We don't peak until out 30's

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    Dec 07, 2011 7:43 PM GMT
    Because I am 23, still called a "baby" by guys 27 and older, and can't seem to find anyone my own age to date because they are either pretentious, flaming, or closeted, I have come to the conclusion that we don't peak until our 30's.

    Have you found this to be true or were you lucky and found someone to flourish with at a young age?
  • jackthejock

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    Dec 07, 2011 8:13 PM GMT
    I've always been attracted to guys in the 27-45 range ever since I was a teenager, but in my early 20's I tried dating older guys but it never worked out. I found that the type of guys in the 30's that are looking to date 22-year-olds aren't really the type of guys worth dating anyways, so I waited it out a bit LOL. Try and look for somebody close to your age and maturity level then you can grow together.

    And I'm totally a fan of the "half your age plus 7" rule or it's reverse "your age minus 7 times 2" to determine the acceptable rang of dating partners.

    I'm 28 so half that is 14 plus 7 is 21 so I shouldn't date anybody under 21....the opposite would be minus 7 is 21 times 2 is 42 so I shouldn't date anybody over 42. 21-42 seems to be an appropriate age range for dates LOL
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    I was the kind of kid who always thought himself "mature for his age." I regularly looked down on "most guys my age" because I thought they were all so immature and not relationship material.

    Well, I met my ex when we were both 22. We were together for nine years, and lived together for the last six. We grew up together, went through thick and thin, and he will forever be someone I would give my life for. The relationship had to come to an end, and at this point in our lives we're both better off apart, but I wouldn't trade a minute of the time I shared with him. He, and not someone ten years older than me, was the guy I needed then.

    What I realize now is that most gay guys in their early 20s actually self-describe as "more mature than most guys their age." Most claim that they can't--for various reasons--find anyone their age to date. It puzzles me that all these mature young guys can't seem to find each other, when I seem to come across them all the time.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    19c79 saidI was the kind of kid who always thought himself "mature for his age." I regularly looked down on "most guys my age" because I thought they were all so immature and not relationship material.

    Well, I met my ex when we were both 22. We were together for nine years, and lived together for the last six. We grew up together, went through thick and thin, and he will forever be someone I would give my life for. The relationship had to come to an end, and at this point in our lives we're both better off apart, but I wouldn't trade a minute of the time I shared with him. He, and not someone ten years older than me, was the guy I needed then.

    What I realize now is that most gay guys in their early 20s actually self-describe as "more mature than most guys their age." Most claim that they can't--for various reasons--find anyone their age to date. It puzzles me that all these mature young guys can't seem to find each other, when I seem to come across them all the time.


    Its because muscle men in their 30s are HAWT and we want their junk in our trunk, that is all.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
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    19c79 saidI was the kind of kid who always thought himself "mature for his age." I regularly looked down on "most guys my age" because I thought they were all so immature and not relationship material.

    Well, I met my ex when we were both 22. We were together for nine years, and lived together for the last six. We grew up together, went through thick and thin, and he will forever be someone I would give my life for. The relationship had to come to an end, and at this point in our lives we're both better off apart, but I wouldn't trade a minute of the time I shared with him. He, and not someone ten years older than me, was the guy I needed then.

    What I realize now is that most gay guys in their early 20s actually self-describe as "more mature than most guys their age." Most claim that they can't--for various reasons--find anyone their age to date. It puzzles me that all these mature young guys can't seem to find each other, when I seem to come across them all the time.


    Its because muscle men in their 30s are HAWT and we want their junk in our trunk, that is all.

    Hahah... Your candor is refreshing.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    well this is certainly good news, seeing as Im 29! Only good things to come.. Now will someone please tell me what happens in the 40s? I mean if the 30's are superb, is that all I got left?? icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    Lol, I have actually found that younger guys that described themselves as mature for their age were NOT when I got to know them icon_smile.gif.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
    smthjock saidwell this is certainly good news, seeing as Im 29! Only good things to come.. Now will someone please tell me what happens in the 40s? I mean if the 30's are superb, is that all I got left?? icon_smile.gif


    The 40s are downright stellar!!!

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    Dec 07, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
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    Chainers said
    19c79 saidI was the kind of kid who always thought himself "mature for his age." I regularly looked down on "most guys my age" because I thought they were all so immature and not relationship material.

    Well, I met my ex when we were both 22. We were together for nine years, and lived together for the last six. We grew up together, went through thick and thin, and he will forever be someone I would give my life for. The relationship had to come to an end, and at this point in our lives we're both better off apart, but I wouldn't trade a minute of the time I shared with him. He, and not someone ten years older than me, was the guy I needed then.

    What I realize now is that most gay guys in their early 20s actually self-describe as "more mature than most guys their age." Most claim that they can't--for various reasons--find anyone their age to date. It puzzles me that all these mature young guys can't seem to find each other, when I seem to come across them all the time.


    Its because muscle men in their 30s are HAWT and we want their junk in our trunk, that is all.

    Hahah... Your candor is refreshing.


