Fucking with guy's heads...

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    Dec 11, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    So I met a guy last week from a4a. We messaged each other simultaneously. Well, last Saturday we were supposed to meet. But I told him I wanted to actually hangout as well as mess around if it lead to it.

    Well, he said yes...but then said he was going out to hang with friends. Sunday, he says we can go to a movie...but he's feeling too lazy to do anything citing weather as the reason. Monday he flakes, and then the rest of the week I get a we can do it maybe this weekend.

    Well, weekend comes around and he's hardly interested in going to a movie. I just pick up that the interest to even hang out, isn't even there. So I texted him, "do you want to get fucked?"

    All of sudden, he's so interested; asking me what I'm into and what time can we meet. I told him, "I'll call you after 7 tonight and let you know." But I lied.

    Another guy, he also just wanted sex. I asked him what he was interested in. he says, "sexually?" I said, "whatever you meant by hanging out?" He replies, "getting naked".

    I told him, "I nutted already".

    Moral of the story: Pretty easy to find out a guy's intentions by simply playing along with the game. They want to play stupid games with me and not let me in on what they want...I'll play stupid games with them too and not give them what they want..
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    Dec 11, 2011 5:39 AM GMT
    The fuck do you expect from a4a?
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    Dec 11, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    TheKrisPandemic saidThe fuck do you expect from a4a?


    TroyAthlete has been convincing me that I'll find something meaningful from there...
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    Dec 11, 2011 7:29 AM GMT
    Can you just detonate a plastic explosive vest and get it over with already?

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    Dec 11, 2011 8:03 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWell .. sometimes a relationship starts with a fuck


    And usually ends the moment he starts talking....
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    Dec 11, 2011 8:56 AM GMT
    Have you ever heard the expression "Stop being such a naive fucktard."?

    It's simple, yet broad.
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    Dec 11, 2011 9:55 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    jpBITCHva said
    yourname2000 said. Along the lines of "glass half full or half empty", nothing is good or bad until we choose to interpret it.

    Everything depends on whether he sees the glass as half-empty or entirely empty.

    Apparently.

    Yeah, and it's saddening...."none so blind" and all of that. icon_sad.gif

    Mocha, you're a good guy. There are self-esteem issues at play here, I dare say. The power you give others others to hurt/annoy/humiliate you is just that: power you're giving them. Why are you still doing this? What are you getting out of always being disappointed in others who aren't inclined to live up to your expectations? It must be fulfilling some need, because you keep doing it (imo, based on past threads). But if your old ways of viewing the world no longer serve you (aka: you're not happy), then it's time to shake it up and try something new.

    The world/humanity/gay-culture isn't going to change for you....it is what it is. But you can come to appreciate it as it is, flaws and all. No one can flip that switch for you though...it's inside your head. So what have you got to lose? No one's gonna steal your personal storm cloud...if you ever want it back, it will be there waiting for you, exactly wherever you've left it. Promise.


    To sum this up, "stop being such a naive fucktard"
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    Dec 11, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Mocha, you're a good guy. There are self-esteem issues at play here, I dare say. The power you give others others to hurt/annoy/humiliate you is just that: power you're giving them. Why are you still doing this? What are you getting out of always being disappointed in others who aren't inclined to live up to your expectations?


    Okay, who says I'm giving these people any power at all?

    It's basically what I'm coming across from certain guys. My question is this, what other method (besides not being on said site) would I have to suddenly feel these guys out?

    A lot of times, I don't always figure these things out until I actually get down to chatting with the person. On their profile, they sound like a normal person, they sound like they are open to more...but once it comes down to it, when you present something different, only then you realize..okay, this guy is not interested in all that much. They knew from the start what my intentions were, but rather than say yes or no...they skirted around, showed some interest (suggesting plans) but then didn't fulfill them entirely. It's much easier to present to them sex and judge their interest level then...that way I can much quickly figure out what they are wanting. Wanting sex is not a bad thing. But it's up to my discretion as to whether I want to do only that myself...

    What's wrong with that? How is that having a black cloud? Just because I talk about it? Like seriously...someone explain to me exactly how is finding out a guy's intentions in whatever way that may mean...bad?

    I'm not finding the questions you posed above to be anything about what's going on here.

    I feel like this guy does: Gay Culture
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    Dec 11, 2011 7:32 PM GMT
    Cash saidCan you just detonate a plastic explosive vest and get it over with already?



