Just a feeling I get...

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    Jun 10, 2008 3:18 AM GMT
    So I went to Rohobeth Beach Delaware this past weekend, and there were 1000 hot men there with of course perfect bodies...

    I felt so less than that it actually ruined my time. I sat there and dreamed of the bodies that they had...

    Does anyone ever get this feeling? My friends just told me to get over it and told me how cute I was etc...but you know how friends are

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 10, 2008 3:20 AM GMT
    Nope, I've never thought that way... except when I was younger.

    Now there are days I don't feel as good as other days.. some day I might feel sluggish or fat or tired.. but generally no. I'm happy with how I look.


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    Jun 10, 2008 3:24 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidNope, I've never thought that way... except when I was younger.

    Now there are days I don't feel as good as other days.. some day I might feel sluggish or fat or tired.. but generally no. I'm happy with how I look.


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    Thats awesome Hndsm... I'm sure it takes a lot of growing to get there... you've done well!
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    Jun 10, 2008 3:38 AM GMT
    Hell no. You should like who you are. If you spend too much time wanting be like someone else you will quickly forget who you are.

    Having a hot bod is nice and all but if doesn't have a brain and personality that comes with it then it's just a fleshy walking meat sack. LOL.
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    Jun 10, 2008 3:55 AM GMT
    I sometimes get that feeling too. And when I get that feeling, I just run home, eat Haagen Dazs, listen to Celine, masturbate and cry.
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    Jun 10, 2008 3:59 AM GMT
    RBY71 saidI sometimes get that feeling too. And when I get that feeling, I just run home, eat Haagen Dazs, listen to Celine, masturbate and cry.


    HAHA! I masturbate happy or sad so that wont help....but maybe the Haagen Dazs will!

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    Jun 10, 2008 4:22 AM GMT
    What do you consider the "perfect body"?! What's wrong with your body? Alot of guys think like that. Lookin at your pictures I can tell you you have nothing to worry about.
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    Jun 10, 2008 4:40 AM GMT
    Nothing I'm ever concerned about, but that's because I've taught myself that though physical beauty is attractive and should be appreciated, and that it isn't the end of the world if I'm not up to par with some Joe Somebody from the gym or as physical "perfect" in any certain that some other guy may just be. Honestly, if someone is going to like me it's going to be because of who I am and what I bring to a relationship. Not because I look like a model or have perfect traits.
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    Jun 10, 2008 4:51 AM GMT
    I used to get that way a lot. I did two things: I worked hard to get the body that I wanted for myself and I learned to love myself along the journey. I am still far from what might come off as perfection, but I know that I can't change who i am and that perfection will come only when I am right with myself.

    Don't underestimate yourself. You may think that everyone is drawn to those people who are intimidating you. You might be surprised how many people find you hot for who you are. I have discovered that I am much sexier without my insecurities. They are far more unattractive than any of my flaws.
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    Jun 10, 2008 4:52 AM GMT
    You were around 1000 perfect bodies and you made it about you? I can relate!

    That sort of thing always lights a fire under my ass to get to the gym. I want those bodies. I don't want to be depressed about my body.

    I should be satisfied, right? But no, I'm vain. So, it's work work work for me. In a few years this will get harder and harder to maintain, so I know it won't last. My imperative, then, is to do it now.

    I predict that within two weeks of ruminating about this experience you'll decide what you want to do with your life. Promise yourself that you'll either love the way you are right now, or change the way you are so that next time you go to the beach there's 1001 hot bodies.
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    Jun 10, 2008 6:13 AM GMT
    We all have times when we feel we look like crap despite the work we've done with our bodies. Everyone in this thread suggested a lot of good advice. I would, either go work out or stay home and work on those haagen daz! either way, you'll be fine icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 10, 2008 6:16 AM GMT
    Totally with you on that one RBY71. Only it's Cher!
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    Jun 10, 2008 6:16 AM GMT
    You know... I've generally felt thin. But on the other hand, I've felt like I've had the body of George Jetson. Thin body big stomach. Like I'm prego or something.

    But then I look at pics of me without my face and think... I'm ok. I think that we're our own worst critics.

    What makes a man most attractive is self confidence! the rest is so jaded.
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    Jun 10, 2008 6:19 AM GMT

    I only feel this way when I'm bloated. Plus, I don't go to the beach when I'm bloated.
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    Jun 10, 2008 6:23 AM GMT
    When I'm at a club or Pride or wherever there are hot men with great bodies I always find it difficult not to compare my body with theirs.

