its stupid to be so shy

  • DinKai

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    Dec 10, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    I'm normally a shy person in real life (not online world).

    About 2 years ago, I was aware that there was a guy glancing at me the whole time in the library, and I was like whatever, i dont care. A few weeks after, I found out that he's sort of cute icon_smile.gif I still saw him in the library and he still glanced at me. One day, when I was sitting at a bench on campus, he came, sitting next to me and talk to me. He asked about my ethnic background since I'm Asian, and he's Asian too. I think that is the only topic that he could thought of to talk to me then lol. I answered him and I left right away. How stupid I was. lol

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    Dec 10, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    You haven't been back to the library since then?
  • DinKai

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    Dec 10, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidYou haven't been back to the library since then?


    oh forgot to tell, i transferred. but i hardly saw him in the library since then. now, at a library of another school, it reminds me of those memories, that was cute icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 10, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    This has happened to me a lot back when I was really shy and I always kicked myself for not going up to them because they didn't come up to me "first".

    Many times shy guys will write looks of attraction off as something else. "He must be looking at the person behind me, they're just looking around the room, etc..."

    Whatever the case I learned you need to go up to them and introduce yourself, create small talk because it might turn out they're almost as shy as you are- if not more shy.

    I had a guy create small talk with me at Barnes & Nobel and I was angry I didn't get his contact info. And I was really livid I was too shy to ask a great guy for his phone number after having a wonderful flirty conversation with him on a flight across the country last year. I've been wondering "what if" ever since.

    Don't be be so shy to the point where you miss out on a potentially great guy. Go up and talk with them- don't have a staring contest. It's better to try and get rejected than not try at all. You have to put yourself out there, it's just a given. The worst that could happen is you get rejected, they're not going to kill you. In many cases be thankful for their rejection because you probably dodged a bullet.

    Hope that helps.