Is it a good thing or bad thing having sex on the first date?

  • Mondo_Bongo

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    Dec 10, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    or maybe have a few first dates then have sex?
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    Dec 10, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    It depends on how good the sex is.
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    Dec 10, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    Its an indifferent thing.

    Ive had dates where we had sex and didnt meet again, Ive had dates where we had sex and met again, Ive had dates where we didnt have sex and didnt meet again, and I have had dates where we didnt have sex and we didnt meet again.

    I realized that when you have sex doesnt mean shit.
  • Mondo_Bongo

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    Dec 10, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    Chainers saidIts an indifferent thing.

    Ive had dates where we had sex and didnt meet again, Ive had dates where we had sex and met again, Ive had dates where we didnt have sex and didnt meet again, and I have had dates where we didnt have sex and we didnt meet again.

    I realized that when you have sex doesnt mean shit.



    so what means something ? a feeling?
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    Dec 10, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    Whos to judge?
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    Dec 10, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    Mondo_Bongo said
    Chainers saidIts an indifferent thing.

    Ive had dates where we had sex and didnt meet again, Ive had dates where we had sex and met again, Ive had dates where we didnt have sex and didnt meet again, and I have had dates where we didnt have sex and we didnt meet again.

    I realized that when you have sex doesnt mean shit.



    so what means something ? a feeling?


    What I mean is if you are the type of person who will feel hurt if you have sex and dont see him again, dont have sex. If you have a looser feeling towards sex, nothing wrong with it. Sex on the first date =/ end relationships.
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    Dec 10, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    If you need to ask this question then I question whether your'e mature enough to even be dating in the first place.

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    Dec 10, 2011 9:32 PM GMT
    I'd say bad cause it pretty much destroyes the chances of becoming something serious
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    Dec 10, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
    bad, but if you've chatted a few times on line, on phone, emailed, texted, ect ... is is really a "first date"?
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    Dec 10, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    Justtrying saidI'd say bad cause it pretty much destroyes the chances of becoming something serious


    How?

    I had sex with my recent ex on the first meet and it never felt awkward afterwards and he wasn't the person who ignored me because he was done with me. He insisted on seeing me again and we really became very close.

    If both the people are very passionate about sex then they probably wouldn't care to do it on the first meet.

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    Dec 10, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    It depends. Some guys sex is the first thing they give some guys its the last.

    If I was dating like....an epic whore I would wait to have sex with him because in his mind it would distinguish me from other people.

    It's on a case by case basis.
  • H0TChocolate

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    Dec 10, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    I say just go with what you feel at the moment. If you two hit it off very nicely and you're both in that mood and everything is conducive to doing it, then do it. On the other hand, if you're really not sure about the dude then wait.

    Some ppl. use sex to gauge if they want to invest their time in a person. If the sex is horrible they want to know right away so they can move onward, and in those cases people tend to have sex early. It all depends on what you want and how you feel.
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    Dec 11, 2011 2:35 AM GMT
    Each date is unique and so I think that for every situation it's different. The first date with my current boyfriend proceeded this way: after a nice day trip, we went back to his place and watched a movie. By the time the movie was over, it was really late, like 2AM or 3AM, and I didn't have any intention of spending the night. He asked me if I just wanted to stay over since it was so late and I did have an hour drive back home, so I gave in. We ended up fooling around and cuddling and jerking off together. Does that count as sex? We're still together after a year and three months. icon_smile.gif