    And while I think it may be heartening to think about working out in the gym and getting a body like theirs I also think, I ALREADY GO TO THE GYM! I do a fuck of a lot each week and I still don't look like that!

    Fact is that many guys with perfect bodies are genetically blessed. I will never be six foot, I'll never have huge arms, or skin that tans beautifully.

    So, I know exactly where you are coming from. It's time to hit the ice cream.
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    Jun 10, 2008 6:41 AM GMT

    If you can't beat them date them. I'm 6 foot (in heels) and tanned, but I'd be puddy in your hands for sure.
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    Jun 10, 2008 7:03 AM GMT
    I get that feeling a lot of times. Usually it makes me want to drop whatever I'm doing and go lift some more.

    Other times, it makes me depressed as hell and I do what RBY does, but I eat chocolate instead, listen to NIN, masturbate and cry.
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    Jun 10, 2008 7:11 AM GMT
    Gotta make your own tracks, man. Once you start following someone, you might find yourself stuck in their rut.

    Anyhow, at the wedding the bride told me I looked Amazing, twice! Some random friend of the groom's mother told me I was the Best dressed, and some hitherto unknown aunt told me I was Beautiful. Muahah.

    The photographers were taking group pictures when she saw me.. "Look it's Aaron! He looks amazing, but look at his shoes!" haha, I pulled up my pant legs and showed off my combat boots. icon_biggrin.gif
    My uncle's were just about in hawaiian shirts, and I prophesied as much when I was strapping on my cummerbund and bow tie. No open bar. icon_mad.gif
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    Jun 10, 2008 7:21 AM GMT
    Yep, you have to make you own way in life. Comparing yourself to other guys will drive you insane.
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    Jun 10, 2008 10:03 AM GMT
    I've just spent a few weeks on a few of the Islands of Hawaii. Where guy after guy, was topless. Some hot stuff about too. I never walk around in public without a shirt on! But in a few days. I was happy to walk around without a shirt on.

    Now I know, I have long looked at my body in a different way to others. But while One was on Waikiki. I got some ink. I had to take of my shirt, and the guys in the store said. Man look at the size of him. It was a good buzz.

    It's all about being confident in your own skin. So much of the gay community is youth based. So old homosexuals have no value. What crap.
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    Jun 10, 2008 10:12 AM GMT
    I can relate. I get it in my head that im fat and dont want to take my shirt off. I also didnt like taking my shirt off while running in hot weather, I didnt want people think I was showing off my body. Im a little better now but I have my days of insecurity. I feel at my best when Im on my diet and really busting my ass at the gym.
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    Jun 10, 2008 10:16 AM GMT
    dear epleadbe,
    first of all I am not your friend;
    secondly, after perving at your pics i have to agree with your friends to get over it because you are actually cute!
    i think it is healthy that you acknowledge that frustration but use it to your advantage to motivate yourself to 'sharpen' your body to the furthest it could reach. you should get all fired up, set some goals and achieve them. learn to accentuate your assets that are already there: like your sense of fashion...just drop the crotch-grobbing poses.icon_wink.gif
    i'm dhirty-fwhore and embracing a life that has more to offer than one or two insecurity-ridden days at the beach surrounded by men with 'perfect' bodies! i've just reached to an age that if i aim for that perfection, i'd be missing out a lot on a life's little piece of heaven... like Baskin Robbins Ice Cream of the Week... just my two fils.
    your non-friend,
    ZiMsTeR xx
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    Jun 10, 2008 10:19 AM GMT
    I never take off my shirt in public, except when swimming. Personally it's uncomfortable and somewhat disrespectful to stay walking about without a shirt.

    My dad is constantly without a shirt at home, and it really pisses me off. "Like I wanna watch your moobs jumping about!" icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 10, 2008 10:21 AM GMT
    You know what... no matter who you are
    There is ALWAYS gonna be guys with better bodies
    who drive better cars
    who make more money
    who have better bf's
    wasting good energy on that fact is just that
    but the one good thing about wanting a better body
    is that you can GET ONE!
    Take that feeling of inadequacy and turn it upside down and use it to make you one of those buff bodied boys
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    Jun 10, 2008 4:27 PM GMT
    muttskins saidMy dad is constantly without a shirt at home, and it really pisses me off. "Like I wanna watch your moobs jumping about!" icon_razz.gif

    Careful mutts... everything's genetic so I stopped making fun of baldies when I turned 13.icon_neutral.gif