Were you excluded because you were gay as a child? I was... your story

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    Dec 10, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
    I had no friends, I was excluded from everything as a child. Stupidly I didn't understand why. It wasn't until years later I learned it was because I was gay, even the other parents telling my schoolmates not to associate with me.

    I finally rebelled, and refused to attend my high school graduation. Nor would I consent to having my portrait taken for the class yearbook. Being always rejected and left out, I saw no reason for my picture to be with the others.

    As a result my HS diploma was withheld, the only one of 450-some seniors, and it took the intervention of my well-connected parents to get it finally issued. My young adulthood was a disaster, and I tried suicide several times.

    Was yours as bad? How did you cope and survive?
  • barriehomeboy

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    Dec 11, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    My life a a working class son was just as bleak, but it's comforting to know that rich kids have the same outlook on life.
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    Dec 11, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    How does not walking in your graduation commencement or not taking a photo have any sort of effect on anyone other than yourself?
  • barriehomeboy

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    Dec 11, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    And the disguise isn't working ex miliary guy.
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    Dec 11, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    I was adopted so I had a whole bunch of other shit going on
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    Dec 11, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    My childhood problems were mostly due to my crazy alcoholic parents.
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    Dec 11, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    no...i wasn't really excluded...most kids in my neighborhood accepted that i was different...mostly got picked on in high school by upper classmen...
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    Dec 11, 2011 8:10 AM GMT
    Claystation saidI was adopted so I had a whole bunch of other shit going on


    me too... althought i didnt know till i was 40 yikes... and the OP is a major whiney ass...lol
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    Dec 11, 2011 8:42 AM GMT
    No my childhood was great. I just looked for the nice kids to hang out with (and there always are some) and I'm not the kind of guy who lets other people pick on me and neither have I as child.
  • monet

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    Dec 11, 2011 10:59 AM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    Art_Deco saidI had no friends ... How did you cope and survive?



    OK, since you had your surgery, you've been acting weird (even for you).

    Why not take a few days off from the computer, lay off the booze and go sit out on the front porch and relax a bit.


    AGREE!!!
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    Dec 11, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    Art_Deco said My young adulthood was a disaster, and I tried suicide several times.


    I really think you are a complete fraud.

    How could someone who "tried suicide several times" manage to attain the rank of "Army Colonel?"

    Given your recent posts, you're obviously trying out every gay stereotype in the book and applying it to yourself which, in the case of gays who HAVE attempted suicide, is insulting and extremely insensitive.

    Please DO go away or just confine yourself to your usual "Republicans are evil" topics.

    Something doesn't seem to add up. Normally a young adult with those issues would not get into the military, or if he did, would be separated.
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    Dec 11, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    Besides my chubbier early years and the harassment that came with it, no strife to speak of. I got along normal with the other kids, I just didn't know why I didn't like girls yet like they did. I figured it out in high school but that didn't change the way people treated me, because I was still my self and didn't act any different just because I realized what my sexual orientation was.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 11, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI had no friends, I was excluded from everything as a child. Stupidly I didn't understand why. It wasn't until years later I learned it was because I was gay, even the other parents telling my schoolmates not to associate with me.

    I finally rebelled, and refused to attend my high school graduation. Nor would I consent to having my portrait taken for the class yearbook. Being always rejected and left out, I saw no reason for my picture to be with the others.

    As a result my HS diploma was withheld, the only one of 450-some seniors, and it took the intervention of my well-connected parents to get it finally issued. My young adulthood was a disaster, and I tried suicide several times.

    Was yours as bad? How did you cope and survive?




    Am I missing something? I thought you were married and closeted and didn't come out as gay until much later in life. Are you saying you were "out" as a child?
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 11, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    Given your recent posts, you're obviously trying out every gay stereotype in the book and applying it to yourself



    Agreed. I'm halfway expecting him to start a thread claiming that he was turned down as a running back by the Miami Dolphins because he was too short.
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    Dec 11, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    Art_Deco saidI had no friends, I was excluded from everything as a child. Stupidly I didn't understand why. It wasn't until years later I learned it was because I was gay, even the other parents telling my schoolmates not to associate with me.

    I finally rebelled, and refused to attend my high school graduation. Nor would I consent to having my portrait taken for the class yearbook. Being always rejected and left out, I saw no reason for my picture to be with the others.

    As a result my HS diploma was withheld, the only one of 450-some seniors, and it took the intervention of my well-connected parents to get it finally issued. My young adulthood was a disaster, and I tried suicide several times.

    Was yours as bad? How did you cope and survive?

    Am I missing something? I thought you were married and closeted and didn't come out as gay until much later in life. Are you saying you were "out" as a child?

    I interpreted it as he didn't know he was gay at the time, but looking back decided latent gayness was the reason for his exclusion. Seems far fetched, but who knows? It seems with all the threads and drama he has started that becomes difficult to keep track of all the stories, and these inconsistencies are starting to come out.
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    Dec 11, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    I'm one of 7 and a twin. I grew up in a affluent jewish community. My issues and trauma had everything to do w/ the association of being a twin and not recognized as an individual. Not being able to identify with other blk kids cause there werent many add being molested and gay and im amazed im not on a corner smoking crack.
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    Dec 11, 2011 6:00 PM GMT
    Being a Gold Card gay.the real bonafide thing. I have never lived as a straight man with ex wives that I had to hid behind and receive all the benefits as a straight man. No I have lived my whole life as a homosexual. But then it does not define the whole me either. As I have always lived as a white true blue Aussie male too, and not just a poofter.


    But the OP's confession has confused one because one has read from him for years, that he never ever knew he was bisexual, until it just happend one day, when he was around 50. I a person who has lived my whole life as one, has payed the price for being out at 5 in the 1960s and standing my ground; oh I was more than excluded, I was abused tortured even for not standing down. So as a homosexual who has been out my whole life, and payed the price for it. I even stood by the gay community in our darkest years, the Gay Plague era when so many ran, hid, and did nothing then put all the blame onto President Reagan.

    Sorry I find the Op's statement insulting considering he has lived most of his long life as a straight married man with kids, and took all of it's benefits too, now trying to cry for being a gay child, when he has never been gay; but bi Sorry Red it takes more than having a boyfriend, to be a Gold Card Homosexual, and you just have never been one of us. Now one is not saying there is anything wrong with being a bisexual, I love many of them. But they just are not the same as I, they are not gay; nor has Red paid the price his whole life for being gay. now he lives the gay lifestyle he wants to play the victom; ignoring all the benefits he has received as a bisexual married man, that us gay never received; merry Christmas to you red..but bi is not gay sorry mate.

    Heavens to Murgatroyd.