Making a long distance relationship work...

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    Dec 13, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    Ok gays...

    My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and we have been living together for the past year. Despite a few differences (I like to bodybuild he likes nothing in fitness), our relationship is strong.

    Now though, I got a job in Las Vegas and it is a much better job and career opportunity then I ever could have in LA. His job and career is in hollywood and he doesn't want to leave.

    I took the job and just moved out to vegas this week and just want to know how you have kept your long distance relationship going (or what went wrong that made you end it)?

    I already (plan) on returning to LA as often as possible...my job gives me 3 and 4 days off at a time...but what else?
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    Dec 13, 2011 7:05 AM GMT
    I'm not gonna lie dude, it's not easy. I did a 70 mile long distance relationship for 5.5 years. We were dedicated to making it work so we racked up the miles on our cars, and that's what you're gonna need to do.

    Ultimately he broke my heart, but that's another story....
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    Dec 13, 2011 11:54 AM GMT
    I was in a long distance relationship for almost three years.

    At first, he was in Long Island NY and I was in Augusta GA, but after a couple months I transferred to Bahrain and shortly thereafter he transferred to Beaufort SC. We spent the next year that way, speaking/Skyping once a day or as close to it as possible. We met each other in Paris for four days in the spring and we traveled through Spain for 10 days later that summer.

    When I transferred back to GA we saw each other every weekend (alternating who drove) and the occasional mid-week surprise visit.

    It wasnt easy at all, but in the end all it takes is effort, patience, and the ability to trust the other person. Good luck.
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    Dec 13, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    My bf and I were long distance (over 800 miles) for almost the first year of our relationship. I had been single for long enough to not want to let distance get in the way of a good thing. And we made it work by seeing each other almost every month even if it was only weekends. He moved back after that year apart and we just made our 3 year anniversary. Its difficult but if the person's worth it then there's always a way of making it work.
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    Dec 13, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    Long-distance relationships can and do work, but only if the people involved take each other and the relationship very seriously. Constant communication is key. The adage "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is a bunch of bullshit created by someone who couldn't have been within 1000 lightyears of a long distance relationship. Complacency is the long-distance relationship's worst enemy.
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    Dec 13, 2011 9:02 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidLong-distance relationships can and do work, but only if the people involved take each other and the relationship very seriously. Constant communication is key. The adage "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is a bunch of bullshit created by someone who couldn't have been within 1000 lightyears of a long distance relationship. Complacency is the long-distance relationship's worst enemy.


    Yeah I totally agree with this, I did one for a few years and constant communication is key, even if you just speak on the phone every night. You have to make a real effort to see them as much as possible also at any chance you get.
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    Dec 13, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    My long distance relationship worked I think because communication was effortless. Our life's circumstances kept us geographically apart but we spoke, emailed, im'd and chatroomed (often simultaneously) for most of the day and probably every single day for years, visiting in person as time & situations allowed. We might have been separated physically but there was nobody else in either of our lives who we spent more time with or shared more intimacy.

    If you are compatible with someone and it isn't just sexual, distance means nothing.