    Yeah, and when the next terrorist attack hits NYC, I wanna be right there watching your head and other body parts disperse across the city streets.

    just kidding...i'm not evil like you
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    Dec 11, 2011 7:35 PM GMT
    I love the word fucktard, such and efficient way to cut down the pesky time it takes to say fucking retard.
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    Dec 11, 2011 7:38 PM GMT
    mochamuscle said
    yourname2000 said
    Mocha, you're a good guy. There are self-esteem issues at play here, I dare say. The power you give others others to hurt/annoy/humiliate you is just that: power you're giving them. Why are you still doing this? What are you getting out of always being disappointed in others who aren't inclined to live up to your expectations?


    Okay, who says I'm giving these people any power at all?

    It's basically what I'm coming across from certain guys. My question is this, what other method (besides not being on said site) would I have to suddenly feel these guys out?

    A lot of times, I don't always figure these things out until I actually get down to chatting with the person. On their profile, they sound like a normal person, they sound like they are open to more...but once it comes down to it, when you present something different, only then you realize..okay, this guy is not interested in all that much. They knew from the start what my intentions were, but rather than say yes or no...they skirted around, showed some interest (suggesting plans) but then didn't fulfill them entirely. It's much easier to present to them sex and judge their interest level then...that way I can much quickly figure out what they are wanting. Wanting sex is not a bad thing. But it's up to my discretion as to whether I want to do only that myself...

    What's wrong with that? How is that having a black cloud? Just because I talk about it? Like seriously...someone explain to me exactly how is finding out a guy's intentions in whatever way that may mean...bad?

    I'm not finding the questions you posed above to be anything about what's going on here.

    I feel like this guy does: Gay Culture


    It's been explained to you 1000 times on here.

    Go out into the RW and experience RL instead of trying to view it digitally. You are socially retarded and it shows in the 500 irritating posts you have on here whining about how nobody wants to be your boyfriend.

    NO one on RJ is in the least bit surprised.
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    Dec 11, 2011 7:39 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidI love the word fucktard, such and efficient way to cut down the pesky time it takes to say fucking retard.


    I actually only read half of your post because it takes too long to read the whole thing.

    I will comment later when I have more time.
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    Dec 11, 2011 7:43 PM GMT
    Cash said
    Go out into the RW and experience RL instead of trying to view it digitally. You are socially retarded and it shows in the 500 irritating posts you have on here whining about how nobody wants to be your boyfriend.

    NO one on RJ is in the least bit surprised.


    Well, FYI...I actually am dating someone. 2nd of all I do go out into the RL.

    I got a suggestion for you, instead being here trying to make other people feel inferior, maybe you should be paying attention to YOUR boyfriend before he fucking files divorce on your ass for having an insane fucked up internet addiction like you do.

    Or let me guess, he lives across the country and it's an online thing?

    And if you guys have been together for that time and live together, well my friend I feel utterly sorry for you that you have to come here to find entertainment in demoralizing someone rather than spending time and actually thinking of things to do with your BF.

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    Dec 11, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    mochamuscle said
    TheKrisPandemic saidThe fuck do you expect from a4a?


    TroyAthlete has been convincing me that I'll find something meaningful from there...


    oh dear.
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    Dec 11, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidI love the word fucktard, such and efficient way to cut down the pesky time it takes to say fucking retard.

    i use it on the reg.
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    Dec 11, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    mochamuscle said
    Cash said
    Go out into the RW and experience RL instead of trying to view it digitally. You are socially retarded and it shows in the 500 irritating posts you have on here whining about how nobody wants to be your boyfriend.

    NO one on RJ is in the least bit surprised.


    Well, FYI...I actually am dating someone. 2nd of all I do go out into the RL.

    I got a suggestion for you, instead being here trying to make other people feel inferior, maybe you should be paying attention to YOUR boyfriend before he fucking files divorce on your ass for having an insane fucked up internet addiction like you do.

    Or let me guess, he lives across the country and it's an online thing?

    And if you guys have been together for that time and live together, well my friend I feel utterly sorry for you that you have to come here to find entertainment in demoralizing someone rather than spending time and actually thinking of things to do with your BF.



    Thanks for the tips and advice!!!!

    You may have saved my relationship!

    You are a GEM!!!

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    Dec 11, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
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    TheKrisPandemic saidThe fuck do you expect from a4a?


    TroyAthlete has been convincing me that I'll find something meaningful from there...


    LMAO.

    No, Just no. A4A is about the last place to find a date or friends "just for hanging out in a non-sexual sense".

