SO NAIVE!

  • chet101

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    Dec 08, 2011 7:13 PM GMT
    Gay guys can be so naive!
    I posted a comment on a "friends" facebook page and he removed it!
    SO NAIVE that he doesnt want to even face reality!
    He said in his wall post that he wasnt even in the mood for sex if he could find love.
    So i look up the stats on this little factoid and found our the the gay and lesbian org did a study on 7 thousand male couples and found out that only 5 % were still in the same relationship after 2 years and that only 1% were in the same relationship after 20 years!
    Then i siad "sex is easy to find, its true love that is hard to find".
    He REMOVED my post so i unfriended him.
    DRAMA! lol

    SO MY QUESTION TO EVERYONE OUT THERE IS A BIT OF A POLL, HOW MANY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN IN IT?

    Please also post if its monogomous or open ?

    AND IF your SINGLE.... How long have you been single?
  • Iota

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    Dec 09, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    I am in a relationship and it will be 6 years this april....at times it feels like a shitty job, but once we work our problems out, its really wonderful....
  • Sk8Tex

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    Dec 09, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    8 1/2 years monogamously, and I still picture us growing old together.
  • wpc56

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    Dec 09, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    8 years come next month.

    Its not easy but we both really wanted this relationship to work... and so we put in the effort and kept our communication honest and open...

    It takes two to tango, you need to find someone who is willing to commit in the relationship just as much as you do.
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    Dec 09, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    9 years and a couple months. Still going strong. We're in it for life.

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    Dec 09, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    Eleven years together and still madly in love with each other. He's truly the most amazing guy I've ever had the privilege of knowing. We're always there for one another and, although we've had our share of difficulties like any couple on this planet, I wouldn't trade him for anyone.

    Today, for example, I had a pretty hectic day at the office and got home super late. Not only did he welcome me with sweet kisses and asked me how my day went, he also served me a delicious home-cooked meal as soon as I got out of my suit and tie. Oh, and he's the best dad to our six rambunctious Westies, too.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 09, 2011 4:22 AM GMT
    13 years in September.... he's been my one and only!

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    Dec 09, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    One year and three months! Like the other guys here said, it's not always easy, but we're still going and learning new things about each other every day.
  • grtsmilesd

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    Dec 09, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    8 years, and in love as much as from the begining.
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    Dec 09, 2011 4:34 AM GMT
    These stories of long-lasting relationship are inspiring, but how did you meet? How did it all start? Guys like me who are still searching need some encouragement. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 09, 2011 4:44 AM GMT
    34 years, and he's stil the most wonderful man in the world.
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    Dec 09, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidThese stories of long-lasting relationship are inspiring, but how did you meet? How did it all start? Guys like me who are still searching need some encouragement. icon_biggrin.gif



    He made a forum on a website that said the last person to post would receive his undying love and I kept posting and posting until I was the last one. j/k


    I went out with a friend one night and to meet up with one of his friends. His friend brought a friend with him. My friend and his buddy he was meeting there spent the night on the dance floor and so I was left at the table with the buddy's friend. We hit off and were talking all night. We were not each other's type but got along so well he asked if he could have my phone number. Went to dinner a couple days later and have been together ever since.
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    Dec 09, 2011 5:24 AM GMT

    22 years on Dec 13th.
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    Dec 09, 2011 5:37 AM GMT
    18 years, and I still drive home kinda fast, just because I want to be with him. Our relationship is the most important thing I will do in my life. Guys spend too much time in each other's business, telling each other what they need to do. The only way to motivate someone to improve themselves is to improve yourself. Don't look for what's wrong...you find what you look for.
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    Dec 09, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    I would also love to hear more stories about how you all have met and how ESPECIALLY what are the secrets to making it last so long.

    I am 31 and have never been in love or dated anyone longer than a few months. And I really would like to be in a relationship. I've had my fun. I have been looking the last several years but nothing ever seems to pan out. It seems so unattainable to me. icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 09, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    3 weeks and i am already bored. i am gonna go cheat now.
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    Dec 09, 2011 5:44 AM GMT
    Iceblink said
    DudeInNOVA saidThese stories of long-lasting relationship are inspiring, but how did you meet? How did it all start? Guys like me who are still searching need some encouragement. icon_biggrin.gif



    He made a forum on a website that said the last person to post would receive his undying love and I kept posting and posting until I was the last one. j/k


    I went out with a friend one night and to meet up with one of his friends. His friend brought a friend with him. My friend and his buddy he was meeting there spent the night on the dance floor and so I was left at the table with the buddy's friend. We hit off and were talking all night. We were not each other's type but got along so well he asked if he could have my phone number. Went to dinner a couple days later and have been together ever since.



    Awwww! Nice story. So many people seem to meet more by chance than anything else.
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    Dec 09, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    onecooldude1980 saidI would also love to hear more stories about how you all have met and how ESPECIALLY what are the secrets to making it last so long.


    Me too!
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    Dec 09, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    A little over a year now.
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    Dec 09, 2011 7:00 AM GMT
    We met right here in Forums in 2007, and found we agreed on a lot of subjects. We starting writing, then phoning each other every night. Things were going well by phone after about a year, so we decided to meet - which we did at the airport near me. What a rush - meeting and standing before each other after all that time on the phone. Seeing each other in the flesh - and then that first kiss - truly a thrill. There were lots of trips across the country (he was in Connecticut). Finally in 2009 we decided that we would live together in California. We're monogamous and very lucky to have met each other. If it had not been for RJ - how would we have met - 3000 miles apart?

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  • Suetonius

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    Dec 09, 2011 7:00 AM GMT
    chet101 said found our the the gay and lesbian org did a study on 7 thousand male couples and found out that only 5 % were still in the same relationship after 2 years and that only 1% were in the same relationship after 20 years!

    A POLL, HOW MANY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN IN IT?

    What is the source of this "study" you keep repeating? I'm very dubious of the 5% two years statistic.

    17 Years here.

    And, FYI, if you searched profiles on this site, you would find that there are 12,803 members listing themselves as in relationships. More than a handful. (Did not check on the total number of members.)
  • Suetonius

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    Dec 09, 2011 7:05 AM GMT
    onecooldude1980 saidwhat are the secrets to making it last so long.

    1. Starting out with someone with whom you are compatible, personality being more important than sexuality
    2. Being considerate
    3. Not staying angry at the other
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    Dec 09, 2011 7:14 AM GMT
    Monday is 13 years!!!!!!!!

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  • Suetonius

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    Dec 09, 2011 7:28 AM GMT
    onecooldude1980 saidI am 31 and have never been in love or dated anyone longer than a few months. And I really would like to be in a relationship. I've had my fun. I have been looking the last several years but nothing ever seems to pan out. It seems so unattainable to me. icon_sad.gif

    You just keep dating till you hit on one that works out. As someone said in another thread here today: "As Dan Savage says, everyone you date you'll break up with until one time you don't. It doesn't really matter where they come from, that will be true."
  • calibro

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    Dec 09, 2011 9:13 AM GMT
    the only thing sadder than your drama is your proof reading.