Bisexual/Straight/Gay or confused?

  • sonuus

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    Dec 11, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    I think i am bisexual man, I have been sleeping with girls and guys both.

    But every time I see porn movies or go to porn sites, I never look for girls, I only look for guys and it makes me horny and happy.

    Recently i have noticed that when ever I have sex with man, even getting fucked or getting blow job, I take really long time to arousal/erection or some times I just end up without cumming. But when ever I am with a girl I cum on time and get relieved and the girl even get satisfied.

    If there is a hot guy and girl walking, My first attention will go to a guy. then why I don't get satisfied with guys?
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    Dec 11, 2011 4:05 PM GMT



    ...and he's gone before he's even begun.
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    Dec 11, 2011 4:53 PM GMT
    you are bisexual...with strong inclination toward gay.your arousal/orgasmic problem is caused by your mental block.subconsciously,you are struggling with the attraction to men and women..therefore,your body is taking the "avoidance" route....without you even realizing it.....
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    Dec 11, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    meninlove said


    ...and he's gone before he's even begun.


    Lol, I had a similar thought! Maybe someone satisfied him? I bet is was a chick anyone wanna double dwnicon_lol.gificon_eek.gif
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    Dec 11, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    What we are attracted to in our fantasies, including porn, is not necessarily what we are really attracted to in real life. If you have ever seen the nancy Friday documentation of female masterbation fantasies, rape is a common turn on for women...but only as a fantasy and never in real life.
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    Dec 11, 2011 6:01 PM GMT
    I've got kind of the opposite problem. I get turned off by the sight of a penis. Don't get me wrong, I'm gay, but I prefer to see a man's back or if front facing love it when his legs and hips are in the air.

    No nasty remarks please!
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    Dec 11, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    I find myself being turned on by lots of girls lately icon_redface.gif
    Well, guys don't want me so maybe it's for the best icon_sad.gif

    ...maybe I'll just buy a huge ass truck, move to the suburbs, have a wife, 35 kids, and a big house with a driveway and a backyard icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 11, 2011 6:12 PM GMT
    Maybe you need a chick with a dick. icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 11, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    Or maybe it just has to do with who you have an emotional connection with.

    I have trouble getting off with random guys too even if I do find them attractive because I'm complicated.
  • sonuus

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    Dec 11, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    Do you think psychiatrist/ shrink would be able to help you?
  • JonPk

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    Dec 11, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    sonuus saidI think i am bisexual man, I have been sleeping with girls and guys both.

    But every time I see porn movies or go to porn sites, I never look for girls, I only look for guys and it makes me horny and happy.

    Recently i have noticed that when ever I have sex with man, even getting fucked or getting blow job, I take really long time to arousal/erection or some times I just end up without cumming. But when ever I am with a girl I cum on time and get relieved and the girl even get satisfied.

    If there is a hot guy and girl walking, My first attention will go to a guy. then why I don't get satisfied with guys?
    it sounds like you may be feeling some anxiety about having sex with men.
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    Dec 12, 2011 12:08 AM GMT
    Although the OP has left, the issue occurs to other guys as well - including me.

    I'll share my perspective on this...

    With women, when I've been aroused by them...the women have always had to warm up to having sex. So that meant getting them in the mood; foreplay; taking time in the bedroom before the actual moment of [penetrative] sex occurred. So, generally speaking, it was always a while to get to the "bedroom" phase.

    Contrast that with dealing with men...

    Most men don't need to have their emotional & psychological interests met before getting physical like most women do.

    There are some that do - I am in that category - but most men are very capable of compartmentalizing their sexual desires to consider having sex as "just sex" and nothing else.

    Consequently, you can have a situation where you meet a guy. Both of you are very attracted to one another, physically. And with men there's less resistance from starting with physical arousal to moving into the "bedroom" phase.

    If you've built up stamina dealing with women [due to women's bodies taking longer to get aroused than men]; getting used to this change can impact you sexually - as I've discovered firsthand.

    I now know that I need to have an emotional & spiritual attraction before being able to cum with a guy. Otherwise, it will just be sex as the OP described without ever releasing. Not all guys are wired like this; but some guys, like the OP and myself, are.

    One option to resolve this would be to develop the other connections with your lover; and take longer time in regards to foreplay and intimacy; then the likelihood of orgasm will increase significantly.

    That has been my observation, for what it's worth.

    This may help [or may not] with others that have experiences like the OP suggested.
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    Dec 31, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    The confusion of many bisexuals, first they think they are straight, then they want to be seen as gay once they are done with the wife and kids; over looking the fact they have never been either as they are bi.

    Being born a poofter, and growing up to be a Gold card gay, I have never ever sufferd any confusion relating to my sexuality, because it's so blood innate.
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    Dec 31, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidI've got kind of the opposite problem. I get turned off by the sight of a penis. Don't get me wrong, I'm gay, but I prefer to see a man's back or if front facing love it when his legs and hips are in the air.

    No nasty remarks please!


    I'm sure with all your class, you will need chandeliers to hold your legs up in the air.