    Most (like at least 99%) of guys on A4A are looking to fuck or get fucked.

    The remaining 1% are there to troll you or fuck with your head.
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    Dec 12, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    If that's what you think "gay culture" is, then that is what gay culture will be --for you (and that guy, of course.) Whatever you focus on, you're just gonna get more of it....


    Regardless of what I 'think' it is..it is going to exist "as is" (just like buying a car) whether I want to think that way or not.

    There's no denying the fact that what goes on still goes on. Before there was me, before I even first took a dip into gay culture...it was going on. Therefore whether or not I think about it is irrelevant.

    It's real easy to sit back and criticize how someone meets people and then offer no alternatives except for 'real life'. Those same people online exist in real life...They play flag football, they play on volleyball teams, they go to meetup.com events. The game doesn't change simply because the venue changes.

    The only difference I've really found in meeting a guy from adam, ON adam versus meeting a guy in person in person FROM adam (unknowingly)...is although both guys probably want sex right away, the ones I've met in person has a higher chance of developing a greater connection.
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    Dec 12, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Thanks for the tips and advice!!!!

    You may have saved my relationship!

    You are a GEM!!!


    Well, I wasn't trying to be mean...I just think he deserves more of your attention than anyone here on RJ.

    During the times I hangout with my date (the one I've been seeing for nearly 4 months) I don't even bring my laptop with me. I have no interest in anything internet related because we're doing enough on our own (watching a movie, chatting, playing Wii) that there's no reason to come here.

    If it was capable for me to have a roommate rather than live alone, or if I'd live as a couple with someone, I'd be out of here in a heartbeat.
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    Dec 12, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
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    TheKrisPandemic saidThe fuck do you expect from a4a?


    TroyAthlete has been convincing me that I'll find something meaningful from there...


    False.

    What I said was that I once found something meaningful there. I also intimated that guys with open minds, guys without victim complexes, guys who realize that flaking is part of process, guys without chips on their shoulders, guys who have perspective and don't put everything in one basket, can find something meaningful from any number of places, a4a being just one of them.

    In fact, my thought process indicates that you will not find something meaningful there, because you do not fit the description: you are defensive, you repeat the same mistakes, you are guilty of dichotomous black/white either/or thinking, you have a victim complex, you have no perspective, you take things personally, and overall, you do not seem to be the type of person that will find something meaningful there.

    In fact, I doubt you will ever find anything meaningul anywhere: a4a, Grindr, ManHunt, church, bar, social club, sporting event, through friends, parties, sitting in the park, one-night stands, dates, setups or anywhere.

    Because the problem is you.

    Good luck though.
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    Dec 12, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
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    mochamuscle said
    TheKrisPandemic saidThe fuck do you expect from a4a?


    TroyAthlete has been convincing me that I'll find something meaningful from there...


    False.

    What I said was that I once found something meaningful there. I also intimated that guys with open minds, guys without victim complexes, guys who realize that flaking is part of process, guys without chips on their shoulders, guys who have perspective and don't put everything in one basket, can find something meaningful from any number of places, a4a being just one of them.

    In fact, my thought process indicates that you will not find something meaningful there, because you do not fit the description: you are defensive, you repeat the same mistakes, you are guilty of dichotomous black/white either/or thinking, you have a victim complex, you have no perspective, you take things personally, and overall, you do not seem to be the type of person that will find something meaningful there.

    In fact, I doubt you will ever find anything meaningul anywhere: a4a, Grindr, ManHunt, church, bar, social club, sporting event, through friends, parties, sitting in the park, one-night stands, dates, setups or anywhere.

    Because the problem is you.

    Good luck though.


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    Dec 12, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    mochamuscle said
    Cash said
    Thanks for the tips and advice!!!!

    You may have saved my relationship!

    You are a GEM!!!


    Well, I wasn't trying to be mean...I just think he deserves more of your attention than anyone here on RJ.

    During the times I hangout with my date (the one I've been seeing for nearly 4 months) I don't even bring my laptop with me. I have no interest in anything internet related because we're doing enough on our own (watching a movie, chatting, playing Wii) that there's no reason to come here.

    If it was capable for me to have a roommate rather than live alone, or if I'd live as a couple with someone, I'd be out of here in a heartbeat.


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    Dec 12, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
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    Cash said
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    Truth is, you probably owe mochamuscle the monetary equivalent of several sessions of a couples' counselor's time.


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