Did you meet your (ex)boyfriend by chance or because you put yourself out there?

  • sbwlguy

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    Dec 12, 2011 10:57 PM GMT
    Just curious to know.
  • g_e01

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    Dec 12, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    Well I declared my love for my current boyfriend the day after I met him! so yeah I literary put myself out there, something I never do... Somehow we've been together 2 years already and putting myself out there is something I will never regret! We are planning to get married early next year!
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    Dec 13, 2011 12:47 AM GMT
    g_e01 saidWell I declared my love for my current boyfriend the day after I met him! so yeah I literary put myself out there, something I never do... Somehow we've been together 2 years already and putting myself out there is something I will never regret! We are planning to get married early next year!


    Aww! How special and cool icon_smile.gif So in your case 'just don't look for it' was not the way you found him icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 13, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    Always by chance, cos I put myself out there (in the real world).
    Never placed an order for a man or cast a spell to snare me one.

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    Dec 13, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    actually through a local online dating site is were i met my first and last boyfriend....we broke up after 3 months..only person i ever slept with...i was virgin before him...broke my heart because he was a severe diabetic who would not take his insulin...i left because he is killing himself slowly............
  • buckled

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    Dec 13, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    I met him by chance... he was actually my manager at the time. I always suspected he was gay but I never knew for sure until about 4 months after working with him I ran into him at a bar. After that I was extremely persistent.. and we ended up dating for a while.

    My most recent ex.. met him on POF. Great guy.. not for me
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    Dec 13, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    What if you've never had a BF? What is a BF anyway? icon_cry.gif
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    Dec 13, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    CHIdude saidWhat if you've never had a BF? What is a BF anyway? icon_cry.gif


    Then you fail.

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    <3
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    Dec 13, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    CHIdude saidWhat if you've never had a BF? What is a BF anyway? icon_cry.gif



    aww,man that's sad...nice guy like you deserves a good BF...
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    Dec 13, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    I met both my ex-boyfriend and current boyfriend on match.com so I guess I put myself out there. The first time I was more timid and didn't even upload a photo or anything and neither did my ex-boyfriend. The second time, I posted several photos and was more authentic. I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year now. Both guys have been my only relationships so far.
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    Dec 13, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    I met my ex of 11 years by chance and haven't seriously dated anyone since. We were college roommates, randomly assigned. I've put myself out there but I have a feeling I'll just find my next serious guy by luck, fate or happenstance. Probably not by Grindr but I try anyway!
  • Lawrencium

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    Dec 13, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    I met my ex online about 18 months ago....just sent a message that said "so friggin cute" and we started talking for like three months and never planned on really meeting. Then, one day , by chance, we ran into each other at an amusement park like half way between each of our respective cities. Few weeks later, he dropped the L-Word (not the lesbian DVD collection).

    The rest is history....literally....we just broke up lol
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    Dec 13, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    Met my ex on this site... I guess I put myself out there... I used to go to the chat room a lot and we just started im each other... 2 weeks later we went on a date and we lasted 5 1/2 months... So here I am again seeing if my next one will be here icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 13, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    Blame it on the alcohol...
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    Dec 13, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    My ex I met on Adam4Adam... in sort of an accidental way since I assumed he had been blowing me off for a long time, so I shrugged and thought he was another A4A douche. Then he invites me to lunch randomly one day and I'd been cancelled on by someone else so I went along, glad to have a free lunch, even if the guy ended up being a douche... But he wasn't at all what I expected, and I could feel myself craving his presence even then...

    ... long story short, I've never loved anyone like I loved him icon_smile.gif.
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    Dec 13, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    Accident I guess, he was 18 and I told him he shouldn't be on a place like this (manhunt) and basically we started talking from there. I didn't expect it to turn into anything, but somehow it did ?.?
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 13, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    I am still waiting on mind
  • vintovka

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    Dec 13, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    My ex was the roommate of a guy I tattooed and we met at my work first, but then I kept running into him around town. He actually pursued me, because I'm too reserved in those situations usually and I was hesitant to get involved with him because he was younger (by 17 years), but we had three good years together and then he got restless, which honestly I had been expecting, but it was still pretty devastating. We're still friends though, and I'm still friendly with his family, so it's all good in the end.
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    Dec 13, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    I met my ex at a pool party. Funny how I attract more attention at these pool parties rather than in any other avenue..
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    Dec 13, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    I met my ex online. I guess you could consider that "putting myself out there." It wasn't easy for a private, lone-wolf type like me to put up a profile and pictures to meet other guys. We broke up, but we're still close friends.
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    Dec 13, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Meeting the ex was totally by chance. I decided to go out after having gone to bed. He was a flight attendant who pulled an Atlanta flight from Z├╝rich as reserve duty. We met in a bar and remained together for five years. Surprisingly, we were together a third to half of each month due to his flight privileges and me sometimes working in Europe.

    I've been waiting a long time for the next coincidence that doesn't seem to be coming.
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    Dec 13, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    My two longest BF relationships started with me approaching them. One was at a gay bar, another to whom I wrote a letter after I read an article about him in a local paper, my gaydar telling me he was gay based on his pic and the article contents.

    My late partner and I met online, and he was kinda the initiator, but I was eager, too. I likewise met my current partner online, I invited him to IM, but I think he suggested we meet in person.
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    Dec 13, 2011 4:22 AM GMT
    CHIdude saidWhat if you've never had a BF? What is a BF anyway? icon_cry.gif


    same here bro icon_sad.gif hugs
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    Dec 13, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    I'm with everyone on this one... The closest thing I had to a relationship was with a guy I approached... Who was working on a cruise ship...

    you see why it didn't work out.
  • rioriz

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    Dec 13, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    It was mutual really but all other ones have been me approaching!