"Growing Up Again"

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    Jun 09, 2008 8:47 PM GMT
    This is actually the title of the book I am reading at the mo about an unhappy housewife on the brink of divorce and woke up one day in her folks' family home... as her pre-puberty self!
    Okay, if that happened to you --finding yourself waking up and back to the 11-year old that you once were, what are the three major changes (if any) you would want to make or correct that would've made a huge impact and/or significant difference to the person that you are today or your current life situation.
    I'll start:
    1. Taking up piano and voice lessons
    2. Telling everyone in my family that I was gay at age 12
    3. Asking my mum to marry again and start a new family if such would make her happy icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
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    Jun 09, 2008 8:55 PM GMT
    1) I would hav ignored my mums persistent nagging and gone and lived and worked in Spain and explored my sexuality further so as I didnt destroy someone elses life later on

    2) I would have spent more time in my later teenage years with my brother as he aint here no more

    3) I wouldnt have had my first tattoo done which I hate now but would still have had my second ha ha ha
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    Jun 09, 2008 9:05 PM GMT
    To be honest?

    1. Tell my parents to divorce, if not tell them to give me up for adoption.

    2. Exercise more and watch my calorie intake.

    3. Cut my hair!

    The picture below is my Grade 7 photo. I am 11 almost 12.

    Age 11
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    Jun 09, 2008 9:19 PM GMT
    1. I would acknowledge my sexuality;
    2. I would work out, exercise and participate in more sports more frequently;
    3. I would spend less time involved in church activities.
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    Jun 09, 2008 10:27 PM GMT
    I'm happy with my life and generally don't have regrets. While there aren't a lot of things I'm sorry I did, there are a few things I wished I'd pushed myself to accomplish:

    1) Attend MIT or CMU instead of dicking around with a state school. Free tuition ain't all that...

    2) Study or work abroad.

    3) Get into weight training more seriously and consistently starting in high school, rather than just dabbling on and off for years.

    What I've learned is that the decisions that ultimately change your life for the better involve taking risks and working hard. The "default" option always seems easier and safer, but over the long term just doesn't have the same ability to bring happiness and a sense of accomplishment.
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    Jun 09, 2008 10:33 PM GMT
    Hmmmmm...

    1) Come out as gay much earlier. I realize it'd make things harder for a while, but better in the long run.

    2) Kept up with the piano.

    3) Got into fitness much earlier, like weight training and sport activities.
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    Jun 09, 2008 10:38 PM GMT
    Nada. I think everything I've done - including a few really poor relationship choices - have taught me things that make me who I am now. I'd be afraid I'd miss those lessons and experiences if I edited them out the second time around.

    Well...on second though...maybe I'd never try ice cream, cookies, or pizza. Then I wouldn't know what I'm missing out on now.
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    Jun 09, 2008 10:45 PM GMT
    z_squared said...maybe I'd never try ice cream, cookies, or pizza.

    Fair enough... there are three of them there!
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    Jun 09, 2008 11:01 PM GMT
    I would've finished my journalism degree before coming here in the States, moved straight to Los Angeles to pursue my career...and should've exiled my father back to the philippines!...Sorry,long family drama,but anyways...
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    Jun 09, 2008 11:04 PM GMT
    ...oh wait, if i came back as a kid? oh no,forget it! flash forward to when i was 17,then thats what i would've done! I know, wasnt following the rules...
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    Jun 09, 2008 11:13 PM GMT
    Hard to say.

    I'm not sure I should have given up piano when I did. I studied from age 4 to age 20, but I was getting too many cocktail lounge gigs and the money was too easy. Still, I needed the money, because it put me through college.

    I was already out in college, so I guess it wouldn't matter if I came out any earlier. But I married a lesbian in order to have children, and now I know I could have had kids with a guy (and it would have been fun trying!) so maybe that was unnecessary. But the kids I did get are great.

    I was an indifferent student in college. Too many distractions (piano, student newspaper, two jobs) and that kind of sealed my fate when I thought about law school, or at least I thought it did. I may have been wrong, or too hasty.

    Having said all that, the choices I made led me down some very interesting paths, so what the hell.

    I got involved in the now-vanished nightworld of gambling clubs in New York, which led directly to my starting as an options trader on the stock exchange.

