush on him but he wasn't in my department and I didn't have much opportunities to talk to him. After I'd been at my new job a few weeks I ran into him at a club and we ended up dancing and kissing and then dating. We dated for about 6 months but then he broke up with me because he got a promotion and thought our schedules wouldn't mesh well enough to keep a relationship going. I was OK with it though as I was sort of loosing interest (he wasn't that great in bed hahaha) but now from time to time when I see him he tries to get me to go home with him, I never do hahaha


    Overall it was a good experience though as we were always respectful of one another and never really fought, no major drama.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    Never had one so I'll let you know when it happens. Well had a gf in high school for a couple months but doesn't count since I only dated so people didn't suspect I was gay.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    HETEROSEXUAL.
  • Latenight30

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    Dec 07, 2011 8:13 PM GMT
    Hot and heavy. Revolved around pizza and sex. Still keep in touch with the guy. We see each other once a year about.
    Good experience.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    Mine was in high school, in south Alabama. It was mostly good but, as is common with serioud young love, full of confusion and angst.

    As soon as a couple years after it ended I started to recognize lessons learned from it. In short, life and love are sweet, however imperfect.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    My first relationship lasted for two years, I didn't believe that love existed before that but I fell and I fell hard. It took me three or four months to finally tell him that I was in love with him, sweaty-palmed and nervous as hell, I almost cried when he told me he loved me too. Over time we got mixed up in the day to day and I think he got bored, cheated and we ended it.
  • jim_sf

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    Dec 07, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    Torrid. He was a grad student-slash-stripper with an outrageously chiseled body (and, yes, he was hung and damned good in bed). He was also a selfish, manipulative, cheating prick who didn't know how to handle rejection. I was 19, completely enamored of him, and still very naive about sex and relationships, so I overlooked a lot of his flaws... for a few months.

    Needless to say, it did not end well. At all.
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    Dec 07, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    Thanks for sharing everyone... hope to hear some more icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 09, 2011 4:22 AM GMT
    My first relationship lasted 3 years and 4 months. We were each others' firsts. Looking back, we probably should have broken up earlier on in the relationship, but we got comfortable and did enjoy each others' company. One of the issues was the lack of a sex life. We were never really on the same sexual level. Ultimately we realized that we were not each others' ideal sexual partner. While we loved each other (and still do), we were not IN love with each other, or at least not for long.

    We parted ways extremely amicably. We had both realized that we needed to have a change and we were both ready for it. Interestingly, only a week after we broke up I met my current boyfriend on match.com. I know it might sound crazy but I was so ready to date and be with someone knew. In fact, in the months leading up to our breakup, my former boyfriend even knew that I was on match.com trying to find someone new to date and he was okay with it because we both knew that things between us were ending. That's how honest our relationship was.

    I learned a lot from that relationship. I was much more emotionally intimate with my first boyfriend than with my current one. But I think it was TOO emotionally intimate. We were both inexperienced in different ways. The good thing, however, is that we are still good friends and I am confident that we always will be.

    To answer your question, yes, my first relationship definitely helped me to know what I liked and didn't like in a future partner. Maybe that's why my current boyfriend is so different from my first one. There are certain morals that they have in common, of course, but with my current boyfriend I feel a real "in love" feeling that has not gone away even after a year and three months, and we have much more in common like our career, interests, habits, etc.

    Interestingly, my current bf is 10 years older than me and my first boyfriend was only 2 years younger.
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    Dec 28, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    Time for a bump... i want to read more stories!!!
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    Dec 28, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    Good learning experience. Bad relationship.
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    Dec 28, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    Started off great.

    Ended with cheap whiskey and cops.
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    Dec 28, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    still love him, yet hate him for all the verbal abuse he put me through. Left him 4 months ago and deleted him from my life. still think of him at times and miss him but then i remember the hurt he put me through and try to forget him. It feels as if someone i loved died.

    He taught me a lesson to never put up with verbal abuse from anyone.
  • rnch

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    Dec 28, 2011 1:50 AM GMT
    frustrating. icon_exclaim.gif

    after 14 months he suddenly stopped talking to me, much less sleeping with me. icon_confused.gif

    i found out later that he had stopped taking his anti-anxiety meds (that i didn't know he was taking!) and freaked out against the world. icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 28, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    he had me wrapped around his finger and then cut me off. though he showed me another side of life that i never experienced,for that im grateful...everything else just a damn regret. /:

    oh well
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    Dec 28, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    Very stormy! 8 years of a lot of good and some bad. It was a mutual break-up. We worked very hard to remain friends. The first year and a half were tough but we are now extremely close friends who have grown to really love and respect each other outside of a relationship .I would not have traded the experience for the world. I def learned a lot about myself and what I will and won't put up with in my next relationship.

    Hmmm, maybe that's why I'm still single.icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 28, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    I was "straight", met him through my gay best friend. We started dating secretly. My best friend said that he and my (unknown to my best friend) boyfriend had been messing around. He was my first and it broke my heart. Needless to say that my first boyfriend was a liar and a cheater. I saw him again after eight years at a wedding this past summer. Still a sleaze ball - was saying anything to get into my pants. I still love him, but at least I'm not fool enough to fall for him twice.
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    Dec 28, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    I'll let you know.
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    Dec 28, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    How was your first relationship?

    Great at first, heartbreaking at the end. Lasted for 3 months, my first gay BF.

    It taught me a lot about gay men. He was wonderful, we had great times, going to plays and the ballet, me riding him on my motorcycle, spending weekends in my camper in the woods, just paling around.

    But then I noticed a change coming over him, and finally discovered the cause: his ex-partner had reappeared on the scene, with demands for a payoff on the house the ex claimed he helped to buy before they broke-up. My BF became depressed, went on tranquilizers, his whole personality changing, and he became detached from me.

    Finally I realized I'd lost him, having become just another complication in his life, one item too many on his plate. Not being smart enough or experienced enough to know how to help him, I broke it off myself. Sadly, a domineering golddigger latched onto him shortly afterwards, the ex-partner having been bought off by then, and this new guy ruined his career and his life.

    I began to think half the gays I met were suffering from PTSD or something, emotionally fragile and unstable, often acting irrationally. Almost scared me away from dating. But then I moved from that big city to a rural area, and found the gays there to be only half as neurotic, safe enough for me to try dating again.

    But I still fondly remember that guy from nearly 17 years ago. And the lessons he taught me, both intentional & unintentional, continue to guide me in some ways.
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    Dec 28, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    A little embarrassed to say that I have not experienced that yet. Any takers?
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 28, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
    At first it was great. He was my introduction to the gay life, including clubs, sex with another man and many things I had never experienced. We were together for 2 and 1/2 years before he decided that I was no longer "enough" for him and we went our separate ways. icon_confused.gif