I was the kind of kid who always thought himself "mature for his age." I regularly looked down on "most guys my age" because I thought they were all so immature and not relationship material.
Well, I met my ex when we were both 22. We were together for nine years, and lived together for the last six. We grew up together, went through thick and thin, and he will forever be someone I would give my life for. The relationship had to come to an end, and at this point in our lives we're both better off apart, but I wouldn't trade a minute of the time I shared with him. He, and not someone ten years older than me, was the guy I needed then.
What I realize now is that most gay guys in their early 20s actually self-describe as "more mature than most guys their age." Most claim that they can't--for various reasons--find anyone their age to date. It puzzles me that all these mature young guys can't seem to find each other, when I seem to come across them all the time.