Is bottoming supposed to feel good?

  • josh995

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    Dec 13, 2011 10:17 AM GMT
    I like the idea of being the bottom, but when a guy is fucking me, there is no pleasure...it just feels like i'm taking a shit. Doesn't hurt either, just feels like i'm shitting!!

    I haven't been fucked that much either. Am I missing anything?
  • rnch

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    Dec 13, 2011 11:31 AM GMT
    eh----sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't.......
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    Dec 13, 2011 1:10 PM GMT
    Use a bigger dildo.
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    Dec 13, 2011 2:01 PM GMT
    I have a suggestion for you, if you don't like bottoming (I don't) then maybe you should not do it. WOW. I know, wild concept.
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    Dec 13, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    You probably just need more practice... here: lemme help icon_twisted.gif
  • Hothouse

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    Dec 13, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    Relaxation is key - you have to be comfortable and relaxed to enjoy the feeling of a cock in your ass. If you tense up your ass muscles it won't feel as pleasureable. It is true that the more you get fucked, the better it will feel over time, but then again, some guys just don't enjoy the bottom role that much.
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    Dec 13, 2011 4:11 PM GMT
    Hothouse saidRelaxation is key - you have to be comfortable and relaxed to enjoy the feeling of a cock in your ass. If you tense up your ass muscles it won't feel as pleasureable. It is true that the more you get fucked, the better it will feel over time, but then again, some guys just don't enjoy the bottom role that much.

    Agree. Plus the role of lube should not be underplayed.

    Some guys simply don't have a prostate that reacts pleasurably to stimulation. That's the way I was built myself, and not a lot I can do to change that. Other guys go wild from the touch. That individual variation is normal, and a guy needs to work with what he's been given.

    So maybe you're mainly a top, and like me, can still bottom when a guy really wants that, but it's not your first choice. And while it doesn't hurt, neither is it especially pleasurable physically, except in a psychological sense, to be pleasing this guy, and to think about what he's doing with you.
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    Dec 13, 2011 10:29 PM GMT
    call me, I can help icon_smile.gif
  • swimbikerun

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    Dec 13, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    Like many others I'd suggest calling for help.
    Call your friends, let them know.
    They can lend a hand.
    Some even enjoy helping by hearing about stories or watching them in video format.
    Some just like to watch.
  • josh995

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    Dec 14, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    Thanks for the offers but you're all too far, lol.

    Anyway, I haven't been fucked that much so i'll take the advice and practice. icon_lol.gif
  • Nizzo

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    Dec 14, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    It's not suppose to feel good... Try fucking awesome.
  • jackthejock

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    Dec 14, 2011 6:26 PM GMT
    I think it is important to find the position you like best, all of our bodies are different and what feels awesome to one guy might not feel so great to another. Also you "like the idea" of bottoming, so my guess is you probably like to watch porn of guys getting fucked, just remember that stuff is all staged and just because it looks like something that you'd want to do doesn't mean that position is going to work for you in reality. Have your guy lay down and then you sit on his cock, that way you have more control of how things go
  • Suetonius

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    Dec 14, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    josh995 saidAnyway, I haven't been fucked that much so i'll take the advice and practice. icon_lol.gif

    Actually, consider buying a vibrator - those things lesbians use to get off on - lube well, and try various moves with it to see if you can get your prostate really aroused. Figure out where it is, and maybe letting some guy massage it with his dick will work better. Or you may just become addicted to the vibrator, and we'll never see you again.
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    Dec 15, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    No no... bottoming is a miserable practice... Millions of guys around the world just do it because they hate themselves...
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    Dec 15, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    BaltBttm saidNo no... bottoming is a miserable practice... Millions of guys around the world just do it because they hate themselves...


    Hell no.
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    Dec 15, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    josh995 saidThanks for the offers but you're all too far, lol.

    Anyway, I haven't been fucked that much so i'll take the advice and practice. icon_lol.gif
    Well as picky and condescending as you are its no wonder! icon_wink.gif
  • kew1

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    Dec 15, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    Suetonius said
    josh995 saidAnyway, I haven't been fucked that much so i'll take the advice and practice. icon_lol.gif

    Actually, consider buying a vibrator - those things lesbians use to get off on - lube well, and try various moves with it to see if you can get your prostate really aroused. Figure out where it is, and maybe letting some guy massage it with his dick will work better. Or you may just become addicted to the vibrator, and we'll never see you again.


    Just be careful you don't lose it up there.
    (I was cleaning the room naked & sat on it. Yeah, right, ER's heard it all beforeicon_biggrin.gif )
  • ohioguy12

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    Dec 16, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    josh995 saidI like the idea of being the bottom, but when a guy is fucking me, there is no pleasure...it just feels like i'm taking a shit. Doesn't hurt either, just feels like i'm shitting!!

    I haven't been fucked that much either. Am I missing anything?


    Funny that you mentioned this, to tell you the truth, I saw this great looking Brazilian guy, he was so hot, and I wanted to sleep with him no matter what. He really wanted me to bottom for him, so I did it for the first time ever, and I agree, there was no pleasure, and I felt like I was gonna shit on him. So I know exactly what you mean.
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    Dec 18, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    It feels good when I bottom.
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    Dec 19, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidI have a suggestion for you, if you don't like bottoming (I don't) then maybe you should not do it. WOW. I know, wild concept.


    Common sense for the win.

    If you don't like it, don't do it. It's like smoking just to fit in with everyone else who does.