    Glad you are liking it :-)
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    smthjock saidwell this is certainly good news, seeing as Im 29! Only good things to come.. Now will someone please tell me what happens in the 40s? I mean if the 30's are superb, is that all I got left?? icon_smile.gif


    This is what happens in your 40s. I can't wait.

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    Dec 07, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    Passionplay88 saidBecause I am 23, still called a "baby" by guys 27 and older, and can't seem to find anyone my own age to date because they are either pretentious, flaming, or closeted, I have come to the conclusion that we don't peak until our 30's.

    Have you found this to be true or were you lucky and found someone to flourish with at a young age?


    Our brains rewire from 20 to 30 and the centers affecting good judgment are the last to be fixed up.

    It's not you. It's biology.
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:57 PM GMT
    19c79 said
    smthjock saidwell this is certainly good news, seeing as Im 29! Only good things to come.. Now will someone please tell me what happens in the 40s? I mean if the 30's are superb, is that all I got left?? icon_smile.gif


    This is what happens in your 40s. I can't wait.

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    i have to wait til i'm 40 to have Wolverine? well i guess that's fair...
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    Dec 07, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    Passionplay88 saidBecause I am 23, still called a "baby" by guys 27 and older, and can't seem to find anyone my own age to date because they are either pretentious, flaming, or closeted, I have come to the conclusion that we don't peak until our 30's.

    Have you found this to be true or were you lucky and found someone to flourish with at a young age?
    Listen, I do not understand why guys your age always say theyI can not find guys there age who seriously want a monogamous relationship. The grass is not greener on the other side buddy. There are just as many 30, 40, and 50 year old men who can not find that too. Dude, you are young? Have you even finished school yet? Have you even accomplished any of your personal or professional goals yet? Dude, you have plenty of time to get serious with someone. Why don't you take a little time away from focusing on what you do not have and focus on what you do have in your life.
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    Dec 08, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    Let's hope so...
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    Dec 08, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    If these are my peak years, I'm in serious trouble. icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 08, 2011 11:21 AM GMT
    I think it is strongly individual. Maybe it is because I do not share the whole "older men are hot" obsession, but I have met guys around my age who are quite OK.

    Besides gay guys after 30 tend to either go a little crazy, because they are 30 and single or obsessed with looking 20 again.
    I respect the people who appreciate their age box. I think every age has its charm and I am sorry, but I cannot say that someone is more mature, stable, accomplished etc just because they are older.
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    Dec 08, 2011 11:27 AM GMT
    I think men get better with age. 30's are better than 20's - 40's are better than 30's, and so on...

    Reference - Patrick Demspey. Look at him in his 80's movies and look at him now... Who really prefers 80's Patrick Dempsey????
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    Dec 08, 2011 11:43 AM GMT
    I've always preferred guys in their 30s. From a purely shallow preference for the perfect balance of maturity and youthfulness and sex drive.
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    Dec 08, 2011 12:16 PM GMT
    My 20's were fun. My 30's are shaping up to be much better. I'm looking forward to my 40's and beyond. I haven't peaked yet but until I do I'm enjoying myself and all the fun that comes with each age.
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    Dec 08, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    RedheadedRy saidI've always preferred guys in their 30s. From a purely shallow preference for the perfect balance of maturity and youthfulness and sex drive.

    +10
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    Dec 09, 2011 8:07 AM GMT
    Guys! Trust me on this one. When you're around 40, get yourself dressed up spiffy, and have a formal portrait of yourself professionally taken. It'll be a picture for the ages: you'll look good; you'll probably never look better; you won't look like a kid; you'll look like the MAN you've become; even if at the time it is not your favorite photo of yourself, in later years you will appreciate it. Unless you got a real good dose on the aging genes, even if you keep your body in shape, there seems to be a peak on raw handsomeness around the 40 mark, such that it really does warrant taking a nice photograph!
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    Dec 09, 2011 8:40 AM GMT
    jackthejock said...And I'm totally a fan of the "half your age plus 7" rule or it's reverse "your age minus 7 times 2" to determine the acceptable rang of dating partners....

    That's F**iking hilarious because I'm 33 and my man is 52. (33-7=26 x 2 = 52) I didn't "peak" until I turned 32.
  • Iakona

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    Dec 09, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    I dated older then me all through my 20s....I guess I just had more in common with men who have traveled and are established in their careers. Then I was blind sided by a guy who is 6 years younger then me. I met him when I was 31, and now we are married. So I guess you never know. Just keep your options and your mind open to anybody......
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    Dec 09, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    Sulla saidGuys! Trust me on this one. When you're around 40, get yourself dressed up spiffy, and have a formal portrait of yourself professionally taken. It'll be a picture for the ages: you'll look good; you'll probably never look better; you won't look like a kid; you'll look like the MAN you've become; even if at the time it is not your favorite photo of yourself, in later years you will appreciate it. Unless you got a real good dose on the aging genes, even if you keep your body in shape, there seems to be a peak on raw handsomeness around the 40 mark, such that it really does warrant taking a nice photograph!


    Food for thought - turning 40 next year here, and sorta looking at it with a mix of dread, excitement, and sheer unadulterated terror.
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    Dec 09, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    I can't wait to be in my 30's! I'll have the respect and men Ive always wanted icon_biggrin.gif