    Basically, I've done anything that I thought interesting at the time. They've all been good.
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    Jun 09, 2008 11:23 PM GMT
    hobronto saidI'm happy with my life and generally don't have regrets. While there aren't a lot of things I'm sorry I did, there are a few things I wished I'd pushed myself to accomplish:

    1) Attend MIT or CMU instead of dicking around with a state school. Free tuition ain't all that...

    2) Study or work abroad.

    3) Get into weight training more seriously and consistently starting in high school, rather than just dabbling on and off for years.

    What I've learned is that the decisions that ultimately change your life for the better involve taking risks and working hard. The "default" option always seems easier and safer, but over the long term just doesn't have the same ability to bring happiness and a sense of accomplishment.



    I could NOT have said any BETTER!!! EXACTLY!!! Except I would have attended NYU; DAMN SDSU!!!
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    Jun 10, 2008 12:01 AM GMT
    1) I would have learned Spanish instead of/in addition to German when I was in high school/college. It would have been more usefull, especially in chatting up those Latin guys I'm often interested in.

    2) Come out sooner. I wouldn't have let that hottie at the 24 Hour Fitness when I was 18 slip through my grasp. He was such a god. And I was such a chicken shit.

    3) Been more aggressive with my career choices. Either studied computer programming or made more contacts in film school.
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    Jun 10, 2008 1:08 AM GMT
    workingman said...oh wait, I know, wasnt following the rules...


    LAYAS!!!!!!!!!!icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 10, 2008 1:12 AM GMT
    zimster saidThis is actually the title of the book I am reading at the mo about an unhappy housewife on the brink of divorce and woke up one day in her folks' family home... as her pre-puberty self!
    Okay, if that happened to you --finding yourself waking up and back to the 11-year old that you once were, what are the three major changes (if any) you would want to make or correct that would've made a huge impact and/or significant difference to the person that you are today or your current life situation.
    I'll start:
    1. Taking up piano and voice lessons
    2. Telling everyone in my family that I was gay at age 12
    3. Asking my mum to marry again and start a new family if such would make her happy icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
    Your turn...



    1. Not quiting gymnastics (I so miss it).
    2. Be more outgoing!
    3. ...

    Eh, just two. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 10, 2008 1:18 AM GMT
    DanteCA said
    1. Not quiting gymnastics (I so miss it).
    2. Be more outgoing!
    3. ...
    Eh, just two. icon_razz.gif

    I'll take the liberty of adding one moreicon_idea.gif :
    "Persuade my parents to go on a Philippine holiday so I could've met Zim's early on and be his childhood sweetheart via pen pal."icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 10, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
    LOL Zim
    The world would be a little less interesting without you. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 10, 2008 6:26 AM GMT


    LAYAS!!!!!!!!!!icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif[/quote] icon_wink.gifHAHAHAHA!!! LOVE YOU,KISSES!
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    Jun 10, 2008 6:30 AM GMT
    1) I would've started working out earlier!
    2) Eaten and slept more. icon_confused.gif
    3) Come out earlier (16 or something)

    Honestly I don't think I'll change anything else. Oh yeah...

    4) Never have fallen in love with a straight guy in high school!!! ROFL
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    Jun 10, 2008 7:27 AM GMT
    I was actually thinking about something like this today. Just wishing I were a kid again when everything was so simple and carefree. When I didn't have all these responsibilities, didn't have all these damn feelings that I seem to have loss all control over, didn't have this need to fit in, didn't care what others thought of me, didn't have to mind my manners, didn't have to live up to any expectations. None of it mattered when I was younger. None of it.....I just want it back. Everything has gotten so complicated now. I loved my childhood and there is nothing i would have changed about it.

    My adult life is a different story. Two things I wish I could have changed

    1. Never allowing my mother to talk me out of moving off the island (Big mistake)

    2. Not forgiving my father earlier


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    Jun 10, 2008 10:39 AM GMT
    1. Join the track team my freshman year instead of my senior year

    2. I would explore my sexuality way sooner. Started having relationships with guys at the age of 28.

    3. I wouldnt have moved out of the house right after college. I would stay home for a few years. Save my money and pay off my college debt.